Special Girl How to test if a girl is genuine

[Kshatrap A.V.]

This girl i have been talking to since July I met in class is very intrivert and anxious in general.

And tbh... I have gone on one date with her last week. And in her own words, she duesnt have any prior experience with men cuz she is scared of them cuz she has heard all these stories of how men use women to get laid.

She is only 20. And is from strict family in her own words.

Now she only comes to class twice or thrice a week and i am also seeing other girls and doing game and I dint really text her everyday. ( I got her number last Monday only as she wasn't comfortable before)

But the situation is that she never used to talk to anyone in class since she sme in March... Only started talking to other girls openly after 2 months of joining and only talks with me and no other guy. And that's cuz of my pre-selection.

She only stated talking to me cuz I was good friends with her friend.

But tbh... We have caressed and touched each other last week and on Monday... She was being very apprehensive like she is scared and duesnt want to go into a difficult situation with me and not want to cross boundary cuz she is afraid of getting hurt.

But when I took her on call and told her my world view and his I see life and didn't promise her anything in long term which has kind of wanted with me. She started telling me about kissing me and what not.

Tbh... The way she has shown affection has been too good to be true especially since last few weeks and i feel a bit doubtful of get intentions. I won't lie.

I mean I do like her but I have never had a girl being so into me and even though there have been lot of shit tests that she threw at me but I somehow pushed last them.cuz I had no need to get her specifically as I was living a slightly abundant life... Atleast not in sex but in meeting women.

And like how she has been complimenting a lot since past few weeks. Idk it's just never happened before.


I feel happy but i want to be sure if her intentions.

I don't really think that she is scamming me or pretending to be something she is not as I don't really give her lot of attention everyday. It's like twice a week or generally once a week at max.

While she was talking to me that she sees LTR with me.

Which I denied in a way which got her further attracted a d she said I atleast tell her if i ever lose interest in her rather than blocking her.



Tbh.... I just want to know that how do you test a girls sincerity? Cuz o viously i won't jump into relationship with her just now...

But like is she being honest with me about being this innocent introvert sweet girl who doesn't have experience or am I being played or maybe bring lied to for whatever reasons. I am not really rich and she never asked for my money and not even if I offered her a chocolate.

Tbh I am also pretty close to laying her in this week or next. Cuz in Monday she herself said thrice that she wanted to kiss me.


Tldr: help me in gauging her sincerity cuz i still can't believe when girls acts lovey dovey.

 

[gameboy]

Don't hurt girls. If you are going to sleep with her, make sure she understands upfront that it's not going to be anything serious.

As for her scamming you: Doesn't sound like it to me. Why would she? It almost sounds like you might be projecting a little bit here.

 

[TimeMachineDAD]

Nobody can tell you what to do, but perhaps thse options could help you think:

1. Think this case just as one adventure that life has given you. Process trough same pipeline as rest of the girls, see what she can offer to you and based on that decide what to do with her.

2. Test her sincerity; start the long courting process "gentleman style", drop other chicks and start being and acting needy with her. See what happens.

3. Consider the option that she might be sincere on what she is saying and her emotions in the moment could be sincere. Then go into deep adventure into your own mind to figure out why this pulls you heartstrings. When you have that figured out think in extremely analytical manner what being with a girl who's core belief is that men are bad and only wan't to use her for sex, would be like. Would that be a positive relationship where you would be really happy?

I totally understand that the behavior you describe can evoke powerful feelings, especially from certain type of men, but I smell certain kind of paradox here. Based on what you say, you could feel quite bad if you pumped&dumped and broke her heart. But on the other hand seducing her and ending in ltr would be quite a big decision too.

 

[Kshatrap A.V.]

Don't hurt girls. If you are going to sleep with her, make sure she understands upfront that it's not going to be anything serious.

As for her scamming you: esn't sound like it to me. Why would she? It almost sounds like you might be projecting a little bit here.

Thabks.

I already made clear to her about life philosophy and why i can't just promise her anything yet cuz of so and so reasons.. and it was after that she started being more sexual like talking about kissing me


And tbh... Actually i believe that I don't know but i feel like this is the first time a girl from social circle ever gave me this much compliance and everything...

So I do believe that I may be projecting

 

[Kshatrap A.V.]

Ye

Nobody can tell you what to do, but perhaps thse options could help you think:

1. Think this case just as one adventure that life has given you. Process trough same pipeline as rest of the girls, see what she can offer to you and based on that decide what to do with her.

2. Test her sincerity; start the long courting process "gentleman style", drop other chicks and start being and acting needy with her. See what happens.

3. Consider the option that she might be sincere on what she is saying and her emotions in the moment could be sincere. Then go into deep adventure into your own mind to figure out why this pulls you heartstrings. When you have that figured out think in extremely analytical manner what being with a girl who's core belief is that men are bad and only wan't to use her for sex, would be like. Would that be a positive relationship where you would be really happy?

Yeah. I understand


Tbh... First option is best option.

It's only cuz i dint talk to her everyday and she has seen my pre-selection and felt it cuz I am very chill and don't really need her. And have even told her explicitly that if she finds me not upto what she wants she can leave me anytime.


Ok. Maybe i am bit angry rn but it's cuz a so called friend accused her of being a pretense or a sex worker without any proof but only some story like his friend told him that some guy was talking to her.

I got really pissed and I tbh am really angry at that guy.

And yesterday he has recommended me to go to this motel egich was near our class and today evening he told me that it was a spa centre. Thank God. She didn't come today as if i had taken her to that motel ..... What the fuck would have happened.

 

[Jamster]

I'm currently in a similar situation.

A woman I haven't seen since pre-covid but talk on the phone to, called me up for dinner "like right now!" I went and got really handsy with her. She paid.

She's age-appropriate, but still attractive . (Given I'm in my 70's, that's remarkable!) She has a good face, enticing movement, and huge boobs. Until we met this time, I thought they might be silicone bags - she has always used industrial-strength bras and I haven't gotten to do the touch test. But she had a lovely silk blouse and no bra, It showed the natural sag that comes with double D's and flopped open enough to say "looks real." Also remarkable for an old lady - usually after menopause, large breasts detract from their looks.

She has some lung issue, so has remained isolated since covid.

She's always been light on biographical details, but apparently she's very prosperous, maybe rich, (I haven't actually seen the Porsche...) and worked in a nationally known feeder theater company (many Emmys and a few Oscars from alumni) long ago. I guessing that 50 years ago, when she was getting out of high school, her looks were "put the phasers on 'stun,' Scotty!"

I'm thinking that she called now because she HAD a man and he's gone now, or because last week when talked on the phone until I bailed, at the end I mentioned the possibility of sexting.

She grew up in my neighborhood. I've met her HS friend.

Still, I worry a bit about scammers - I'm at the prime age for victimhood. Until recently there weren't many outward signs that I'm prosperous (I ride a damned bicycle).

I also worry about an "organizer" I might want to hire. She charge's <$60 an hour, when her education claims would, if true, indicate income potential of about $200K. She drives a new-looking European high-end SUV. Inconsistent with piecework. I'm thinking there might be a man involved and he's sugary? She might be a slick scammer.

I might need to get a lock-box for all my financial stuff before letting her muck about my new condo-with-a-pool, which - unlike my bicycle - is some indication of wealth.

I have very little experience with indications of wealth, with one exception. When I went to Paris, I found that women would ask, "what's sending you to Paris?" When I answered, "Work is sending me," their posture invariably would instantly straighten, their eyes widen, and their breasts would protrude more.

I'm starting to think the combination of high-end condo and utility biking may be shockingly incongruent.

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[gameboy]

industrial-strength bras

rofl

Edit: Oops, forgot that you don't like acronyms .. that's for "rolling over the floor laughing"!

 

[Jamster]

i feel like this is the first time a girl from social circle ever gave me this much compliance and everything...

When I started cold approaching - middle of last century - the biggest change was what I started to see in my social circle. My new awareness, and being a touch more sexually charged, made a night-and-day difference. Maybe you are starting to see that.

Ok. Maybe i am bit angry rn but it's cuz a so called friend accused her of being a pretense or a sex worker without any proof but only some story like his friend told him that some guy was talking to her.

I got really pissed and I tbh am really angry at that guy.

Don't get angry - or at least don't show anger. When you start having success with women, other guys, even old friends, will try to pull your strings. Don't let them.

But you might want to discretely check on the information. Also decide - if she's a pro, but not looking for money from you? You might want her anyhow (she'd have some skills.) . And you WILL want to use condoms.

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[gameboy]

very intrivert and anxious in general.

If she were a scammer she wouldnt be like that at all

 

[Kshatrap A.V.]

Don't get angry - or at least don't show anger. When you start having success with women, other guys, even old friends, will try to pull your strings. Don't let them.

But you might want to discretely check on the information. Also decide - if she's a pro, but not looking for money from you? You might want her anyhow (she'd have some skills.) . And you WILL want to use condoms

I dint really believe her to be a pro... But more like someone who didn't get chance to live herlife properly cuz of whatever her family situation is.

Not a saviour but I can empathise with her.

Tbh I am pissed at my friend cuz he showed me his true colors. Couldn't really digest the fact that I have such a girl showing me infatuation.

And initially he was happy when I showed her the pic and told him how well i sm being treated but when I told him that women no matter how pure on surface may have guys in sufe and hoe he should not believe this 26 year old girl who has been traveling around that she isn't interested in sex and romance. And she only told him cuz this bastard adress women as sisters and then think about them sexually.

And tbh just after i said this. He went into character assassination of this introvert.

Tbh... I am not ready for ltr rn. I told introvert that and even defended ethical non monogamy if womsn is not hurt and rejected... As she has been repeating her fear of being used for sex and discarded.... Getting left for someone else.

Hell! She even deleted all her WhatsApp messages last week when we texted back firth some fun and sexy stuff and I didn't text her for a day.

And then what happened today with this friend... I just ended my friendship with him. And was so much emotionally charged but rather than texting introvert ... I decided to call my wing... And decided to relax. And realised that I have this weakness of getting angry easily which I need to remove cuz .... These kind of bastards will be there even when I am old and having some wife and kids.

Now realised my mother's warning for not trusting rumours and why they destroy families.

 

[Kshatrap A.V.]

If she were a scammer she wouldnt be like that at all

I mean it literally took her a couple of months just to open up with a few girls. She opened up to me after 4 months while I was building ore selection there and chatting with her friends and ignoring her

And i have even seen her getting hyper anxious and scared when a girl has asked her to shift to the side. I felt pity for her at that time... Cuz of my own past with anxiety.

 

[Kshatrap A.V.]

Actually it's such a unique case in my life... I regret not journaling it on the forum.

Actually today , one of my old sets had asked me to meet but at the same time when i and introvert had decided to. And cuz that set wanted to meet at a place nearly 1.5 hours away and i can't travel much rn due to busy schedule. So, I decided to postpone and funnily enough introvert didn't come to class either.

But thank God she did t come as i would have ended up taking her to a spa centre unknowingly completely fucking up everything.