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I am posting this here rather than in the "General" section as my profile is limited. Since my breakup last summer, I have approached 2000, maybe more, women on the streets of London. I haven't been laid once. I had some dates that I screwed up, that I wrote about back in Oct-Dec time. Since December I had nothing at all. I approached 1000 since then. No dates. A handful of flaky numbers that went nowhere.
In the last couple of weeks, I have approached maybe 300 women. None were interested. I've been out on the streets for like 15 hours per week, come rain or shine. Perhaps it's not surprising , given that in central London it's like a stampede of people coming at you. They simply don't even notice you most of the time until you are in their face. I think that's the main issue here: London is just too busy, too chaotic, too big, women have too many options, no-one gives a fuck.
The closest I came to success is, you've guessed it, with American girls. I wrote about this before, they appear to be much more at ease and comfortable talking to strangers than women from other countries / local women here. I encountered several american girls in last 2 months; 2 of them were clearly up for meeting and fucking, but logistics / circumstances got in the way: they were here literally for 2 days before flying back to USA. I didn't end up meeting either of them for date.
It took me several years and multiple thousands of approaches to find my ex. I don't know how many women I approached in my lifetime since I started doing this in 2009, but the number of approaches are astronomical. And for what? For measly 40-50 lays. I seriously believe that I am probably the most rejected man in history of pua forums.
Before anyone writes some shit here about looks, fashion, or vibe, I reiterate some facts about myself:
1) I am white
2) I am 6 foot 3
3) Apparently I look like Ryan Gosling
4) I am very fit (I always lifted weights and did ashtanga yoga, but I am not jacked, I look like a tall slim fit guy in clothes as I have a naturally thin body frame)
5) My fashion and style is on point, I regularly get compliments on how great I look from random men and women
6) I am well read, I have a top tier education: I have a PhD in a hardcore STEM field. Most people are very impressed to hear my academic background, qualifications, work experience.
7) People I meet generally usually comment how cool, approachable and enthusiastic / friendly / interesting I am
Some downsides however:
1) I am white but not originally British. I am associated with other 2 countries that I won't name here. I have a thick strange foreign accent and diction. This means some women I approach are immediately thrown off by the way I sound when I speak - if this affects my results, I don't know.
Edit: thinking about it, it does seem to me that at least some women are thrown off initially by my weird accent and this leads to an air of "scepticism" about me, although this is usually overridden by my fashion, looks and style...
2) People have guessed all sorts of things about my ethnicity / nationality: France, Germany, Italy, Belgium, Israel, Poland, Russia, Kazakhstan, the list goes on. If this helps or hinders - I don't know.
2) My hairline is receding and I have some greying hair. I try to disguise this as much as possible though, so it's not very visible at all.
3) I am slim (as per above, I lift and I am very fit, but naturally I have a thin frame). For my height, I don't look "big".
4) I am not the quickest thinker. I am pretty eloquent, but I am not a natural flirt or the wittiest conversationalist.
5) I am more of an introvert. I dislike crowds, I like being out in nature. I only go to crowded areas to try to pick up women, otherwise I wouldn't be there. Places like busy shopping streets are not my idea of fun, but I go there because again, I need to meet women somehow...
6) I have shitty logistics. I live in London, but on the outskirts: it's around 1 hour commute from central areas.
7) I don't have instagram or use social media in general
How I approach: I tend to vary, but most of my approaches are very direct, with the intention to progress the interaction towards a hook up fast, rather than drawn out multiple dates. That's the only style that actually got me a measly few lays in the last 8 or so years - same day instadate pulls to a hotel / her place or meetings at a hotel / hers / mine on a first "date" if instadate was not possible. Anything more drawn out - women either flake or something else comes up and we never end up meeting again.
My approaches are usually very shotgun style. I hate "gaming". It doesn't work for me. I like being upfront and getting to the heart of the matter. What I say upon approach: usually, it's a variation of a direct basic simple complement (like "Hi, you look great") and then either an immediate question or offer to get together intimately, for example:
1) "Let's get together"
2) "Let's get together for a night of pleasure"
3) "Would you like to have a drink at my place?"
4) "Are you seeing anyone / are you single?"
These are the openers I've been flogging thousands upon thousands of times over the years. 99.9% of women either say "I can't", "I have a boyfriend", or "I am not interested..." The other 0.01% I get laid. Many women who say they have a boyfriend - I am inclined to believe them, many of them even get their phone out and show a picture of him...
You might ask, why don't I try to have a longer conversation with them before proposing a date? My answer: yes, sometimes I do. Sometimes my openers are totally spontaneous, original, situational, you name it...It depends on the situation, and if I spot something unique about her immediately so that I don't need to fall back on the generic "you look great" phrase. The problem is
1) 90% of women dress like clones of each other. Especially young women. Same shitty baggy jeans and nondescript shirt or jacket. Like mass produced copies of each other. There is nothing unique to me about the way they dress or carry themselves. So the only criteria for me is that they look fuckable.
2) After trialling it thousands of times, these longer more interesting conversations still end up 99% of the time with them saying how sweet and nice of me it was to approach them, but alas they have a boyfriend. So I'd rather hear them say this 20 seconds after my approach rather than 5 minutes after my approach. Women seem to make up their mind about me in seconds, no matter what the subject of the conversation is...
I can't do this anymore. I am incredibly starved for sex and intimacy. I need to find a find a normal, young, slim, attractive white girl to fuck regularly. (and no, I am not into asians, middle easterners or black women). I need a normal girlfriend. The prospect of yet another lonely summer is not what I want to face. I've been lonely most of my life. Surely it can't be that hard to find a normal young ish attractive white girl who I have good chemistry with, in a city of 8 million people?
Tldr: tall decent looking white guy, been doing multiple thousands of approaches, can't get anything from them to save his life. Please help me GET LAID ASAP, and secondly, find a normal gf. Life passes me by. I am sick of being alone and not being able to find a suitable life partner.
To add some notes:
1) I seem to do much better with daygame, and in general, when I am back in my original country of birth.
2) I do much better with women in UK in smaller cities like Brighton and Bristol
3) Most women who seem to respond well to me come from either cultures where people are direct and more blunt (eastern europe), or warmer cultures (like Italy) or more open talkative cultures (USA). Not surprising that majority of women I fucked came from those places.
2) When I was in my country of birth last time in 2018, I matched with virtually every single woman on Tinder I swiped on. And this is the country where women are in general much better looking than a typical woman in UK. When back in London, my Tinder matches dropped hugely.
3) When testing Tinder in other UK cities back in the day, same pattern: I got matches with better looking, younger women than London
So to sum this up: I am like a male 9 in my country of origin, drop down to 7 in an average UK city, and the drop down to like a 4 (invisible to women) in London....
In the last couple of weeks, I have approached maybe 300 women. None were interested. I've been out on the streets for like 15 hours per week, come rain or shine. Perhaps it's not surprising , given that in central London it's like a stampede of people coming at you. They simply don't even notice you most of the time until you are in their face. I think that's the main issue here: London is just too busy, too chaotic, too big, women have too many options, no-one gives a fuck.
The closest I came to success is, you've guessed it, with American girls. I wrote about this before, they appear to be much more at ease and comfortable talking to strangers than women from other countries / local women here. I encountered several american girls in last 2 months; 2 of them were clearly up for meeting and fucking, but logistics / circumstances got in the way: they were here literally for 2 days before flying back to USA. I didn't end up meeting either of them for date.
It took me several years and multiple thousands of approaches to find my ex. I don't know how many women I approached in my lifetime since I started doing this in 2009, but the number of approaches are astronomical. And for what? For measly 40-50 lays. I seriously believe that I am probably the most rejected man in history of pua forums.
Before anyone writes some shit here about looks, fashion, or vibe, I reiterate some facts about myself:
1) I am white
2) I am 6 foot 3
3) Apparently I look like Ryan Gosling
4) I am very fit (I always lifted weights and did ashtanga yoga, but I am not jacked, I look like a tall slim fit guy in clothes as I have a naturally thin body frame)
5) My fashion and style is on point, I regularly get compliments on how great I look from random men and women
6) I am well read, I have a top tier education: I have a PhD in a hardcore STEM field. Most people are very impressed to hear my academic background, qualifications, work experience.
7) People I meet generally usually comment how cool, approachable and enthusiastic / friendly / interesting I am
Some downsides however:
1) I am white but not originally British. I am associated with other 2 countries that I won't name here. I have a thick strange foreign accent and diction. This means some women I approach are immediately thrown off by the way I sound when I speak - if this affects my results, I don't know.
Edit: thinking about it, it does seem to me that at least some women are thrown off initially by my weird accent and this leads to an air of "scepticism" about me, although this is usually overridden by my fashion, looks and style...
2) People have guessed all sorts of things about my ethnicity / nationality: France, Germany, Italy, Belgium, Israel, Poland, Russia, Kazakhstan, the list goes on. If this helps or hinders - I don't know.
2) My hairline is receding and I have some greying hair. I try to disguise this as much as possible though, so it's not very visible at all.
3) I am slim (as per above, I lift and I am very fit, but naturally I have a thin frame). For my height, I don't look "big".
4) I am not the quickest thinker. I am pretty eloquent, but I am not a natural flirt or the wittiest conversationalist.
5) I am more of an introvert. I dislike crowds, I like being out in nature. I only go to crowded areas to try to pick up women, otherwise I wouldn't be there. Places like busy shopping streets are not my idea of fun, but I go there because again, I need to meet women somehow...
6) I have shitty logistics. I live in London, but on the outskirts: it's around 1 hour commute from central areas.
7) I don't have instagram or use social media in general
How I approach: I tend to vary, but most of my approaches are very direct, with the intention to progress the interaction towards a hook up fast, rather than drawn out multiple dates. That's the only style that actually got me a measly few lays in the last 8 or so years - same day instadate pulls to a hotel / her place or meetings at a hotel / hers / mine on a first "date" if instadate was not possible. Anything more drawn out - women either flake or something else comes up and we never end up meeting again.
My approaches are usually very shotgun style. I hate "gaming". It doesn't work for me. I like being upfront and getting to the heart of the matter. What I say upon approach: usually, it's a variation of a direct basic simple complement (like "Hi, you look great") and then either an immediate question or offer to get together intimately, for example:
1) "Let's get together"
2) "Let's get together for a night of pleasure"
3) "Would you like to have a drink at my place?"
4) "Are you seeing anyone / are you single?"
These are the openers I've been flogging thousands upon thousands of times over the years. 99.9% of women either say "I can't", "I have a boyfriend", or "I am not interested..." The other 0.01% I get laid. Many women who say they have a boyfriend - I am inclined to believe them, many of them even get their phone out and show a picture of him...
You might ask, why don't I try to have a longer conversation with them before proposing a date? My answer: yes, sometimes I do. Sometimes my openers are totally spontaneous, original, situational, you name it...It depends on the situation, and if I spot something unique about her immediately so that I don't need to fall back on the generic "you look great" phrase. The problem is
1) 90% of women dress like clones of each other. Especially young women. Same shitty baggy jeans and nondescript shirt or jacket. Like mass produced copies of each other. There is nothing unique to me about the way they dress or carry themselves. So the only criteria for me is that they look fuckable.
2) After trialling it thousands of times, these longer more interesting conversations still end up 99% of the time with them saying how sweet and nice of me it was to approach them, but alas they have a boyfriend. So I'd rather hear them say this 20 seconds after my approach rather than 5 minutes after my approach. Women seem to make up their mind about me in seconds, no matter what the subject of the conversation is...
I can't do this anymore. I am incredibly starved for sex and intimacy. I need to find a find a normal, young, slim, attractive white girl to fuck regularly. (and no, I am not into asians, middle easterners or black women). I need a normal girlfriend. The prospect of yet another lonely summer is not what I want to face. I've been lonely most of my life. Surely it can't be that hard to find a normal young ish attractive white girl who I have good chemistry with, in a city of 8 million people?
Tldr: tall decent looking white guy, been doing multiple thousands of approaches, can't get anything from them to save his life. Please help me GET LAID ASAP, and secondly, find a normal gf. Life passes me by. I am sick of being alone and not being able to find a suitable life partner.
To add some notes:
1) I seem to do much better with daygame, and in general, when I am back in my original country of birth.
2) I do much better with women in UK in smaller cities like Brighton and Bristol
3) Most women who seem to respond well to me come from either cultures where people are direct and more blunt (eastern europe), or warmer cultures (like Italy) or more open talkative cultures (USA). Not surprising that majority of women I fucked came from those places.
2) When I was in my country of birth last time in 2018, I matched with virtually every single woman on Tinder I swiped on. And this is the country where women are in general much better looking than a typical woman in UK. When back in London, my Tinder matches dropped hugely.
3) When testing Tinder in other UK cities back in the day, same pattern: I got matches with better looking, younger women than London
So to sum this up: I am like a male 9 in my country of origin, drop down to 7 in an average UK city, and the drop down to like a 4 (invisible to women) in London....
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