"I decided to not sleep with guys I'm not dating" sex resistance excuse.

[razir110]

So I just had this situation.

I made outwith a girl that was visiting a friend from my group of friends. We went out, all of us, twice

First night nothing happened, second night I noticed she was really into me, so I tried to delay kissing her to not do it in front of everyone and try to take her home first, but then saw it was difficult to pull off since she wouldn't just leave her friends she was visiting and I went for the kiss. So we made out the whole night in this bar kinda in front of all her friends and then of course I tried to take her home.

So yes, two problems here: 1 she is in front of her friends, so maybe she doesn't want to be seen as a slut (her girlfriends were quite positive on us sleeping actually, I heard some comments). 2: I kissed her before she was in my place, but this time it was impossible to avoid.

She told me that she slept with many guys in the past and that she will only sleep with a guy she is dating. I tried to overcome the resistance, couldn't do it and nothing happened. I still went to the place where she was staying with her friends, but with no intentions to keep hitting on her. So we stayed for a while chatting all of us then I left.

I texted her the next day to meet (she would leave the following day) but she told me she will hang out with her friends. I texted her again later in the night, so a booty call, but hey it was my last chance, I'd never see her again anyways, and as expected she said she "was sorry" and "just got home."

So what puzzles me here is the part when she said she doesn't sleep with guys she isn't dating. Can someone translate it to me?

Also, when you face this sort of resistance, how do you go around it when you understand you won't sleep with her tonight? I mean should you push even more? Cause' it's unlikely it will even happen in the future anyway right? Or would you take the "ok I don't give a fuck" stance then?

What is your view here?

Cheers.

 

[Sandman]

When a girl says this it means I shagged a bunch of guys without dating so I won't fuck you unless you make me horny and lead me to bed. You should definitely not heed this in any way. Just go about the interaction as you would normally go.

If it appears that she wants you to kiss her very much and you fear not kissing her would make her auto-reject I usually tease her a lot, come closer, make it look like you're about to kiss her, then when she goes for the kiss, you reel back and say "later" with a mischievious grin. After you tease her like this a couple of times give ger a sweet, passionate but very brief kiss then broke it off immediately. The idea is to give her a little to make her want more but not enough that she grows satisfied and it destroys the sexual tension.

It's hard when she is with friends she can't ditch easily (like they are on. a vacation together) but not impossible especially if the group is rooting for you. When it is time to pull just persist and tell her that she can see her friends again first thing in the morning. Otherwise you could try to pull her when you went back to the place in a free room or bathroom. You're not gonna see the girl anyway, this is probably your best shot. So why not bring out the big guns and try everything that could work?

 

[razir110]

Thank you for your reply Sandman!

Good point that I shouldn't kiss her too much, cause I did lolol

What do you think about starting to also talk to other girls in the bar while I am "with her" ? Is that a risky idea?

Also, when would you stop persisting for sex? You know I am a proud guy, so honestly when I insist for say 3,4 times and she is still resisting I get the "fuck her then" attitude. Cause the last thing I want to happen is to look needy and it would totally destroy her image of me.
So how do you "measure" how much you persist?

Thanks!

 

[girlsfollow]

I think its not about the number of times you attempt escalation - its about HOW.

I would say the fact you're saying "i ask/insist on sex" is all wrong - you shouldnt even be asking once - you just gradually escalate an then pull back before she resists - then reinitiate escalation... if you repeat this theres no "asking" its just having fun.

I totally agree with what the previous poster said - what she said actually implies the exact opposite about her. That shes been a total ho (in her eyes) in the past and now wants to feel like less of a ho by acting like less of one. This means that actually she loves being a ho but wants to be seen (at least in her minds eye) as putting up some resistance first. Its a good omen for you in a way because she clearly does give out and is trying to break that "habit" -- usually people fail at breaking habits that they enjoy!