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2026-03-13 - Got a coffee at a cafe I frequent every month or so. The workers rotate, but there's this really friendly busty barista who's an extremely genuine girl. I've chatted with her maybe three times now and have had a couple times without a conversation when its busier. But I basically Tao of Steve it, completely desireless (sexy friendzone), but each time I ask her about something very personal and relevant to her, and then converse about the emotions or whatever, and then am gone. Could do a better job, but basically like her artistic hobby, etc. She gets surprised when I remember things. So today it was about her recent trip to Europe to see the country of her ancestors. I related a bit on researching family, learned her heritage, etc. I told her about this local-ish place that had a very specific connection to her background.
She got a little giddy, which has happened before, and she asked my name and introduced herself, then went to the back to heat up my sandwich. I sat down with a coffee and was going to suggest swapping numbers so she could go there with me. I went in there once at lunch during work in business casual with a coworker woman who had a full length overcoat on. It was a little out of place in this hipster haunt. Unfortunately another barista arrived at the cafe and ended up bringing me the sandwich.
***
2026-04-26 - She asked me out today.
Attainability is subtle!!
I walked up to the door and we met eyes through the window before I entered, with her smiling. I told her I was there to write a paper without WiFi. It was 9:30 am.
She said she likes to work at the library and is teaching herself the language of her heritage. We spoke of the importance of immersion in the culture to do or die and have to force integration.
She asks about the paper I'm writing and this becomes relevant later. She invited me to an event she is involved in and I put it in my calendar. She then asks my name again as I go grab a seat.
As I worked, she walked by maybe a dozen times. It was in her path to the back, so if any of it was hovering, it would have been a small percentage.
At one point I stopped her and asked for her "hottest take" on the paper since she was a legitimate first hand reference. I am going to cite her in it.
Later she walks by and we start talking at the same time.
Her: Hey Francis -- [sounded slightly nervous]
Me: You're really getting your steps in today
[note I do find this more seductive in this context than asking if she's trying to get her steps in... It feels like already understanding her, rather than seeking to]
Her [laugh, then...]: Do you want to get a coffee sometime?
Me: I was honestly just going to ask you. What's your number?
I wrote it down and said I'll try not to leave it in the paper. She laughed and while walking away said yeah so she doesn't get a phone call from a random professor.
It got busier in there and she walked by a couple more times, carrying things. I left when she was in the back.
I was honest in that I was sincerely going to ask her out in that very moment. I was going to ask how much she trusts being alone with me, then vacuum to gauge her reaction to that subtle sexual implication. Then I was going to propose driving her to the place referenced above that's relevant to her heritage.
Especially since that sort of time distortion doesn't seem necessary, I'll likely opt for more ideal logistics, even if coffee.
***
Me:
Good morning [her name, alt spelling]. I just turned the phone on since I saw you. I'm assuming spelling based on my [her ethnicity] cousin [my cousin's name], so tell me if it's [her name].
-Francis
Her:
Hey! It's actually spelled [her name], but I love the deductive reasoning lol
How's the paper going?
Me:
Honestly my head's so stimulated it could explode any second. Passed out at 8pm. It will feel so relieving when it finally comes to the end of the semester soon
I hope you get regular days off work for all the various pursuits you've told me about.
Her:
Ugh, I could only imagine! That's why I like to study at my own pace. I get Monday/Tuesday as my weekend to reset. It's definitely needed. When is the semester over?
Me:
Yes it's much more rewarding to actually sink into material. End of the week! I'm off around [time] those days if one of them works to get together whenever after.
Her:
I know what you mean! Right now i'm reading a book for my book club that is incredibly intense and the writing is so different than what I normally read, but annotating and tabbing the pages is so much fun!
How does next tuesday sound?
Me:
How many hobbies do you have [her name]... Good to hear you are enjoying delving into the intensity. Definitely beats a boring book. Sure, let's do Tuesday then.
Depending on your area and how you get around, we could link at the library. Great atmosphere to meet, then there are options nearby. Let me know your thoughts!
Her ["loved" first message]:
Oof I am into so many little things. Reading, Piano, Guitar, etc.
The library sounds like a great meet up spot! Is there a time that works best for you? Also what do you do outside of Grad School and work.
Me:
Morning! Do you like gaming..? If you know what an NPC is... I simply exist in place doing nothing until you bump into me. Jk and I don't game...
I'll tell you Tuesday! How's six sound
Her [reacted crying laughing emoji to the first message, then "loved" the second]:
I [redacted] so I am very familiar with gaming [crying laughing emoji] But I'm not very good, I'm trying to get better so I can play with [family].
Six is perfect
)
Me:
It can be fun to just fuck with the NPC's too, like grand theft auto I've tried. Especially early on just getting your feet a little wet before having a mission
Her:
I've never tried GTA but my [family] loves it! I'll have to give it a whirl for fun.
Sounds like you're more of a gamer than you thought
[...]
Her:
Hey! how's your weekend been?
Me:
Yeah it can be fun to mess around if there isn't any pressure on you at all. Getting to know it's all part of the fun. You can take it slower in the open world.
Like the game doesn't force you to keep it moving or anything
It's been incredibly relaxing with everything finally finished. Slept 12 hours last night. Felt good to crash. How was the [event she told me about]??
Her ["loved" both messages]:
Good morning I'm glad you got to finally rest! The [event] was great I had so much fun and got to see all my friends.
How do you feel about finals? Think you did okay
Me:
Highest in the class... More ways than one! That's great you enjoyed it so much! You'll have to tell me more about it tomorrow. Hope you're out enjoying the sun
Her ["loved" the message]:
Lol i love that for you! Hopefully it's sunny tomorrow too
Me [today]:
Way to jinx it
Her:
It's all my fault
[10 minutes later] 6 still good?
Me:
You're not in THAT much trouble. Yes I'll see you for a game of mutual hide and go seek on the top floor.
Her:
Oh thank goodness! I'll see you then
***
I walked into the library and up to the top floor. After looping around, I sat at the top of the steps on a bench. Soon after, a girl I'd never seen before walked up in a dress and graduation sash, followed by two other girls in dresses. She sat opposite me and started posing as the others took graduation photos of her. I was sitting quite close to them, directly across her, avoiding a stare. As her friend got slightly in front of me, I said you can let me know if you would like my spot for a better angle... I am just waiting for a friend. She said it was ok, then I offered to take one of the three of them. It seemed they were there mostly for her solo portrait, so they were a bit surprised, like oh that is a good idea. So they took off their jackets and handed me a phone. I asked if this was where they'd studied throughout school, and asked their majors as I took the phone from her. I could have done more directing, but snapped a few shots.
***
As this occurred, my date walked up the stairs in high boots, fishnet stocking, skirt, tank top, skirt, and a scarf. Black and red scheme. I met her eyes and said hello. She said congratulations to them as I stood up and handed back the phone. I ignored them immediately and greeted her with a hug. She turned away from them and started walking, then I said wait, we have to do the European cheek kisses. She turned back, laughed, and said it in her language, then we did the double cheek kiss. We then walked around and soon after cut in front of the girls again, minding attainability, ignoring them. We walked around, deep diving. Throughout the night, she asked more about me than is usual, though of course it was focused on her.
She proposed walking down since she said college rules are the higher the floor, the quieter you should be for studying. It was where she studies herself. Upon hitting the ground floor, she asked if I wanted to stay there. I suggested getting tea and proposed a place, then said there are other options as well. She mentioned one and I agreed it is nice.
***
When we got out, I explained that I live close by and we can get tea in the spot I mentioned downstairs, or alternatively can brew a cup in my place and take it up to the roof if she is comfortable with that. She is, so within ten minutes or so of her arrival, we go up to my apartment.
***
From there, we brew mint tea and sit with our legs touching. All the conversation was continuing the deep dive. She intermittently sat up and laid back. Her eye contact was not all there. She had taken a couple sips, and after a bit suggested going up to see the roof, saying something to the effect of we should at least see it. This seemed like her plausible deniability. I agreed and as she started to get up, I asked to see her locket, so she sat back down and showed me. Then we went.
As we put our shoes back on, she asked my age, and guessed late 20's, then three or four more times until she got it. Lately a mid 20's girl thought I was late 20's, and a mid 40's girl said she originally thought I was older than her.
She is just over ten years younger than me.
***
We went up and sat on chairs, continuing the deep dive. Within a few minutes, she was cold and needed to return down. With all walking since she arrived, her body was pressed to the side of mine. We got back in, continuing the deep dive with our legs next to each other on the "loveseat". When conversation paused, I looked her in the eyes, and then we kissed. It was a passionate caress, with my hand gliding under her skirt immediately, running my hands under her panty strap, all over. She started unbuttoning my shirt.
***
I got up and brought her to the bed, then pushed her down onto it. I pulled her panties off, and we undressed each other. It was a voracious vibe of kissing and caressing. Mostly likely since I slept with two girls yesterday and was less rested than ideal, my arousal after a couple thrusts was not enough. The last time this happened was a few years ago with a similarly fast pull from a date with the sexual frame set in advance. So I made her cum a couple times with my hand. She was beautifully loud and called my name out a couple times. She was comfortable emotionally with my arousal level and amount of caressing. After she came, her personality became very womanly, likely influenced by observing family, like "take your nap baby", and we fell close to asleep together for a while. After a bit, she interlocked her fingers with mine.
It was less than half an hour since she arrived at the library.
With her cuddled into me, we then continued the deep dive. With more kissing and caressing, I became aroused and we then engaged in some nice hard lovemaking. A nice move when she's on top is doing a sit up and rolling her onto her back in one movement, while still inside her, then continuing in adapted missionary. I held her head and hips securely at an ideal angle. She then started speaking her ethnic language.
***
After more cuddling and another round, I walked her to her car, and she drove me back. Before getting in, I stopped her and kissed her outside the car, then told her I really was going to ask her out right when she stopped to do so. She got this same exact look in her eyes I've seen before where she's just staring at me with this certain smile, then kind of shakes it off like a shiver.
On the way back, she said she was going to get in trouble because she told her friends she was not going to fuck me. We discussed how nice it is she has non-judgmental friends, and I told her about some of mine I've known since five years old. She kissed me passionately for quite a while before departing and proposed returning Sunday.
She got a little giddy, which has happened before, and she asked my name and introduced herself, then went to the back to heat up my sandwich. I sat down with a coffee and was going to suggest swapping numbers so she could go there with me. I went in there once at lunch during work in business casual with a coworker woman who had a full length overcoat on. It was a little out of place in this hipster haunt. Unfortunately another barista arrived at the cafe and ended up bringing me the sandwich.
***
2026-04-26 - She asked me out today.
Attainability is subtle!!
I walked up to the door and we met eyes through the window before I entered, with her smiling. I told her I was there to write a paper without WiFi. It was 9:30 am.
She said she likes to work at the library and is teaching herself the language of her heritage. We spoke of the importance of immersion in the culture to do or die and have to force integration.
She asks about the paper I'm writing and this becomes relevant later. She invited me to an event she is involved in and I put it in my calendar. She then asks my name again as I go grab a seat.
As I worked, she walked by maybe a dozen times. It was in her path to the back, so if any of it was hovering, it would have been a small percentage.
At one point I stopped her and asked for her "hottest take" on the paper since she was a legitimate first hand reference. I am going to cite her in it.
Later she walks by and we start talking at the same time.
Her: Hey Francis -- [sounded slightly nervous]
Me: You're really getting your steps in today
[note I do find this more seductive in this context than asking if she's trying to get her steps in... It feels like already understanding her, rather than seeking to]
Her [laugh, then...]: Do you want to get a coffee sometime?
Me: I was honestly just going to ask you. What's your number?
I wrote it down and said I'll try not to leave it in the paper. She laughed and while walking away said yeah so she doesn't get a phone call from a random professor.
It got busier in there and she walked by a couple more times, carrying things. I left when she was in the back.
I was honest in that I was sincerely going to ask her out in that very moment. I was going to ask how much she trusts being alone with me, then vacuum to gauge her reaction to that subtle sexual implication. Then I was going to propose driving her to the place referenced above that's relevant to her heritage.
Especially since that sort of time distortion doesn't seem necessary, I'll likely opt for more ideal logistics, even if coffee.
***
Me:
Good morning [her name, alt spelling]. I just turned the phone on since I saw you. I'm assuming spelling based on my [her ethnicity] cousin [my cousin's name], so tell me if it's [her name].
-Francis
Her:
Hey! It's actually spelled [her name], but I love the deductive reasoning lol
How's the paper going?
Me:
Honestly my head's so stimulated it could explode any second. Passed out at 8pm. It will feel so relieving when it finally comes to the end of the semester soon
I hope you get regular days off work for all the various pursuits you've told me about.
Her:
Ugh, I could only imagine! That's why I like to study at my own pace. I get Monday/Tuesday as my weekend to reset. It's definitely needed. When is the semester over?
Me:
Yes it's much more rewarding to actually sink into material. End of the week! I'm off around [time] those days if one of them works to get together whenever after.
Her:
I know what you mean! Right now i'm reading a book for my book club that is incredibly intense and the writing is so different than what I normally read, but annotating and tabbing the pages is so much fun!
How does next tuesday sound?
Me:
How many hobbies do you have [her name]... Good to hear you are enjoying delving into the intensity. Definitely beats a boring book. Sure, let's do Tuesday then.
Depending on your area and how you get around, we could link at the library. Great atmosphere to meet, then there are options nearby. Let me know your thoughts!
Her ["loved" first message]:
Oof I am into so many little things. Reading, Piano, Guitar, etc.
The library sounds like a great meet up spot! Is there a time that works best for you? Also what do you do outside of Grad School and work.
Me:
Morning! Do you like gaming..? If you know what an NPC is... I simply exist in place doing nothing until you bump into me. Jk and I don't game...
I'll tell you Tuesday! How's six sound
Her [reacted crying laughing emoji to the first message, then "loved" the second]:
I [redacted] so I am very familiar with gaming [crying laughing emoji] But I'm not very good, I'm trying to get better so I can play with [family].
Six is perfect
)Me:
It can be fun to just fuck with the NPC's too, like grand theft auto I've tried. Especially early on just getting your feet a little wet before having a mission
Her:
I've never tried GTA but my [family] loves it! I'll have to give it a whirl for fun.
Sounds like you're more of a gamer than you thought
[...]
Her:
Hey! how's your weekend been?
Me:
Yeah it can be fun to mess around if there isn't any pressure on you at all. Getting to know it's all part of the fun. You can take it slower in the open world.
Like the game doesn't force you to keep it moving or anything
It's been incredibly relaxing with everything finally finished. Slept 12 hours last night. Felt good to crash. How was the [event she told me about]??
Her ["loved" both messages]:
Good morning
I'm glad you got to finally rest! The [event] was great I had so much fun and got to see all my friends.How do you feel about finals? Think you did okay
Me:
Highest in the class... More ways than one! That's great you enjoyed it so much! You'll have to tell me more about it tomorrow. Hope you're out enjoying the sun
Her ["loved" the message]:
Lol i love that for you! Hopefully it's sunny tomorrow too
Me [today]:
Way to jinx it
Her:
It's all my fault
[10 minutes later] 6 still good?
Me:
You're not in THAT much trouble. Yes I'll see you for a game of mutual hide and go seek on the top floor.
Her:
Oh thank goodness! I'll see you then
***
I walked into the library and up to the top floor. After looping around, I sat at the top of the steps on a bench. Soon after, a girl I'd never seen before walked up in a dress and graduation sash, followed by two other girls in dresses. She sat opposite me and started posing as the others took graduation photos of her. I was sitting quite close to them, directly across her, avoiding a stare. As her friend got slightly in front of me, I said you can let me know if you would like my spot for a better angle... I am just waiting for a friend. She said it was ok, then I offered to take one of the three of them. It seemed they were there mostly for her solo portrait, so they were a bit surprised, like oh that is a good idea. So they took off their jackets and handed me a phone. I asked if this was where they'd studied throughout school, and asked their majors as I took the phone from her. I could have done more directing, but snapped a few shots.
***
As this occurred, my date walked up the stairs in high boots, fishnet stocking, skirt, tank top, skirt, and a scarf. Black and red scheme. I met her eyes and said hello. She said congratulations to them as I stood up and handed back the phone. I ignored them immediately and greeted her with a hug. She turned away from them and started walking, then I said wait, we have to do the European cheek kisses. She turned back, laughed, and said it in her language, then we did the double cheek kiss. We then walked around and soon after cut in front of the girls again, minding attainability, ignoring them. We walked around, deep diving. Throughout the night, she asked more about me than is usual, though of course it was focused on her.
She proposed walking down since she said college rules are the higher the floor, the quieter you should be for studying. It was where she studies herself. Upon hitting the ground floor, she asked if I wanted to stay there. I suggested getting tea and proposed a place, then said there are other options as well. She mentioned one and I agreed it is nice.
***
When we got out, I explained that I live close by and we can get tea in the spot I mentioned downstairs, or alternatively can brew a cup in my place and take it up to the roof if she is comfortable with that. She is, so within ten minutes or so of her arrival, we go up to my apartment.
***
From there, we brew mint tea and sit with our legs touching. All the conversation was continuing the deep dive. She intermittently sat up and laid back. Her eye contact was not all there. She had taken a couple sips, and after a bit suggested going up to see the roof, saying something to the effect of we should at least see it. This seemed like her plausible deniability. I agreed and as she started to get up, I asked to see her locket, so she sat back down and showed me. Then we went.
As we put our shoes back on, she asked my age, and guessed late 20's, then three or four more times until she got it. Lately a mid 20's girl thought I was late 20's, and a mid 40's girl said she originally thought I was older than her.
She is just over ten years younger than me.
***
We went up and sat on chairs, continuing the deep dive. Within a few minutes, she was cold and needed to return down. With all walking since she arrived, her body was pressed to the side of mine. We got back in, continuing the deep dive with our legs next to each other on the "loveseat". When conversation paused, I looked her in the eyes, and then we kissed. It was a passionate caress, with my hand gliding under her skirt immediately, running my hands under her panty strap, all over. She started unbuttoning my shirt.
***
I got up and brought her to the bed, then pushed her down onto it. I pulled her panties off, and we undressed each other. It was a voracious vibe of kissing and caressing. Mostly likely since I slept with two girls yesterday and was less rested than ideal, my arousal after a couple thrusts was not enough. The last time this happened was a few years ago with a similarly fast pull from a date with the sexual frame set in advance. So I made her cum a couple times with my hand. She was beautifully loud and called my name out a couple times. She was comfortable emotionally with my arousal level and amount of caressing. After she came, her personality became very womanly, likely influenced by observing family, like "take your nap baby", and we fell close to asleep together for a while. After a bit, she interlocked her fingers with mine.
It was less than half an hour since she arrived at the library.
With her cuddled into me, we then continued the deep dive. With more kissing and caressing, I became aroused and we then engaged in some nice hard lovemaking. A nice move when she's on top is doing a sit up and rolling her onto her back in one movement, while still inside her, then continuing in adapted missionary. I held her head and hips securely at an ideal angle. She then started speaking her ethnic language.
***
After more cuddling and another round, I walked her to her car, and she drove me back. Before getting in, I stopped her and kissed her outside the car, then told her I really was going to ask her out right when she stopped to do so. She got this same exact look in her eyes I've seen before where she's just staring at me with this certain smile, then kind of shakes it off like a shiver.
On the way back, she said she was going to get in trouble because she told her friends she was not going to fuck me. We discussed how nice it is she has non-judgmental friends, and I told her about some of mine I've known since five years old. She kissed me passionately for quite a while before departing and proposed returning Sunday.
