"I don't want to talk about it"

[Pedro P]

I recently went out with a "9" (according to looks, and the amount of attention, friendzone, and ass kissing she gets)
And any time I tried to really get to know her or feel out her situation I would get "I'm a very private person, I don't want to talk about it..."
As I tried to make it more personal or even sexual she'd pull it to platonic almost work related conversation...

And yet she showed up to the coffee scantily dressed as if she was expecting to get Fucked after the date.
(Way more sexy than your average coffee date)

So I self amused, and threw out adventure value stories.
She didn't respond to teases, instead taking them pretty seriously.

And again, when I tried to escalate like take her hand, she'd resist... And say "I'm very private..."
And it made me wonder - "What the Fuck is going on?"
"Is she some CIA, KGB spy?"
"Is she secretly married or has a BF?"
"IS she currently Fucking someone else?"

Anyway I ran out of steam and ended the date after we did a walk by saying "I got your info, maybe we'll hang out again (not likely)" And she blocked a hug and went for a handshake instead and I was like "What a Fucking WASTE of my TIME!"

 

[Rancorous]

I recently went out with a "9" (according to looks, and the amount of attention, friendzone, and ass kissing she gets)
And any time I tried to really get to know her or feel out her situation I would get "I'm a very private person, I don't want to talk about it..."
As I tried to make it more personal or even sexual she'd pull it to platonic almost work related conversation...

And yet she showed up to the coffee scantily dressed as if she was expecting to get Fucked after the date.
(Way more sexy than your average coffee date)

So I self amused, and threw out adventure value stories.
She didn't respond to teases, instead taking them pretty seriously.

And again, when I tried to escalate like take her hand, she'd resist... And say "I'm very private..."
And it made me wonder - "What the Fuck is going on?"
"Is she some CIA, KGB spy?"
"Is she secretly married or has a BF?"
"IS she currently Fucking someone else?"

Anyway I ran out of steam and ended the date after we did a walk by saying "I got your info, maybe we'll hang out again (not likely)" And she blocked a hug and went for a handshake instead and I was like "What a Fucking WASTE of my TIME!"

Dude you're gonna find people are weird as shit. Maybe that's the look she was going for. The scantily clad sexy look.

It sounded like she didn't want to be there in the first place.

Your better off moving on as you've seen first hand looks aren't everything.

Reminds me of the time this girl invited me back to her house and we're sitting on the back porch steps and it's like she's waiting for me to do something. So I try to go for the kiss and she resist and shakes her head and says "nope". I wanted to say in a sensual voice "what do you want me to do girl?" But I didn't and she stood up and said "sorry". Like WTF was I supposed to do? Start taking off her clothes outside on the porch steps? I don't get people.

 

[Will_V]

I recently went out with a "9" (according to looks, and the amount of attention, friendzone, and ass kissing she gets)
And any time I tried to really get to know her or feel out her situation I would get "I'm a very private person, I don't want to talk about it..."
As I tried to make it more personal or even sexual she'd pull it to platonic almost work related conversation...

And yet she showed up to the coffee scantily dressed as if she was expecting to get Fucked after the date.
(Way more sexy than your average coffee date)

So I self amused, and threw out adventure value stories.
She didn't respond to teases, instead taking them pretty seriously.

And again, when I tried to escalate like take her hand, she'd resist... And say "I'm very private..."
And it made me wonder - "What the Fuck is going on?"
"Is she some CIA, KGB spy?"
"Is she secretly married or has a BF?"
"IS she currently Fucking someone else?"

Anyway I ran out of steam and ended the date after we did a walk by saying "I got your info, maybe we'll hang out again (not likely)" And she blocked a hug and went for a handshake instead and I was like "What a Fucking WASTE of my TIME!"

How did you get the date, was it cold approach?

What do you mean by saying that she took teases seriously?

Is she from a different culture than you?

Sounds like something about the way you gamed her didn't match up with her expectations/desires.

 

[Pedro P]

How did you get the date, was it cold approach?

What do you mean by saying that she took teases seriously?

Is she from a different culture than you?

Sounds like something about the way you gamed her didn't match up with her expectations/desires.

She was Eastern European. We worked together on a contract gig.

 

[Pedro P]

She was Eastern European. We worked together on a contract gig.

But the meet up was man to woman, not work related.

 

[Pedro P]

How did you get the date, was it cold approach?

What do you mean by saying that she took teases seriously?

Is she from a different culture than you?

Sounds like something about the way you gamed her didn't match up with her expectations/desires.

2 Questions:
1. Why would she clam-up like that and not share anything?
2. How do you break her down, open her up??
How the Hell am I supposed to get her naked if she won't open up about normal things :/

 

[Will_V]

2 Questions:
1. Why would she clam-up like that and not share anything?

I can't really say without more context. It seems like maybe she sees you as a friend, or someone she can get nonsexual benefits from, or a boyfriend candidate. Had you flirted with her at all, or deep dived her, during your work together? You say the date was 'man to woman', how exactly was that so?

If she's not opening up at all I'm struggling to see what the context of the date was.

2. How do you break her down, open her up??
How the Hell am I supposed to get her naked if she won't open up about normal things :/

If a girl has her shield up I'll typically tease her a little and call it out.

"I feel like you're being very guarded, are you a secret service agent?"
"I want to get to know you more, help me out here"
"I told you about one of my adventures, now I want to hear one of yours"
etc

You have to get a bit impatient (while staying chill) if she's not contributing, put a little pressure on her.

Also you said you tried to hold her hand, typically I will avoid this as it's a bit of a boyfriendy type of move. I usually touch her arm and leg while we're talking, her back if we're walking, and use eye contact, tone, and proximity to ramp up the tension.

 

[Pedro P]

Ok great!

I feel you are being guarded here, are you a secret service agent?
I told you about one of my adventures, now let me hear one of yours...

When I tried to take her hand it was to lead her somewhere... She shooed it off.
But I got ya.

My buddy (from the gig) says she probably saw me as boyfriend material and was trying to act angelic, cuz I guess he knew more about her that she wasn't exactly angelic... I.e. the revealing wardrobe.

 

[Rancorous]

I feel as if you might have rushed the interaction.

After you got a drink at the first place, I think you should've offered to take her to eat at a different place or go for a walk in the park or downtown area.


Some women take longer to warm up to you than others.