LR I Lost My Virginity

[foggy]

Hello friends,

I met a girl on tinder. We clicked pretty well. She gave me her number - I was texting her and building up some sexual tension. We made plans to hang out. She came over to my place and we screwed around a little bit but didn't fuck. I told her I didn't have any condoms. It was true! She stayed the night and we screwed around a little bit again the next morning. She said "hey wanna come to my place and drink some coffee?" We went to her place and hung out all day. She said to me, "I feel like I've known you my whole life."

After that she didnt text me until 8 days later. We had a few conversations and made plans to hang out on a Friday. Friday came but I didn't hear from her. I texted her 4 days after that. We had another conversation then I asked her to hang out again. She was interested.

She came over today. We were talking for about 25 minutes and then I started kissing her neck. She didn't react. Huh. We continue to talk and the vibe was getting more and more playful. She was starting to really giggle! We start kissing. I'm sucking on her tits and rubbing her pussy through her pants. We get most of our clothes off and I'm taking off her underwear which is quite wet. She says, "Sorry, I already came earlier." with a sheepish look on her face.

It was interesting - initially she was apologizing a lot, whether it be for being too loud or for losing control of her body when she orgasmed. I reassured her everything was okay and encouraged her to act however felt best in the moment. She seemed to open up and be more comfortable after I told her that. Her feminine energy was just amazing...I love when girls are girls around me!

She sucked my dick for a bit, and I also was also rubbing her clit in juuuuust the right way. She climaxed, and then a few minutes later she says to me, "My hands are numb!!!" That was a little surprising to me...that's the first time a girl has said that to me. Does it happen to most girls when you give them powerful orgasms?

I told her I had condoms. I put one on and she got on top of me and started riding me. Meow, it was so awkward. I couldnt get fully hard. After not even 30 seconds she gets off me as my dick continues to deflate like a balloon. I treated it nonchalantly by saying something like "grrrr stupid condoms i hate them"

We tried the same thing again later and the EXACT same thing happened. I was wondering what she was thinking and how I should frame the fact that this happened. I told her "I just want you to know you're not the reason this is happening." I felt like she could have been thinking she wasn't attractive enough for me or something and I didn't want her to go into auto rejection.

She left a few hours ago and I received a text from her. I'm gonna text her back. Idk where I stand with her. I gave her 6+ amazing orgasms but the sex sucked. I'm probably in the boyfriend zone if anything. I wonder if she thinks I'm inexperienced.

Thanks for listening to my awkward story bout how I lost my v-card! I could have lost my virginity ages ago but there were some mindsets that were preventing me from wanting to have sex, mostly the fear of embarrassing myself. Whatever, now I'm eager to bang a fuck ton of pussy and get super good at sex.

 

[Ergon]

Congrats backstory!

Great LR. I still remember when I lost my v-card as if it were yesterday (actually it was 4 months ago hahah).
But I couldn't get it up for more than 10 second. Probably due to alcohol and nervousness. She was also 7 years older so she probably saw through all my inexperience lol.

But she still wanted to see me again, yet my insecurity kept me from asking her out. In retrospect, I think it was silly.

In your case I think you can proceed normally. She came a bunch of times, so in her mind you're good enough. Plus, almost always, the first time is awkward (that is, until you get really awesome at this, I imagine). Try to see her again; that's what I would do now.

So don't worry man! Persist and keep the LRs coming.

 

[Seppuku]

Backstory my boy!

Congratulations are in order.

About you getting soft. Well, you're losing virginity, so it's normal given the anxiety. Also, even if you're not losing your virginity, very often the first time sex with a given girl is not a full potential. It's like getting to know what works or doesn't with this specific partner. The second, and third time sex are usually much better. And there is also something about the position. Personally, the girl riding me usually makes me a little softer - I have to concentrate on staying hard. Some other positions work better for me. See for yourself what works for you!

I would suggest you try seeing her again? And explore a little bit the sex with her. With the anxiety behind, the next time will be much better.

Unless you actually want one, just avoid being roped in a relationship for now. You just lost your v card, now that's the time to really start applying seduction. Enjoy freedom! The way to avoid being roped in, is to dodge her attempts at meeting you frequently. You control the pace at once every seven to ten days.

Seppuku

 

[Teparus]

Something that I'd add is that I'm of the generation that started regularly watching porn before we started regularly having sex; until I went through a significant period of having a steady girlfriend & doing pickup, AND trying not to watching porn, masturbating, or orgasm, I had on and off erectile dysfunction issues. You can habituate yourself to getting off in a certain way, with or without real women.

So I'm not sure if that's potentially an issue in your case, but I would say that if it is, it wouldn't hurt to try doing NoFap for a little while until you train yourself to be turned on by real women again. After that, NoFap has some benefits, but it's not exactly essential.