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One of my friend recently discovered that I do day game and was fascinated by the idea of cold-approach. He didn't know that someone can actually go talk to a hot girl. However, he has a lot of approach anxiety and never tried although he came along with me a few times.
However, recently he spoke to a hot girl who was doing some charity fund raising thing on the street and all he did was talk to her like how I cold-approach a girl. They instantly hit it off and they're fucking like rabbits now. He debunked all the lessons of game and pickup that I have learnt in the past 3-4 years. This hit me hard since I have spent 100s of hours approaching 1000of girls. He is my friend and I don't want to sound harsh and judgemental about him but just to give you the context (don't judge me for judging my friend), he is 5'5" tall and bald. He has 2 friends. (Me and another guy).
This is not even a problem but his level of simping is mind-blowing. We've had several arguments about this topic and we have agreed not to discuss about this anymore. For ex: We went to a night club once and he was looking at a hot girl throughout the night and I told him either to approach her or to just stop looking at her all night long. He said "He is just enjoying her beauty from a distance". He talks about the girl that he is seeing now incessantly and puts her on a pedestal and admires everything she does. He bought her flowers the second day and took her to an expensive restaurant and he paid the bill (Later she protested that and paid for the subsequent outings). He said the waitress in the restaurant now respects him since he is with a hot girl and we had an argument about this as well. But the girl according to him is way out of his league - hot, tall, experienced, super-rich and she is all over him. So, I'm questioning whether game really is necessary?
According to him, he half-ass approached her and that too she was open for approaching since she was raising funds for a charity event (all approaching skills I learnt for several years now are debunked) and talked for a bit nothing interesting (conversation, attraction, comfort - all major game concepts debunked). Then he left, since he was feeling very anxious, after driving halfway, he realised he should've taken her number. So he went back to her after sometime and told her that he was nervous earlier to ask her number and asked her number (confidence debunked). He told her he'll call her that evening at 7PM and called her exactly at 7PM (Text game, Mystery - debunked). Then they planned to meet after 2 days but the girl called him the next day and she said she wanted to meet him the same day since she was leaving my city in a few days and had little time. So they met a day earlier and for 5 days, every evening after that.
One can argue that it's a "Fools mate" and it just happened or it's a one-off situation. I would think the same but it was not a ONS where she couldn't see that my friend didn't have game and she is way too experienced according to him. She is 23 and so not like she is in a rush to settle down either. BTW, he told me that since he hadn't got laid in a year, he was too nervous the first day and couldn't get it up and apologised to the girl many times and she consoled him. So, sex wasn't great either. They have been seeing each other for days now and they are planning to meet again for a holiday and then she is coming to meet him to my city next month. This whole thing has made me question my reality. I read a lot about pickup, I approach at least 3-5 girls every single day for the past 2-3 years and my results are worse than his.
However, recently he spoke to a hot girl who was doing some charity fund raising thing on the street and all he did was talk to her like how I cold-approach a girl. They instantly hit it off and they're fucking like rabbits now. He debunked all the lessons of game and pickup that I have learnt in the past 3-4 years. This hit me hard since I have spent 100s of hours approaching 1000of girls. He is my friend and I don't want to sound harsh and judgemental about him but just to give you the context (don't judge me for judging my friend), he is 5'5" tall and bald. He has 2 friends. (Me and another guy).
This is not even a problem but his level of simping is mind-blowing. We've had several arguments about this topic and we have agreed not to discuss about this anymore. For ex: We went to a night club once and he was looking at a hot girl throughout the night and I told him either to approach her or to just stop looking at her all night long. He said "He is just enjoying her beauty from a distance". He talks about the girl that he is seeing now incessantly and puts her on a pedestal and admires everything she does. He bought her flowers the second day and took her to an expensive restaurant and he paid the bill (Later she protested that and paid for the subsequent outings). He said the waitress in the restaurant now respects him since he is with a hot girl and we had an argument about this as well. But the girl according to him is way out of his league - hot, tall, experienced, super-rich and she is all over him. So, I'm questioning whether game really is necessary?
According to him, he half-ass approached her and that too she was open for approaching since she was raising funds for a charity event (all approaching skills I learnt for several years now are debunked) and talked for a bit nothing interesting (conversation, attraction, comfort - all major game concepts debunked). Then he left, since he was feeling very anxious, after driving halfway, he realised he should've taken her number. So he went back to her after sometime and told her that he was nervous earlier to ask her number and asked her number (confidence debunked). He told her he'll call her that evening at 7PM and called her exactly at 7PM (Text game, Mystery - debunked). Then they planned to meet after 2 days but the girl called him the next day and she said she wanted to meet him the same day since she was leaving my city in a few days and had little time. So they met a day earlier and for 5 days, every evening after that.
One can argue that it's a "Fools mate" and it just happened or it's a one-off situation. I would think the same but it was not a ONS where she couldn't see that my friend didn't have game and she is way too experienced according to him. She is 23 and so not like she is in a rush to settle down either. BTW, he told me that since he hadn't got laid in a year, he was too nervous the first day and couldn't get it up and apologised to the girl many times and she consoled him. So, sex wasn't great either. They have been seeing each other for days now and they are planning to meet again for a holiday and then she is coming to meet him to my city next month. This whole thing has made me question my reality. I read a lot about pickup, I approach at least 3-5 girls every single day for the past 2-3 years and my results are worse than his.
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