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Hi guys,
I'm conflicted if this is a problem, is this my ego? Would it be overreacting? Something doesn't sit right with me. Is there a socially graceful way to approach this?
This chick I've been seeing recently went ghost on me for 2 weeks (after being told I've been around), she approached me again at the weekend out at the club. At one point she disappeared with my main wing, I wasn't bothered by this, me and my wing get on well with her and her best friend so they're kind of like friends at this point and my wings a cool guy, I didn't think I'd have to worry about him.
After a minute her best friend asked me where she was, I told her she went to the side with my wing, she had a very concerned look on her face, I kept unreactive and shrugged it off that I wasn't bothered but I now had doubt about this. Her best friend then walked of to find her, at which point she came back.
I don't know what went on but when she came back, she looked upset. I didn't react, I didn't say anything, didn't acknowledge it but I started to go cold on her because of this doubt in my mind. She's mentioned a few times in the past that she thinks he hates her, and she mentioned this again at the weekend and asked me what his problem is with her. He always seems cool about her when we're out, he doesn't have a problem that I'm aware of.
Because it's very loud in the club we occasionally write notes on our phones to each other, outside at the end of the night she had a message on her notes that read something along the lines of "I really hope you didn't like it" she shown it to me and said he typed that to say he hoped she didn't have a good night, and asked who would write that? Because of the seeds of doubt in my mind I'm thinking something has happened between them, and this message was about that. I'm not sure if they've slept together or just kissed but I don't like not knowing.
If he's done something with her, I really question our friendship if he'd do me over for a chick. If she's done something with him, I don't want to waste any more time with her. I don't really know how I can ask them to find out, I doubt they'd even be honest if anything has happened. Is this even an issue or am I overreacting?
Any thoughts?
Warrior
I'm conflicted if this is a problem, is this my ego? Would it be overreacting? Something doesn't sit right with me. Is there a socially graceful way to approach this?
This chick I've been seeing recently went ghost on me for 2 weeks (after being told I've been around), she approached me again at the weekend out at the club. At one point she disappeared with my main wing, I wasn't bothered by this, me and my wing get on well with her and her best friend so they're kind of like friends at this point and my wings a cool guy, I didn't think I'd have to worry about him.
After a minute her best friend asked me where she was, I told her she went to the side with my wing, she had a very concerned look on her face, I kept unreactive and shrugged it off that I wasn't bothered but I now had doubt about this. Her best friend then walked of to find her, at which point she came back.
I don't know what went on but when she came back, she looked upset. I didn't react, I didn't say anything, didn't acknowledge it but I started to go cold on her because of this doubt in my mind. She's mentioned a few times in the past that she thinks he hates her, and she mentioned this again at the weekend and asked me what his problem is with her. He always seems cool about her when we're out, he doesn't have a problem that I'm aware of.
Because it's very loud in the club we occasionally write notes on our phones to each other, outside at the end of the night she had a message on her notes that read something along the lines of "I really hope you didn't like it" she shown it to me and said he typed that to say he hoped she didn't have a good night, and asked who would write that? Because of the seeds of doubt in my mind I'm thinking something has happened between them, and this message was about that. I'm not sure if they've slept together or just kissed but I don't like not knowing.
If he's done something with her, I really question our friendship if he'd do me over for a chick. If she's done something with him, I don't want to waste any more time with her. I don't really know how I can ask them to find out, I doubt they'd even be honest if anything has happened. Is this even an issue or am I overreacting?
Any thoughts?
Warrior