Hey All,
So this past Monday night, I was traveling and stayed in an airbnb in a city I had never been to before. I got to the airbnb pretty early, so I decided to walk around and explore the city a bit.
During the afternoon, I stumbled upon a Kava Bar and hung out there for a few hours. The barista took an interest in me because I had never had Kava before- she wanted to get me "muddy". (apparently muddy is when you get very buzzed from Kava.) She was super cute and we flirted a bit, but her husband showed up after I had been there for a bit and stayed the rest of the time I was there.
Anyway she got me pretty "muddy" and told me that I should get a Delta-8 drink for the road (Delta-8 is a legal form of THC in some American states, it's about half as strong as regular weed). So I got the drink, sipped on it casually while I did some writing, then left when I finished it. Many cute hippy girls came and went while I was there, but I didn't approach any.
After leaving, I decided to walk around and find a sports bar to watch Monday Night Football at. After probably 30 minutes of meandering around, I found a decent looking place. I I picked a prominent spot at the bar and ordered food. By the time my food arrived, I realized that I was pretty fucking stoned.
I have had Delta-8 in the past and it had never done much to me, but for some reason this Delta-8 drink had me stoned off my ass. At one point, I realized that I had missed almost a quarter of the game without even realizing it. When I looked down from the TV, I saw that the bar was now completely packed (it had been fairly empty when I walked in). I saw that there were two groups of girls sitting next to me- 3 older women to my left and 2 younger girls to my right.
I opened the cute girl to my right when she made a comment about the game to her friend. We chit chatted for 2 minutes or so, but their body language was pretty closed off and neither girl in the set seemed to be hooking. I decided to let the conversation lull and took my attention back to the TV.
The second I looked back up at the TV, the older woman on my left bumped into me in a very obvious way. The second she bumped into me, she put both her hands on me, turned her body fully towards me, and told me how sorry she was for bumping into me. It was very obvious that she wanted me to talk to her, so we chatted for a few minutes. She had a nice body and was well-dressed, but was much older than me.
Anyway we end up talking for 15-20 minutes. I didn't move her or ask for compliance because I wasn't really trying to go for her. But every time I let the conversation lull she would get closer to me and start it up again, so I decided to go along with it.
After about 30 minutes, the two friends she was with asked her to go to the bathroom with them. As they are walking, I saw that the girl who likes me has a tiny waist and a huge ass, so I decided that I would go for it if she came back. When they left, I turned and saw that the two younger girls on my other side had left. Since I didn't have any other leads and I was still feeling pretty high, I decided to chill and see how things played out.
So after probably 2 minutes, the girls come back from the bathroom. The 2 friends are leaving and the girl who likes me is staying. The friends are going to uber back to their place and they leave my girl with the keys to their car.
So she sits down, I get us a tequila shot, and she starts asking me a bunch of personal questions. She keeps asking me how old I am and I dodged for a while, but eventually I joked and said that I was 16 and she should babysit me. After she was finished laughing, I told her that I'm 28. She said "Oh my god. I can't believe I'm doing this." And I just smiled and gave her a hug. Don't know if this was the right thing to do, but I was still pretty high and couldn't think of anything to say.
Then she asked if I was staying nearby and I told her she could drive me to my Airbnb. She paused for a few seconds then she said "Ok let's go."
So we get back to the Airbnb. I get out of the car and she still sitting in the driver's seat looking at me. Apparently she wanted a formal invite inside lol, so I invited her and she came in.
We spend the next 3 hours fucking, going several rounds, no resistance. She asks me a few times if her age bothers me and I keep telling her that it doesn't. She geniunely had an amazing body- most girls my age would be jealous. If I had only seen her body and not her face, I would have guessed that she was 25.
She tells me that she felt like she had to be obvious at the bar because I hadn't noticed her when she first sat down next to me. Apparently she had been to 2 other bars that day and hadn't seen any guys that she liked, so she pretty much decided that she wanted me the second she walked into the bar I was at. Then she tells me that if a group of girls is near me at a bar, the girl closest to me probably likes me. This makes me wish that I had tried harder with the 2 younger girls that had been sitting next to me when I started talking to her. I think she thinks I'm a total moron when it comes to girls. I just let her think that, I didn't want to make myself sound like a player.
As she's leaving, she asked me for my phone number, which I thought was weird since she knew I was leaving town the next day. She told me that she hopes I would come back to town sometime because she doesn't like doing one night stands. She had gotten divorced 4 years ago and apparently I was the second guy she had slept with since then. The first guy had broken things off with her the week before so I was her rebound guy.
Overall, I would say that the main take away from this is sometimes you can get an easy layup just by showing up. I have plenty of friends who never get laid, but just sit at home complaining about it while they swipe on dating apps. I literally just sat at a bar while I was stoned and a girl came up to me and decided she wanted me. All I did was invite her home when she gave me an escalation window and passed a shit test about our age difference.
My one question: does anybody have advice for when a girl plants herself near you, you open, and then she doesn't seem that interested? I know that sometimes girls will just happen to put themselves near you without being interested in you, but I'd like a socially savvy way to plow forward with them if they don't hook at first.
Thanks,
Dallas
So this past Monday night, I was traveling and stayed in an airbnb in a city I had never been to before. I got to the airbnb pretty early, so I decided to walk around and explore the city a bit.
During the afternoon, I stumbled upon a Kava Bar and hung out there for a few hours. The barista took an interest in me because I had never had Kava before- she wanted to get me "muddy". (apparently muddy is when you get very buzzed from Kava.) She was super cute and we flirted a bit, but her husband showed up after I had been there for a bit and stayed the rest of the time I was there.
Anyway she got me pretty "muddy" and told me that I should get a Delta-8 drink for the road (Delta-8 is a legal form of THC in some American states, it's about half as strong as regular weed). So I got the drink, sipped on it casually while I did some writing, then left when I finished it. Many cute hippy girls came and went while I was there, but I didn't approach any.
After leaving, I decided to walk around and find a sports bar to watch Monday Night Football at. After probably 30 minutes of meandering around, I found a decent looking place. I I picked a prominent spot at the bar and ordered food. By the time my food arrived, I realized that I was pretty fucking stoned.
I have had Delta-8 in the past and it had never done much to me, but for some reason this Delta-8 drink had me stoned off my ass. At one point, I realized that I had missed almost a quarter of the game without even realizing it. When I looked down from the TV, I saw that the bar was now completely packed (it had been fairly empty when I walked in). I saw that there were two groups of girls sitting next to me- 3 older women to my left and 2 younger girls to my right.
I opened the cute girl to my right when she made a comment about the game to her friend. We chit chatted for 2 minutes or so, but their body language was pretty closed off and neither girl in the set seemed to be hooking. I decided to let the conversation lull and took my attention back to the TV.
The second I looked back up at the TV, the older woman on my left bumped into me in a very obvious way. The second she bumped into me, she put both her hands on me, turned her body fully towards me, and told me how sorry she was for bumping into me. It was very obvious that she wanted me to talk to her, so we chatted for a few minutes. She had a nice body and was well-dressed, but was much older than me.
Anyway we end up talking for 15-20 minutes. I didn't move her or ask for compliance because I wasn't really trying to go for her. But every time I let the conversation lull she would get closer to me and start it up again, so I decided to go along with it.
After about 30 minutes, the two friends she was with asked her to go to the bathroom with them. As they are walking, I saw that the girl who likes me has a tiny waist and a huge ass, so I decided that I would go for it if she came back. When they left, I turned and saw that the two younger girls on my other side had left. Since I didn't have any other leads and I was still feeling pretty high, I decided to chill and see how things played out.
So after probably 2 minutes, the girls come back from the bathroom. The 2 friends are leaving and the girl who likes me is staying. The friends are going to uber back to their place and they leave my girl with the keys to their car.
So she sits down, I get us a tequila shot, and she starts asking me a bunch of personal questions. She keeps asking me how old I am and I dodged for a while, but eventually I joked and said that I was 16 and she should babysit me. After she was finished laughing, I told her that I'm 28. She said "Oh my god. I can't believe I'm doing this." And I just smiled and gave her a hug. Don't know if this was the right thing to do, but I was still pretty high and couldn't think of anything to say.
Then she asked if I was staying nearby and I told her she could drive me to my Airbnb. She paused for a few seconds then she said "Ok let's go."
So we get back to the Airbnb. I get out of the car and she still sitting in the driver's seat looking at me. Apparently she wanted a formal invite inside lol, so I invited her and she came in.
We spend the next 3 hours fucking, going several rounds, no resistance. She asks me a few times if her age bothers me and I keep telling her that it doesn't. She geniunely had an amazing body- most girls my age would be jealous. If I had only seen her body and not her face, I would have guessed that she was 25.
She tells me that she felt like she had to be obvious at the bar because I hadn't noticed her when she first sat down next to me. Apparently she had been to 2 other bars that day and hadn't seen any guys that she liked, so she pretty much decided that she wanted me the second she walked into the bar I was at. Then she tells me that if a group of girls is near me at a bar, the girl closest to me probably likes me. This makes me wish that I had tried harder with the 2 younger girls that had been sitting next to me when I started talking to her. I think she thinks I'm a total moron when it comes to girls. I just let her think that, I didn't want to make myself sound like a player.
As she's leaving, she asked me for my phone number, which I thought was weird since she knew I was leaving town the next day. She told me that she hopes I would come back to town sometime because she doesn't like doing one night stands. She had gotten divorced 4 years ago and apparently I was the second guy she had slept with since then. The first guy had broken things off with her the week before so I was her rebound guy.
Overall, I would say that the main take away from this is sometimes you can get an easy layup just by showing up. I have plenty of friends who never get laid, but just sit at home complaining about it while they swipe on dating apps. I literally just sat at a bar while I was stoned and a girl came up to me and decided she wanted me. All I did was invite her home when she gave me an escalation window and passed a shit test about our age difference.
My one question: does anybody have advice for when a girl plants herself near you, you open, and then she doesn't seem that interested? I know that sometimes girls will just happen to put themselves near you without being interested in you, but I'd like a socially savvy way to plow forward with them if they don't hook at first.
Thanks,
Dallas
