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This is the same girl from "Wording an Ask Out Text".
So long and short:
I've known her for years, she just popped back into my life, lunch (second time) today. I couldn't tell at all how she felt until we left the place and then we had fun running in the rain (I know, cheesey but girls love that movie shit) to get back to my car. Total night and day change from how she was in the deli- giggly, playfully referencing stuff earlier in the convo, constantly smiling and beaming, contributing evenly to the convo without me trying much (sprezzatura). All I could think was "holy shit, this actually is all real" and it felt fantastic to work in my favor and experience it with a cute girl, especially with one I'm pretty into. I feel like I turned things around. I don't know, I just...made quick changes as we interacted, took a moment on the spot to chill out when I realized I was putting forth too much effort. Once I turned it around, I freakin turned it around. Natural least effort stuff, natural chemistry (something I was sort of pulling teeth to get earlier). A real personal triumph. However...it doesn't really count if you hit the ball and don't run the bases...
The change happened so fast, I dropped the momentum at the end, and instead of kissing her I hugged her (I kind of didn't think to kiss her, part nerves and part due to the unclarity of my goal for the day because I was trying to gauge her interest while on the date proper). It happened so fast...I noticed she sort of started to go in for a kiss as we embraced but it was too late, of course. I discussed this with my cousin and he said the result is I'm accidentally playing hard to get.
I know this is prime temptation to chase, so don't worry, I'm still keeping outcome independence in mind. Here is how I want to go about this:
text her tonight or tomorrow that it was fun and we should do _____ next week. My cousin said to not text today but tomorrow or something. Thoughts? Further, I think I have some leeway for showing interest since I essentially snubbed her.
I know I missed a big thing after not capitalizing on momentum, but I feel I still have a shot. Going to absolutely get it next time.
It seriously amazes me how well it worked, like magic...
Any input is appreciated but I just wanted to clarify when to text, small thing. I also wanted to hear what you thought of this: could I have, after I missed the opportunity, gotten out of the car and went over to her (she was going to her car right next to mine in the driveway) and kissed her? If she was already in the car, say like "I have something I forgot to tell you, come out of the car" and then kiss her?
EDIT: I also just realized, I have some leeway I wouldn't otherwise have if she wasn't social circle. Phew. Should be good, just got to pull the trigger next time.
As always, thanks and happy playing
So long and short:
I've known her for years, she just popped back into my life, lunch (second time) today. I couldn't tell at all how she felt until we left the place and then we had fun running in the rain (I know, cheesey but girls love that movie shit) to get back to my car. Total night and day change from how she was in the deli- giggly, playfully referencing stuff earlier in the convo, constantly smiling and beaming, contributing evenly to the convo without me trying much (sprezzatura). All I could think was "holy shit, this actually is all real" and it felt fantastic to work in my favor and experience it with a cute girl, especially with one I'm pretty into. I feel like I turned things around. I don't know, I just...made quick changes as we interacted, took a moment on the spot to chill out when I realized I was putting forth too much effort. Once I turned it around, I freakin turned it around. Natural least effort stuff, natural chemistry (something I was sort of pulling teeth to get earlier). A real personal triumph. However...it doesn't really count if you hit the ball and don't run the bases...
The change happened so fast, I dropped the momentum at the end, and instead of kissing her I hugged her (I kind of didn't think to kiss her, part nerves and part due to the unclarity of my goal for the day because I was trying to gauge her interest while on the date proper). It happened so fast...I noticed she sort of started to go in for a kiss as we embraced but it was too late, of course. I discussed this with my cousin and he said the result is I'm accidentally playing hard to get.
I know this is prime temptation to chase, so don't worry, I'm still keeping outcome independence in mind. Here is how I want to go about this:
text her tonight or tomorrow that it was fun and we should do _____ next week. My cousin said to not text today but tomorrow or something. Thoughts? Further, I think I have some leeway for showing interest since I essentially snubbed her.
I know I missed a big thing after not capitalizing on momentum, but I feel I still have a shot. Going to absolutely get it next time.
It seriously amazes me how well it worked, like magic...
Any input is appreciated but I just wanted to clarify when to text, small thing. I also wanted to hear what you thought of this: could I have, after I missed the opportunity, gotten out of the car and went over to her (she was going to her car right next to mine in the driveway) and kissed her? If she was already in the car, say like "I have something I forgot to tell you, come out of the car" and then kiss her?
EDIT: I also just realized, I have some leeway I wouldn't otherwise have if she wasn't social circle. Phew. Should be good, just got to pull the trigger next time.
As always, thanks and happy playing