Manhattan Solo DG

[D. Gately]

8/1/26 - Approach 1 (DG)

Out for probably 1hr 40mins. Honestly, not much "opportunities" (girls I'd consider approaching). Approach 1 inside a target store, and all the others literally vanished on the street as I was gearing to approach.

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Approaches:

1. Followed Asian into Target store near union sq. Got close and noticed a huge diamond ring on her wedding finger. I hesitated and was about to approach anyway just to do it even though I didn't think it'd go anywhere, but saw another cute Asian girl near makeup isle. I approach the second Asian girl near makeup isle. She definitely did not want to chat and had a closed demeanor. I noticed that early and bailed shortly after brief introduction and short transition.

Passed:

1. Asian girl about to approach but disappears into weird store as I got close. Didn't go on because didn't really seem like a typical public place.

2. Fast walking girl with tight booty shorts. This one looked good. I go down the block a little on my EUC to intercept her, turn around that same block, and she's vanished. Literally didn't see her in 4 directions. Poof.

3. Asian girl, 5 seconds to approach, then disapears into a seemingly long line of girls going into some artsy makeup place? Literally had 5 seconds to approach.


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Overall, I'm not disappointed with my performance this session. Literally, not many girls I'd consider approaching. Only thing I could have done differently is, like, approach within the first 15 seconds or so to have intercepted the girls that vanished before my eyes.

Sessions like this I won't beat myself up over because it wasn't my performance persay that was the issue.

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Short-term goals:

I'm off DG for a couple days per my schedule, then back on 5 days straight. I will be much more militant on my approach goals from here on out. 30 approaches per week is my goal, 6/day of 5 days, ideally. Next week it looks like it's going to rain literally 5 or more days out the week during my DG sessions, so it's going to be interesting and slightly more challenging, but that's the game after all.

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Stats for week of 7/27/26 - 8/1/26:

Sessions: 5
Approaches: 10
#s taken: 1
#s given: 2

So, there was a long line of girls incl a hot girl you like and you...didn't approach? I'm confused.

 

[bkw]

So, there was a long line of girls incl a hot girl you like and you...didn't approach? I'm confused.

Yeah, no real excuse I could give for it beyond spotlight effect

 

[bkw]

8/5/26 - Approach 4 (DG)


Overview:

Low energy. Figure it's because not great sleep. Weak approaches overall.

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Passed:

1. Tall white girl East village. I go to approach, I let her walk by so I can get a front view of her, then I turn around to approach a few seconds later and poof, she's gone. Likely went inside a store.

2. Girl in green shirt hesitated a little too long. Poof disappeared I to a restaurant I guess

3. White girl hair in bun east village. No excuse for this.

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Approaches:

1. Girl with nice curves when I first started. Really, really not in a social mood on my end and approach with low energy and really not much to say. Quickly she says she's trying to get somewhere. Let her go. Approaches out of the principal of it. Likely will do the same for the vast majority of these

2. Girl in outfit that showed her cleavage and ass hanging out the back of skirt. Of course I had to approach. I was so what forced to approach in front of an open window with onlookers and a dude literally like 3 feet away because I had to intercept her. Better open this time but not fully committed on my end. Right off the bat bf deflection. I transition anyway. Short exhange then basically didn't push it

3. Brunette from Miami curly hair umbrella. This one went pretty good. I'm not exactly where I want to be energy-wise and conversation-wise, but decent back and forth conversation. At the end, and after invite to hangout, she says she has a bf which I thought was legit. At this point, I'm exhausted for some reason. I guess it's because I'm not entirely conditioned, but I mt energy is shot. 3 more approaches left though.... ugh

4. My energy is very low. Approaches white girl with umbrella. Didnt go anywhere. At this point I know my energy is not great and I'm kind of just approaching for the "6 approaches". I feel this isn't the best place to be but fuck it

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After 4th approach there was a long span I didn't see any girls I'd be interested in approaching. Energy very low. Try to approach one on way back home to hit 5.

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Session: 2hrs
Approaches: 4

 

[bkw]

8/6/26 - 0 approaches (DG)

I decided to pull the bicycle from storage to ride to the DG location, and to also ride around doing some DG, because I was tired of having to charge the EUC while out doing sessions--it's harder to charge doing vanlife so it takes up more time than I'd like. When I arrived at the DG location I rode around a few blocks not seeing really anything, then decided to lock the bike up in SoHo and walk SoHo for the rest of the majority of the time.

At first, I really did not anything I'd like to approach. Maybe 1 within the first 45 minutes, but that's a big maybe as I am not sure as I didn't get a proper look at her. Later on in the DG session, there were some pretty girls but they looked a little on the young side to me, so I didn't bother. Eventually, a lot of time passed and no approaches so I was thinking to myself, "just approach for the hell of it; lower your expectations, and just approach to get some approach counts up". At this point I was realizing I was being too picky for the day. I ended up passing maybe 3, or even 4, if I'm to drop my expectations.

Lessons:

In times like today where I'm not getting much opportunities, and I'm on the fence with some girls, I need to lower my expectations. This doesn't mean approach girls I'm not attracted to; rather, this means for the girls who skew are "slightly too young for my taste", approach, or the ones I deem "cute enough", approach, etc. I almost did this today but just didn't force myself, which I should have.

Also, I'm going to try to stay consistent with going out at least 5xs a week for a while, so I'm looking at this long-term. Approaching 30 per week is not easy, unless expectations are lowered. Because I'm in this for the long-term, I'll take days like today and help gear it for better infield decision making in the future. I'm not going to beat myself up over this and burn myself out. It's OK. Just learn and continue to improve.

 

[bkw]

Update

After this week, I'll be switching to a weekly-based report instead of daily

 

[bkw]

Weekly DG review:

Total approaches: 7

Nowhere near my ideal goal of 30/week. A couple days I went out and didn't approach anything, mainly because I wasn't that interested in what I saw. Friday it rained hard, and I didn't want to go out later at night.

Part of giving weekly updates instead of daily updates is for a few reasons:

1. I don't want to spam the forum
2. Sometimes my sessions aren't eventful, repetitive, or I just don't feel like posting.

...those are the main reasons.


Once again, I'm going to try and make this a long-term thing of going out every week, doing DG, ideally 5xs a week of 30 approaches per week, so I'm not going to beat myself up about not always hitting goals or whatever. I want to get to the point where I'm effective but also detached so I can treat this with little emotional investment. In the past much emotional investment was in DG, and a lot of that was because I consumed pickup material constantly, compared myself, tried to reach really "good level", and I got results but it came at a price of emotional investment, which when failure inevitably happens, then also comes a sort of emotional depression of sorts. While that investment is motivational, it's not really healthy imo, and it's not good for long-term.

Anyway, I'm in this for the long-term, week-to-week, now, so expect weekly reports for the reasons I've mentioned already. I may post before any given week ends if I feel like posting.