Missed my chance... but now it’s back? Went in with lack of experience

[Start_ed_young]

It started about 6 weeks ago, i got word that this hot girl that was in a class of mine last year as joining our class this year. Part of me was stoked, but another part of me was like “oh shit this will change things so much, I’ll have to behave myself now”.

Here’s a little backstory from last year, not nessacary ,just interesting ( I think) so feel free to skip this paragraph) Last year this same girl that was in my class the whole year. We were in line as a class, during the lay week of school to return our textbooks or something. We had mutual friends, so we were walking. In the same part of the line, out friends got out of line, I say domething to the teacher and she tries to respond to me, but she didn’t even know my name (yea that was a bit of a blow to my confidence at the time)

So when she finally joins the class, she knows of me from this year ( I had improved on myself socially this year I guess)
The teacher, who honestly might have done me this favor on purpose, puts her right next to me, woah, here’s my chance I thought. I remember what I read in girlschase about teasing and not put her on a pedestal, and I come up with the cheek remark and say “ oh, yea. You sit here now” I said jokingly with a slight tone of disgust I guess.

From there things only escalated, I was building rapport before class, she would look to me during emotionally charged moments, and turn around to look at me everytime she thought something was funny that we read or saw in a movie. So it was going pretty well at this point, she seemed into me.

One day when the bell rang for lunch she was walking with her friend was usual and turned to say something to me. After she spoke she slowed down as if hinting at me to catch up. I didn’t read this at the time, but he next day I was able to pick up on it and we talked alone in the hall on our way to lunch I got her number in the cafeteria.

At this point I’m thinking, “ perfect she’s given me her number that means at least some level of interest”
My main problem here though was I was pretty indirect with my intentions in getting her number which I read about a week later, that you should get her number after she’s agrees to a date.

Since then, we’ve texted a bit. This week a few things have happened that have maybe suggested that there’s still a chance for me in here, Wednesday, she told me she got my paper for peer reviews. It was completely anonymous so I’m thinking “ how the he’ll could she possibly know this” I say “huh?” “Oh is it 2 paragraphs or something” (mine was two. Paragraphs out of the required three.) she says “oh yea it’s definitely yours then,” she then ellaborates “ well, you write he way that you talk, it’s pretty cool.”

Know I would not have thought that I would have talked to her enough or texted her enough for her to know “ how I talk” but I guess someone’s keeping tabs.

Thursday I sat with this hot 8th grade girl at lunch. See my FR for more on that. But she seemed sort of pissed, like she didn’t talk to me later that day.
The next day, yesterday, she saved me a seat at lunch and her friend came and asked me to sit with them at lunch. After I accepted , she asked other guys from my table if would come to after she spent a minute begging me to come. ( pretty sure that inviting the other guys was a coverup/excuse. But the girl from this post that saved me a seat spent the first half of lunch trying to talk to other guys(trying to make me jealous?) but her body language was facing me, literally, the whole time during lunch, even when she was talking to people in the oppositee direction. She was getting mad at her female friend and the other guys ( she was pretty heated) but when I talked to her she respond warmly with strong eye contact and smile. Her mood would change. Completely

Here’s the thing, to sum it up it went like this:

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  1. She knows of me through me being loud or people talking
  2. I open with a tease because we both sort of know each other already
  3. I build rapport through some banter during class
  4. I didn’t really mention this, but I escalated through breaking the touch barrier as well and now she is comfortable. With being close to me
  5. I’ve got her interest but I wait too long
  6. I re-open and get her number even though she wasn’t near as interested as she would have been a week ago
  7. At this point I’m pretty sure I’m in the friendzone, but hey I’m new to this it was a good try, i read that article about when you can’t stop thinking about that one girl and I took the advice about meeting new girls
  8. I approach a high value girl at a location where everyonee could clrearly see (by coincidence)
  9. The window re-opened through preselection?
  10. (Now this is in the future) I express interest and try to close? On both her and the other girl who she may see as competition now?

Hey, lemme know what you think, that’s my take on what happened, but I haven’t read much about this particilar scenario tell me if you think the summary is accurate as to what happened and insight for the future on this, also if it will help please checkout my FR from Thursday
As always any advise and commentary is much appreciated.

 

[Big Daddy]

Yeah, your read is spot on. What matters is what they do, not what they say. If she still gives every opportunity in the book to talk/escalate things with her, you're good. You should just be careful to not make her thing she doesn't have ANY chance with you. For example:

You start talking to too many girls while treating her the same, instead of "progressing" your relationship with her. She will think you don't like her at all or that you don't like her anymore if she suspected you might have liked her.

So while pacing your pre-selection with other girls, try to move things forward with her: make a more obvious effort to communicate you want something with her, such as saying the she is pretty/sexy somehow, or interesting, then inviting her out. "hmm, showing some skin today, eh? That's pretty sexy. I like women who are comfortable showing some skin" balblablalbla "I don't know, I like walking, so I like women who walk gracefully too. Do you like walking (initial buy-in)? Cool, so what do you say we go grab some ice cream and walk around someday this week?"

And teasing about both of you being together and use lots of chase framing and see how she responds. Other examples: you might ask if she ever kissed someone, what does she think about sex, past boyfriends. You might tease about not being able to study alone in her place because she doesn't want to be together with you (grin), etc etc. Point is, she has to know you have some interest, and if she give you a chance, you will make a move (which she'll do if she likes you).

 

[Start_ed_young]

So I’ve attempted to advance relation with this girl. I swear to god she’s trying to use push pull tactics on me or something. Here’s how today went, when I enter class and I tell her we’re in a group for review she asks
Me about this thing I did that everyone in our school was going crazy about
She says “ Ohhhh I wish I could have been there” she keeps going on about how much she wishes she could have seen and she wants to hear about it, but once I start telling her about it, she gets distracted by something else.

What?!I’m like fine whatever (not out loud). So we are doing the class activity and I make some reference to her being a “dirty dog” she laughs and (maybe even blushes I couldn’t see her face well)(I’m probably being hopeful here) but my teacher heard me too so she gets mad at me. Then she heard me talking about getting some pussy with my friends, not referring to her, and she laughs, smile, scrunches her face and says “ew” I say “ew?” She’s smiling and says “yea, ew.” I’m in class sort of so I can’t say much more so I just give a sarcastic “mmmhhmm.”

After my teacher tells me to call people nicer names instead I walk over and poke her in the front of the shoulder and say “I’m gonna call you, pumpkin!” She laughs, this is where the push pull is evident again, she gets a question right gives me a high five sort of thing and says “I did it for pumpkin!”. Another thing comes up where she has to make a choice I tell her chose this one, and I say, “ for pumpkin?” She says “ well since you said that” than chooses a different one, (cheeky tease?) I see her later in the hall and she doesn’t really acknowledge me but maybe cause I was talking to a friend, but I said hey, pumpkin” probs over used it right there, she smiles laughs says hey.

Now, my question is what is your interpretation of her response to my sexual comment, and the story really. I’ve still not told her how attractive I think she is bc Idk a good way or time to say, since we’ve been talking just out of the blue after a long time to say that would be odd know, or shows confidence and interest.
I really want to date her, do I have a shot at tomorrow or should I play the long game here and play it
Safe? Sorry if this is confusing, but I want this girl bad and I’ve got other options but she is by far favorite,