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I arrived at the traditional party in law school and took a moment to look around, feel the vibe, see who was there and soon I started moving, greeting people I know, both women and men, setting a social tone early instead of staying static.
Then, I found my female friend BD with her other friends, opening warmly, naturally, like we already have history (which we do, more than a year and a half of tension there) and we quickly synced into a light playful vibe.
Later on, we danced together and she stayed engaged, following, comfortable enough to be there with me and during a game I kept it loose, playful, joking about losing, not caring about outcome, just enjoying the moment and I won.
At some point I suggested indirectly that we should walk around, which she agreed and we moved away from the main crowd, isolating without making it a big deal.
While walking I introduced kino gradually, guiding her, hand on her lower back at times, calibrating as we moved and I could feel her usual nervous energy, that slight twitch she almost always has around me, like she’s not fully relaxed but also not pulling away.
When that happened I didn’t push, I softened, reassured her, told her not to worry, kept things lighter instead of increasing pressure.
At a more isolated moment I cheek kissed her and we embraced (since she doesn’t like kissing in public) and gave her a white flower I picked up. As It was full moon, i guided her look to the sky and i said It was a lover's moon, in all its beauty.
Throughout the night I balanced being present with her and not overcommitting, keeping things flowing instead of locking into one frame, and going from not breaking the circle to noticing other people, especially women, around.
I consciously avoided LT, LM and G because of previous perception issues (the ones who had said they would report me) but they were nearby and definitely saw me with B and her pharmacy friends.
At one point my friend M’s girlfriend C asked about me and her AND I said we’re just friends, keeping ambiguity, not putting pressure on the situation in public.
Later I went to the dorms with my dormmates (they arrived late there) and they had already seen me with her and gave positive feedback, which reinforced the social proof of the night, only saying i should have pushed to sex.
Looking back, there was controlled progression, not forced and compared to before I was more calibrated, especially when she showed signs of insecurity.
Still, I can see that sometimes I lead physically a bit too much and she’s not fully comfortable yet, so the dynamic is still in that space between tension and hesitation.
Overall it was a strong night socially and a step forward with her and with how people see me (I was a bit depressed and paranoid about that reporting stuff, but feel better now).
Then, I found my female friend BD with her other friends, opening warmly, naturally, like we already have history (which we do, more than a year and a half of tension there) and we quickly synced into a light playful vibe.
Later on, we danced together and she stayed engaged, following, comfortable enough to be there with me and during a game I kept it loose, playful, joking about losing, not caring about outcome, just enjoying the moment and I won.
At some point I suggested indirectly that we should walk around, which she agreed and we moved away from the main crowd, isolating without making it a big deal.
While walking I introduced kino gradually, guiding her, hand on her lower back at times, calibrating as we moved and I could feel her usual nervous energy, that slight twitch she almost always has around me, like she’s not fully relaxed but also not pulling away.
When that happened I didn’t push, I softened, reassured her, told her not to worry, kept things lighter instead of increasing pressure.
At a more isolated moment I cheek kissed her and we embraced (since she doesn’t like kissing in public) and gave her a white flower I picked up. As It was full moon, i guided her look to the sky and i said It was a lover's moon, in all its beauty.
Throughout the night I balanced being present with her and not overcommitting, keeping things flowing instead of locking into one frame, and going from not breaking the circle to noticing other people, especially women, around.
I consciously avoided LT, LM and G because of previous perception issues (the ones who had said they would report me) but they were nearby and definitely saw me with B and her pharmacy friends.
At one point my friend M’s girlfriend C asked about me and her AND I said we’re just friends, keeping ambiguity, not putting pressure on the situation in public.
Later I went to the dorms with my dormmates (they arrived late there) and they had already seen me with her and gave positive feedback, which reinforced the social proof of the night, only saying i should have pushed to sex.
Looking back, there was controlled progression, not forced and compared to before I was more calibrated, especially when she showed signs of insecurity.
Still, I can see that sometimes I lead physically a bit too much and she’s not fully comfortable yet, so the dynamic is still in that space between tension and hesitation.
Overall it was a strong night socially and a step forward with her and with how people see me (I was a bit depressed and paranoid about that reporting stuff, but feel better now).
