More success when I’m not actively thinking about game.

Slimjim

Space Monkey
space monkey
Joined
Apr 6, 2019
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I’ve noticed , that when I actively think about or try to implement “game” or when I’m focused on the fact that I want a girl to be attracted to me I end up not having the results I want and my interactions are never as fluid and natural and as good when I’m just being myself.

When I’m just being me , in me with no agendas , and I’m socialising and enjoying conversations for their own sake I seem to draw people to me and girls that I have no intention of becoming intimate with whether it’s because they are taken already or there aren’t my type etc.. I notice show signs of being attracted to me.

It’s quite frustrating because it seems like I naturally have attractive traits and habits , but when I have an interest in someone romantically I sometimes alter that natural behaviour and over analyse. Any tips to correct this?
 

JacobPalmer

Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
Joined
Jun 24, 2019
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The biggest thing I see in what you wrote is that you're outcome dependant in one, and outcome independent in the other. So for a quick overall fix I would treat the girls that you're interested in almost the same as the ones that you're not interested in, and not focus on the outcome so much.

You'll attract them more like a magnet, instead of forcing the interaction.

Also depends....what kind of "game" are you trying to implement?
 
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