USING MUSIC AS STATE CONTROL IN SEDUCTION
I want to take a moment here to talk about making the perfect seduction playlist for dates. While having a solid playlist is always going to be second to having solid game (great seductions can go down, sometimes very easily without a single note of music played), music is such a powerful influence on
state control. It can really be an ally in the whole seduction process when used well (it can also throw the vibe off big time if used carelessly). I think every serious seducer would do well to make a series of playlists for different seduction scenarios. I have been amazed at how playing the right kind of music at the right time has put a woman at ease, or amped up her energy when things were dipping a bit or pushed her over the edge when she was starting to get horny and helped her just let go and go for it. Knowing how to use music as a form of state control is actually rather simple. It is just about reading where the moment is at and playing the right thing at the right time. Having some solid playlists already locked and loaded makes this whole process flow a lot easier than having to come up with some tunes on the spot. Let's dive in a bit more and look at some dynamic considerations.
What genre do I play?
As we have seen on this thread seductive music can come in many different forms. Choosing what genre to play is really about two simple factors
-What are your musical tastes
-What are her musical tastes
Your musical taste can very much come before hers (as you are the one curating the music) but I would still recommend you read the room (read your date) and play music you are confident is going to land. While there can be something very seductive about introducing her to a whole new world of music (this is usually best after you have been on a few dates, or if music is a major connecting point for you two), some genres could really push her limits if they are super out of her wheelhouse. So basically a rule of thumb is this: If you two have some really common musical tastes play to that (with maybe a few curveballs for fun). Otherwise, the genre is way less important than the vibe you are creating, so use cuts from whatever genre you chose but make sure they suit your seductive purposes and don't just play whatever willy-nilly.
I recommend having some playlists built out based on whatever multiple genres you are interested in. You can even mix songs from adjacent genres that flow nicely with each other to create a dynamic playlist that doesn't feel like it is a one-trick pony. I personally have an eclectic musical taste which actually lends itself well to each girl as I can lean into her tastes a bit, and often bring in deep cuts that get her vibing hard.
Creating a vibe
The vibe you want to create depends on the context of the moment. Because of this, I would highly recommend having multiple playlists built around different seduction scenarios.
Here are some scenarios where playing music has been an effective move. I will also include a note on what sort of energy/vibe I have found to work well for each scenario
-We met at a loud club. It has been a high-energy night. Both of us are coming down a bit from the high. The evening's energy has peaked but the vibe is still up. We get back to my place (or if you drove, you are cruising in your ride). For this moment I put on a playlist that is still somewhat energetic, but also less energetic than what was at the venue. I am keeping the energy going but winding things down to a bit more fun/intimate vibe. So chill, fun, smooth. Nothing too low energy, that can kill the vibe. Nothing too high energy, we are already well saturated with those vibes. I pick a genre that is adjacent to the music they had at the venue. I don't play the same type of music because that is played out, and I don't switch gears to a completely unrelated genre as that can be a bit too much of a state change. I am thinking 'seamless transition to a more intimate state'.
-I meet her at a club, the vibe is high with an upward trajectory. We leave the venue together, but she still wants to revel in the party vibes. This scenario also applies for group pulls with multiple girls and maybe even a couple of my homies. Back at my place (or her place, or wherever). Throw some tunes on. The idea here is to keep the energy high. Read the room, and don't go overboard, but you want to keep the party vibes going. I would still change the genres a bit from what was being played at the venue we came from, this keeps things from feeling stale. If we get back to my place and is clear she wants to just fuck, I might skip right to a high-energy, highly sexual kind of playlist (but if she is really geared you might not even be able to press play before she is riding you into the night).
-We had a coffee date/low-key cocktail date/a hike. Pretty much any more low-key date. We decided to cruise around for a bit in my car. This playlist is about bringing the energy up a bit. You want to be chill, good vibes. The kind of music that is all about cruising in the sun/moon light and feeling good. I build this playlist to start somewhat chill (not too chill) and build to a bit more energy (if the energy is pretty high already I might just skip to that point in the playlist). The main idea is to create a free and easy sort of vibe. Building energy and momentum.
-We had a coffee date/low-key cocktail date/a hike and we go back to my place. Or the date is just at my place from the get-go. This is pretty much the same as the last one.
A word on very sensual/sexual j
ams
These are important songs to have in all of your playlists, but you don't want to overdo it at first (they will stick out like a sore thumb and you might come across as try-hard). Think about these songs a bit like fractionation. Slowly sprinkle them in more and more so they kind of just creep into the subconscious, then when things are getting steamy ramp this element up a bit.
It is also good to have a few sensual songs that you can potentially run like a gambit. Some songs that you are really able to articulate what you find so sensual about them. You can use them as a springboard that leads the conversation in a natural direction towards more sexual topics. Use your gut on when to implement these (if at all) and make it feel natural, not like you set the whole thing up.
A quick overview
I use these playlists as a means for smoothly transitioning state changes, building energy up, or cooling it down to a more intimate vibe (read the situation to adjust accordingly)
. This is their main function. Unless music is a strong commonality between the two of us and we have been discussing it a bunch on the date I am not really using this as a moment to show off my musical taste. I build these playlists to be something that fits nicely into the background while building a strong vibe of ease, comfort, and fun. This can be in many different genres. In fact, I am pretty keen on jumping between adjacent genres a bit while keeping the same vibe overall. This keeps the music from getting stale and messing with the state. You often tell when your playlist is working, because she will be bobbing her head along, or just really vibing to the music in general. I sprinkle sensual/sexual songs in just to build some sexual tension (but I don't overdo it). I have a couple of playlists that are made just for fucking. I also have a few straight-up party playlists locked and loaded for the right occasion.
When you have a few well thought out playlists already curated and on the ready using them as a means of state control is simple and works like a charm.
A note on playlist building in general
Make sure each song flows nicely into the next. Play the end of each song and let it play into the next to be sure the transition from one song to the next makes sense. Have smaller builds in the playlist that go back down, until the playlist eventually crescendos. Like waves slowly building bigger and bigger. This will make the overall flow very dynamic.
Also, throw a few classics/hits in from time to time. Songs that you are confident she will go "OMG I love this song". Just don't over do it
Silence
silence can be golden. You don't want music playing all the time, or to just slap her in the ears with music at the wrong time. Pace the moment, be tuned into when the vibe needs to change, and use the music wisely. Allow some breath and space into your interactions. Sometimes when you leave the club it is nice to just have silence together.
I will now leave you with a brilliant album that has done wonders for me on dates. The whole album is a bit of a seductive playlist in itself. It is a pretty low-key, intimate vibe with the occasional sexual undertones. It is not for every scenario. But when the mood is right, just let this one play front to back and things can get rather intimate. Besides that, it is really just a masterpiece of modern music and storytelling. Cheers!