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So, my brother was staying with us recently with his new baby and noticing the way his wife treated him really made me angry.
My brother, good bloke, good looking and great rig, average chat. > 100k salary, could be 200k in a few years
Her, 5 or 6/10, bad teeth, 36 so cant have too many more kids, very boring.
The scene ... they live in Silicon Valley, my brother works his ass off, often > 12hr days, she looks after the kids, insists on having cats so the house stinks, does not do much cooking or cleaning and is generally quite lazy and dirty. He comes home and has to cook his own food, do some childcare and share lots of laundry over the weekend.
He was recently on paternity leave and spent most of it driving round the shittest part of the UK seeing her family instead of going to Tuscany like he wanted to do.
The worst part is he is going along with it, is telling himself that he likes cooking his own dinner (he does but maybe not after a 12 hour day) and a modern man should share the childcare.
I want to speak to him about managing his relationship, I am certainly not going to advise him to leave her but he needs help.
He is a nice guy that has got used to saying yes and is getting played. She has got him doing what she wants when she wants, making the cash and doing way more housework than he should.
I think the real problem is he has no idea how to change to situation, he is too passive and not leading in the relationship and I do not think he knows how to change.
How would you guys approach opening his eyes to whats going on ?
What strategies would you advise he use to regain control ?
Is there any books or material I can point him too ? (Something like Alpha Male Strategies but for guys in monogamous relationships) ?
Help much appreciated
My brother, good bloke, good looking and great rig, average chat. > 100k salary, could be 200k in a few years
Her, 5 or 6/10, bad teeth, 36 so cant have too many more kids, very boring.
The scene ... they live in Silicon Valley, my brother works his ass off, often > 12hr days, she looks after the kids, insists on having cats so the house stinks, does not do much cooking or cleaning and is generally quite lazy and dirty. He comes home and has to cook his own food, do some childcare and share lots of laundry over the weekend.
He was recently on paternity leave and spent most of it driving round the shittest part of the UK seeing her family instead of going to Tuscany like he wanted to do.
The worst part is he is going along with it, is telling himself that he likes cooking his own dinner (he does but maybe not after a 12 hour day) and a modern man should share the childcare.
I want to speak to him about managing his relationship, I am certainly not going to advise him to leave her but he needs help.
He is a nice guy that has got used to saying yes and is getting played. She has got him doing what she wants when she wants, making the cash and doing way more housework than he should.
I think the real problem is he has no idea how to change to situation, he is too passive and not leading in the relationship and I do not think he knows how to change.
How would you guys approach opening his eyes to whats going on ?
What strategies would you advise he use to regain control ?
Is there any books or material I can point him too ? (Something like Alpha Male Strategies but for guys in monogamous relationships) ?
Help much appreciated
