My Daygame Growth Journal

[DayGamer]

Hi everyone,

Here I want to document my approaches to create some accountability for sticking with it.
I have built up some momentum with actually consistently doing the approaches. In the last five weeks I have done 63 approaches, getting 11 numbers and one date.

My main goal for now is to do 30 approaches per week, in the next five weeks, that ist until the 10th of May.

I will be posting at least once per week, on Sundays. I will be posting the number of approaches I did, how many numbers, responses to texts and dates I got.

My more long term motivations are:
- to get to at least one new date per week
- to have sex with at least three new women until the end of the year

 

[Francis]

I will be posting the number of approaches I did, how many numbers, responses to texts and dates I got.

Would recommend writing more than this for longer interactions. Stats are kind of useless without context.

Very good to measure progress and change over time. Keeping an eye on numbers will get you improving, absolutely. But you will get a lot of learning from actually journalling and raw numbers give nothing for guys to help you on.

I really recommend writing what you think went good and bad, points of confusion, etc.

 

[DayGamer]

The weather was nice today weather, and I had a very good daygame session today.

Statistics & Lessons learned:
- 12 approaches
- 5 numbers

This was actually one of the best sessions I had in a long time for me. I really pushed my limits by trying to approach at least once every ten minutes. For this, I set a count down timer on my watch, stopping and resetting it with every approach. This was very good for getting into a flow. While most of the first 4 - 5 conversations were mediocre, I later got three numbers in a row!
Getting into this flow state really makes a difference, I cannot remember a day where I got five numbers!

Highlights from the sets:

I got one number from a 2-set, where the other girl was kind of nervous and skeptical looking, even though I also engaged with her in the conversation. While my target was initially really interested, the nervous energy of the other girl transferred. When I asked her whether she wanted to meet, the girl said "probably not". One mistake there was asking whether she wanted to meet, rather than saying "Let's go for a date sometime next week". Still, I got the number, telling her "she can decide later" whether she wanted to got.

Out of the sets were I got numbers, one said she was in the early stages of dating, so I said I will ask her for a date in two weeks. I am not sure whether it's actually good to wait that long with asking for the date.
During the conversation, she seemed quite interested, even though she had little time.

Another cute girl was just mostly saying "yes, yes", whatever I said. She seemed interested, but a bit incapable of conversation. She may also not be particularly bright – or is this what people mean when they talk about "yes"-girls? She was also very fast with answering my text.

One sporty girl was just on her way to the gym, meeting with a friend. She seemed spontaneous, and she really seemed to have liked my compliment. I went for a quick number grab, without having had the chance to talk much.

I also talked to a gorgeous girl with big boobs and her friend sitting outside at a restaurant. This was actually the most solid interaction of the day, and both seemed very interested and a bit horny. In retrospect I think I should have gone for an instant date, but I already had told them that I was on my way to meet a friend, and I did not know how to back out of that story.

For the other approaches, some were some quick blow outs, but one enjoyed a longer conversation but seemed to really have a boyfriend.

 

[DayGamer]

Would recommend writing more than this for longer interactions. Stats are kind of useless without context.

Very good to measure progress and change over time. Keeping an eye on numbers will get you improving, absolutely. But you will get a lot of learning from actually journalling and raw numbers give nothing for guys to help you on.

I really recommend writing what you think went good and bad, points of confusion, etc.

Hi Francis,
thanks for your reply! I figured my biggest sticking point is actually having a high enough volume of approaches. The general recommendation is 30 - 50 daygame approaches per week, and I barely ever reach that number. So this journal is partially meant as a virtual "accountability partner" to get to that number. So this is, for now, really my main goal.

You are saying that I also need to reflect and possibly write done what is going well, and what is still a problem. I tried to write short comments on some of the approaches to give some more context. Given that everyone (including me) has limited time, I am not sure whether it's better to write short notes on multiple sets, or rather go into detail for a few. I guess we will see how this develops, and how responsive the numbers are, and whether the girls are willing to go on dates.

 

[Francis]

I am not sure whether it's better to write short notes on multiple sets, or rather go into detail for a few

That's a good question! Not really sure.

I would think probably more detail for a few, like one that went the furthest, one that confused you, and one that progressed a little but ultimately went bad.

Unless you start seeing the same patterns with lots of girls... That's probably worth noting.

 

[DayGamer]

Quick update:

So, the "yes"-girl from yesterday was in a very "yes" mood, so we set up a date for today. I was already fantasizing about the lay with this hot girl, thinking she was totally in the mood, from all her yeses. She simply stood me up, saying she was running errands with her mom. Lol, this never happened to me before.

This was very, very frustrating, in particular after the enthusiasm yesterday.

I also tried "royal flush" with her over chat, saying I didn't like the games. She did not like it and got a tiny bit upset .

I was not really in the mood, but still did a few more sets.

Statistics:
5 approaches
1 number

 

[OldGuy]

If you have said you are meeting up with someone (I assume not a date), you can always go for an instant-date and then cancel with the friend (a guy or relative will always understand)

 

[DayGamer]

If you have said you are meeting up with someone (I assume not a date), you can always go for an instant-date and then cancel with the friend (a guy or relative will always understand)

Yes, that would be an option.

Funny thing is, I only said that I was meeting a friend as a false time constraint. I did not want to pretend to cancel my fictitious meeting with a friend for them, as to not seem overly invested. Also there was the other girl, with a dominant personality, which started to dominate the conversation.

 

[DayGamer]

Statistics
3 approaches
0 numbers

Didn't have much time today, but still managed to do three approaches, all of them lasting only very shortly.

The first girl seemed interested when I opened her, but then she saw a male friend walking by and grabbed onto him.
Another girl was on a rush and said she had a boyfriend.

The last was a set with 2 Chinese girls. As there was a crowd, I avoided doing the more visible front stop, and approached at an angle that wasn't the best. The ugly friend made this weird disgusted face, and physically pulled the hot girl away and rushed away. The hot girl actually had a warm smiling in reaction to my approach, but said "sorry, I am busy" and went with her friend.

While my stop could have been better there, the situation was mostly a cultural problem/social awkwardness from their side. Chinese girls that are not westernized often react badly to street approaches, and in that set in particular the jealous friend did to have it.
It was a bit of a mood killer when they are so socially awkward that they try to frame approaching them (or their friend) a bad thing. Might be better to avoid approaching Chinese girls unless they look westernized.

 

[DayGamer]

Statistics
2 approaches
0 numbers

I did not plan a session for today but still made two approaches. A few days ago I realized that my voice is a weak point and I need to work on it. So I focused on projecting my voice, talking slowly, and deeper than usual. The first set was an immediate blow out, but in the second set, the girl hooked pretty much immediately, even without me having to do any crazy stacks. Might be a coincidence, but I have a really good feeling that working on my voice could have a massive positive impact on my results.

 

[DayGamer]

Statistics
6 approaches
1 number

Today, I went out with a wing and got more opportunity to try out using vocal projection inset. The statistics may not seem much, but today felt transformative.

Out of the six approaches I made, there were 3 strong sets, that almost immediately hooked. Basically when I delivered my direct opener, with a more calm, projected, and deeper voice, they sought eye contact and started smiling. Two crossed their legs (which some people see as an indication of a hook point) very quickly in set, and all three were soon very giggly and girlish. They started asking questions – another indicator of reaching the hook point – within a few minutes, something that I often had trouble with, to get the girls invest in the conversation. What I said was ok, but it wasn't better than usual.

One of these girl was waking fast, but in a positive, energetic mood, before I approached. One could nicely see her tits bouncing below her shirt; she was probably ovulating.
She said was already late for meeting up with her friend. This is usually a situation where it's hard to get the girls to stay and talk. However, we talked for what felt like 10 minutes, before I ended the conversation and grabbed her number.

Although this is still a very small sample size, I feel working on my voice could change things dramatically. There is also the caveat that I went out with a wing, which of course improves your mood and your game, but the way girls reacted today, was just so much different. Wow! I don't want to be too hopeful though on how much this improves actual outcomes with larger sample size, but let's at least be optimistic!

 

[DayGamer]

Oh, and the other two girls that hooked, where I didn't get the number were in relationships, or further in dating, which they only revealed towards the end of the conversation.

One really hot girl that was all dressed up, gave a big IOI by just stopping her walk directly besides me, for no apparent reason. When I approached her I went with a particular deep, sexual voice for the opener, she was basically melting in front of me, she gave strong eye contact and crossed her legs. The sexual vibe was just very strong.
It later turned out, she was on a way to her date, who she already had dated some time. I told her that one never knows where things go, that we just should swap numbers and that I would contact her in two weeks, but she did not give in.
Still, I really, really liked the energy from that conversation.

 

[DayGamer]

Statistics for yesterday:
12 approaches
1 contact (Instagram)

Yesterday, I did 12 approaches. The highlight was one hot early 30s woman heavily side-eyeing me walking by, waiting for her bus. I opened her, pointing out that she was checking me out, with good slow and deep voice. She was immediately into it.
Her bus was coming within two minutes, and she was telling me her Instagram handle, without me having asked for her contacts even.

There were some other approaches that I did, some going quite well, but I don't remember to many details.

In the evening, I did some night game in a club, working with my vocal projection, and it was incredible how much better the girls reacted to me than usual. Basically 100% of the interactions with women were positive or neutral there that evening. Otherwise, girls in the club usually tend to be often a huge pain in the ass to me, but not this time. I attribute much to it to projecting my voice, and being a confident, care-free mood, as well as talking to guys in the club before talking to girls. I do not include the three or so night game approaches in the statistics above.

 

[DayGamer]

Statistics for today:
3 approaches
1 number

I did three approaches today. I got one number, from a cute Slavic girl.
I noticed that three things I can improve:
- Speak slower at the opener. The opener was very hastily delivered still, and seemed somewhat nervous. I slowed down during the conversation.
- I did not work with some of the answers she gave me. When she said "Oh, I come from X country", I should have said something along the lines of "X? When I think of X, then I think of a, b, c". Thus, I should focus more on working with each other: Add an assumption or a statement about what she said, and possibly add a question.
- I need to improve the qualification. When she talked about her job first, I should have made it more clear why I find it interesting. I tried to later ask "What do you do besides your job", and she could not list anything that she did besides meeting friends. So, in such cases, I may consider going back to her job, and saying something about how that means she is an interesting person.

 

[DayGamer]

1. Week


Statistics:
44 approaches
9 contacts (8 numbers / 1 Instagram)
1 arranged date where she completely flaked without telling me in advance

I managed to reach my goal of 30 approaches per week, which is fantastic, and even surpassed it. The number : approach ratio is 20%, which is very good for what I have seen so far.

Still very few girls have actually responded to my texts, indicating that my game has quite some room for improvements. Since Thursday, I started to project my voice, which immediately improved the sets that were going well – the sets that were going well were going much better than usual.

Still, I need to focus on speaking slower, and improve working on the topics the girl gives me with her answers.

For the next week, I plan to go out on Tuesday, Friday, and Saturday, and to 10 approaches on each of them.

 

[DayGamer]

Statistics
1 approach
0 numbers

I approached a seated girl at the bus stop, I managed to do a very slow and calm delivery of my opener. Turns out she barely spoke English, but I did manage to convey my interest. She seemed very intrigued and held strong eye contact during the conversation. Turns out, she had a boyfriend. This was still a very good set with respect to how I talked and how she reacted. I had a very strong, masculine presence, and she could sense it and liked it.

This was a much better experience than I had before in situations like this when the girl barely spoke my language.