My mind goes blank with women!!

[Kshatrap A.V.]

This is something that I think happened after 2 occasions.

First one was during September 2024 where I was on my 4th of getting back in daygame after a break since March 2024. And I met a girl with whom I had really awkward conversation that even we both agreed that I should work on improving my skills. And after that I still gamed for a few days but that thing kind of stuck with me. So, my mind started thinking that why bother approaching when i can't converse.

And 2nd occasion was after my oneities ( dec2024 - april 2024) and due to that I had lot of self hatred and I had started talking less and less with women.

And due to this last year was filled with alcohol addiction and then removing it.

Now, today i went out and realised this that whenever I have tried to do out and pickup ... My mind started feeling nothing and blank. Not even nervous like I used to before but like I still wouldn't be able to open cuz there would be thoughts like i can't converse. But I solved them .

Now, the issue is my being in blank state where I can't feel emotions like before in the conversation or approach and cuz of that I feel like all my pickup skills which I had acquired are locked up and I can't seem to access it after dec 2024.

So, the real solution I feel is to re do pickup in a momentum rather than sporadically like i had to do till a few months.

I went out today and spent so many hours and did many indirect and 5 direct ones. And even though I had not much to say, two of those women were still super into me. And today I felt like I had 3 potential dates despite i talking way less than those women. Quite shocking for me.

Main culprit is lack of practice. Nothing else.

 

[Rancorous]

Yep pretty much. You just gotta do it a lot. Keep grinding your social skills and social intuition.

You'll get more comfortable approaching and talking to random women that are out and about.

Remember to approach from the front with good eye contact and talk in a bright confident tone.

 

[Kshatrap A.V.]

Yep pretty much. You just gotta do it a lot. Keep grinding your social skills and social intuition.

You'll get more comfortable approaching and talking to random women that are out and about.

Remember to approach from the front with good eye contact and talk in a bright confident tone.

Yes. That's what i suspected cuz before I mistook to be something to do with my inner game but then realised that it's just the case of certain kind of rust.

 

[Rancorous]

Yes. That's what i suspected cuz before I mistook to be something to do with my inner game but then realised that it's just the case of certain kind of rust.

Keep approaching. Remember to make her laugh,smile,feel at ease. Be slightly leading. Lightly tease her a little bit.

 

[Kshatrap A.V.]

Keep approaching. Remember to make her laugh,smile,feel at ease. Be slightly leading. Lightly tease her a little bit.

I know. It's just that I am coming back after really big break.

But I will keep approaching.

 

[James D]

Used to happen to me too.

Can still happen if momentum is low.

The best cure I've found is to be in the moment and have fun with the interaction. Because, why not? Interacting with a pretty girl is a very enjoyable thing to do.

I've even said things like "I'm totally running out of things to say right now"

You won't spit great game by blurting things like that and probably will make mistakes.

But it helps get over that initial nervous system freeze

 

[Rancorous]

I know. It's just that I am coming back after really big break.

But I will keep approaching.

Used to happen to me too.

Can still happen if momentum is low.

The best cure I've found is to be in the moment and have fun with the interaction. Because, why not? Interacting with a pretty girl is a very enjoyable thing to do.

I've even said things like "I'm totally running out of things to say right now"

You won't spit great game by blurting things like that and probably will make mistakes.

But it helps get over that initial nervous system freeze

Yeah I agree. Have some fun with the interaction. Get to know her a little.

 

[Kshatrap A.V.]

Used to happen to me too.

Can still happen if momentum is low.

The best cure I've found is to be in the moment and have fun with the interaction. Because, why not? Interacting with a pretty girl is a very enjoyable thing to do.

I've even said things like "I'm totally running out of things to say right now"

You won't spit great game by blurting things like that and probably will make mistakes.

But it helps get over that initial nervous system freeze

That's what I believe it to be the case now otherwise before I would seen it as something wrong in myself rather than seeing it as something that improves with practice.

 

[POB]

When it happens, just say: "Gotta say, you're casually distracting me with the way you present yourself and that cute feminine vibe (smile and pause)......"

 

[Kshatrap A.V.]

When it happens, just say: "Gotta say, you're casually distracting me with the way you present yourself and that cute feminine vibe (smile and pause)......"

Thanks. I do say it if I remember anything during that time.

 

[POB]

Are you training conversational topics when you are alone?
Like gambits, cold-reads and open loops?

 

[Rancorous]

Sometimes I like to ask a question like "what's the difference between a frapacinno and a capacino?"

 

[Kshatrap A.V.]

Are you training conversational topics when you are alone?
Like gambits, cold-reads and open loops?

How could I forget this.

Shit. Not even doing free flow exercise now.

 

[POB]

Sometimes I like to ask a question like "what's the difference between a frapacinno and a capacino?"

Gotta be blunt here, but that's not it my friend.
Good news, it's very fixable : )

You have an abundance of resources from this place....for free.
Need to practice the right stuff ASAP:
- openers
- transition 1
- transition 2
- compliance/leading
- kino easy training
- kino struggles (must read Teevster's comment)
- gambits
- example of all the above from a fresh lay report

Let us know if you need anything else.

 

[Energy]

Are you training conversational topics when you are alone?
Like gambits, cold-reads and open loops?

Is this something that you recommend or is this a probable cause of OP's problem?

 

[Rancorous]

Gotta be blunt here, but that's not it my friend.
Good news, it's very fixable : )

You have an abundance of resources from this place....for free.
Need to practice the right stuff ASAP:
- openers
- transition 1
- transition 2
- compliance/leading
- kino easy training
- kino struggles (must read Teevster's comment)
- gambits
- example of all the above from a fresh lay report

Let us know if you need anything else.

I mean it can work depending on the setting. If your standing in line at a coffee shop and wanna hot on the woman standing in line next you.

 

[POB]

I mean it can work depending on the setting. If your standing in line at a coffee shop and wanna hot on the woman standing in line next you.

Fair enough.

Is this something that you recommend or is this a probable cause of OP's problem?

Probably both.
It never hurts to practice alone.
As with any skill, the more you practice, the better you get.