I completed day 8 last Thursday and got a lay out of it. The girls I approached sitting down were not super receptive. They were friendly but clearly not interested. After hitting my quota there, I decided to approach more girls.
I flirted with a group of three and they seemed receptive at first. I took particular interest in one of the girls in a red top. However, I wasn't able to continue the conversation and there were some awkward pauses. It's amazing how a girl's opinion about you can change in a split second from something small, especially when they meet you for the first time. It just goes to show that this really is a skill.
I tried continuing the conversation with the red top girl after the awkward pause (her friends had left so it was just me and her) but she was not receptive anymore and kept looking anywhere but at me. She said she was trying to find her friends.
Later, I decided to go to a karaoke bar since I told myself I had done enough approaching. When I got there it was super crowded and there was nowhere to sit. While I was on the dance floor, a girl started hitting on me, calling me attractive and all. She was well below my league, but I didn't dismiss her entirely since I had not gotten laid in a while.
The long and short of it is, she came on super strong and I made sure she stayed the one chasing, pulling away first each time we kissed. Then I suggested we go to her place and she showed me there. Her housemates were still up partying and one of them was super hot and I thought "Goddamnit! Now she knows me as the guy who hooked up with her not-so-attractive friend!"
Oh well, sometimes instincts get the better of us. I won't be seeing her again but it's not a big deal.
This weekend I was able to approach a girl in the grocery store and get her number. She was super into it, but when I texted her to meet up a couple days later, she said she was too tired and asked if we could reschedule to Tuesday. I actually couldn't reschedule to Tuesday because I signed up for a salsa class after work. I invited her to the salsa class- she objected. I said ok, let's just meet up today then- she dug her heels in. Then I basically told her to let me know when she is free and we could figure something out. Moving on.
At the salsa class the next day, I met a beautiful girl on the dance floor and was dancing with her for a while. One of the instructors who was a good dancer but also quite old asked her friend to dance, so I couldn't leave her on the sidelines all alone
. Anyway, we got to talking and really hit it off. At some point, her friend left the older instructor and asked to dance with me. I was dancing with her but wasn't as into it: I was still looking at the other girl. I think while she was talking to me I threw her hands away and walked up to the older instructor. "Mind if I steal her back?", I said. We went back to having a great conversation and I took her back to the table where she was sitting. I started flirting with her and she smiled and ate it up.
Then, her friend, probably fed up at dancing with the older guy and bitter at me for being so dismissive of her, pulled the girl away to dance with her on the dance floor. I was a little confused as to what I should do here. On one hand, if I went up and tried to dance with them, it would look forced. On the other, sitting there waiting for them would make me look weak. I decided to look bored, check my phone, and make small talk with the people around me.
As they were leaving, I walked them out. I asked them if they wanted to grab dinner at a place nearby but the friend said they just wanted to go home and cook. I said goodbye and started walking down the street and immediately realized the couple places I screwed up. 1. I didn't propose a date with the girl I was interested in when I got her number. I guess I got too caught up in her spell. 2. I realized that I had been extremely rude to the friend on the dance floor. Again, I was too distracted by the other girl to realize at the time. No wonder the friend tried to cockblock me!
Anyway, I texted her at noon today saying we should meet for coffee sometime this week. She hasn't responded yet.
So, back to the newbie challenge. I see that day 9 is approaching girls on public transit. There are only a few busses in my area so I am going to skip this one. Day 10 is to ask 4 girls if they are single. Come to think of it, I already asked a girl in the gym if she was single earlier today, so I guess I've already started the challenge!
I'll approach the other 3 at the bars tonight.
'Til next time!