last night I was sitting down writing a field report and I stumbled on a page that I haven't read in a long time. I wrote that paper a few months ago thinking and writing down a list of every girl that was attracted to me and that had I played my cards right from six years ago when I was in grade 6 up to now senior high school, I would probably have built up a harem of girls and girlfriends. my list had a whopping 107 names of girls that had been from slightly to hot fly attracted to me. I don't know why, but I've always had a something about me that made me popular with girls, well until attraction expired only because of my fault. I have had girls texting me to meet up, girls running up and calling to me and giving me random hugs at school, groups of them at a time, and yet I did nothing with that attention until all those girls moved unto other guys.
there is a old saying though I can't remember who said it " a man is usually his own worst enemy." Think about that for a second. I see so many guys on the forums complaining about how women like them bit is that true, assuming that you aren't bad on hygiene, fashion, fundamentals, and personality? I'm sure most of you can think of st least 1 girl that liked you but you did nothing with. maybe you want a hundred or a thousand women to like you and date you and sleep with you but are you capitalising on that interest?
I'm not posting now to teach anything because I have the same problem. capitalising on interest. it is so Damon true that we are our own worst enemies. life gives you ten dollars bit you want one million so instead of saving up all your ten dollars as you get them, you throw it away. crazy? no it's just fear and every man has it.
im just writing what comes to mind now. I believe field reports are best done when you think carefully and write as my emotions tell me. I have read Chase`s articles on anxiety but I still struggle with cold approaching. when I go out my voice sleeps and scammers and it's one of the main things holding me back.
I'm the article, on going backwards, it emphasises the importance of continuing to always be moving forward. I have been moving backwards a lot my entire life. too many times I meet a girl and we move from name dropper or acquaintances to virtual strangers. or I meet another girl and we move from almost girlfriend_boyfriend to just friends.
the reason why I keep doing this avoidant thing is that I feel every girl I mess up with will tell all her friends about me, word will spread and my reputation will be gone. like I'm protecting myself from hurt. my mind is my biggest enemy because I keep tell if myself I'm short on social status, not well dressed today, I don't feel social, I might mess us with this girl that liked me even if I don't like her. what can I didn't about all this? thanks and if I didn't describe my problem in full detail, please let me know.
P.S. I just edited my post because i saw a few faux passes and hints of negativity. Since I haven't posted a lot on here before I should state that my goal etiquette on the forums is to never purposefully bring negativity, victim mentality, hateful remarks, and especially to USE ANYONE ON HERE AS MY PERSONAL TAMPONS/THERAPISTS. I'm very good at taking good criticism from people so if anyone on their own terms feels to contribute to my posts and they see a flaw with how I present myself, it's very welcome to let me know. I wish to improve and I wish the same for you all.
Troy
there is a old saying though I can't remember who said it " a man is usually his own worst enemy." Think about that for a second. I see so many guys on the forums complaining about how women like them bit is that true, assuming that you aren't bad on hygiene, fashion, fundamentals, and personality? I'm sure most of you can think of st least 1 girl that liked you but you did nothing with. maybe you want a hundred or a thousand women to like you and date you and sleep with you but are you capitalising on that interest?
I'm not posting now to teach anything because I have the same problem. capitalising on interest. it is so Damon true that we are our own worst enemies. life gives you ten dollars bit you want one million so instead of saving up all your ten dollars as you get them, you throw it away. crazy? no it's just fear and every man has it.
im just writing what comes to mind now. I believe field reports are best done when you think carefully and write as my emotions tell me. I have read Chase`s articles on anxiety but I still struggle with cold approaching. when I go out my voice sleeps and scammers and it's one of the main things holding me back.
I'm the article, on going backwards, it emphasises the importance of continuing to always be moving forward. I have been moving backwards a lot my entire life. too many times I meet a girl and we move from name dropper or acquaintances to virtual strangers. or I meet another girl and we move from almost girlfriend_boyfriend to just friends.
the reason why I keep doing this avoidant thing is that I feel every girl I mess up with will tell all her friends about me, word will spread and my reputation will be gone. like I'm protecting myself from hurt. my mind is my biggest enemy because I keep tell if myself I'm short on social status, not well dressed today, I don't feel social, I might mess us with this girl that liked me even if I don't like her. what can I didn't about all this? thanks and if I didn't describe my problem in full detail, please let me know.
P.S. I just edited my post because i saw a few faux passes and hints of negativity. Since I haven't posted a lot on here before I should state that my goal etiquette on the forums is to never purposefully bring negativity, victim mentality, hateful remarks, and especially to USE ANYONE ON HERE AS MY PERSONAL TAMPONS/THERAPISTS. I'm very good at taking good criticism from people so if anyone on their own terms feels to contribute to my posts and they see a flaw with how I present myself, it's very welcome to let me know. I wish to improve and I wish the same for you all.
Troy