Member Poll November 2025: Skilled Seducer of the Month

[Chase]

@Levo was our SSOTM for September and I've just shot @D. Gately a few clarifying questions -- his October SSOTM interview should be up soon.

Meantime, we need to figure out who our next Skilled Seducer of the Month will be!

So fellas -- any nominations?

Potential SSOTM criteria:

• This member has posted a particularly impressive LR or multiple good LRs
• This member has shared some great value-giving tactics, mindsets, or strategy posts
• This member has been active in the community and contributed tons of value
• Anything else where the member is adding lots of value, helping, inspiring, innovating, etc.

Our previous SSOTMs are here.

Let me know who you're thinking.

Chase

 

[POB]

Honestly, I would love to have an interview with @topcat
His takes are always on point IMO.

 

[D. Gately]

I would second that.

 

[Marty]

Honestly, I would love to have an interview with @topcat
His takes are always on point IMO.

I vote for @topcat also.

 

[Prodigy]

I nominate @Will_V its about time we get that interview with him

 

[Skills]

Why you guys keep nominating guys that said no 50 times and already explained the why... Makes the forum look autistic...

 

[topcat]

Why you guys keep nominating guys that said no 50 times and already explained the why... Makes the forum look autistic...

I mean fuck it, I’m up for it. I’ve casually got into offline over the past 2 months, 1 lay, 1 date i didn’t pursue further, a seduction from an international flight I fucked up at the end, and about 25 approaches.

Ideally i would’ve liked to have put in some more reps and got more dates/lays before interviewing for credibility’s sake, but i reckon I’ve got a lot of mindset/frame/novel perspective stuff I can share that guys would find interesting. I’m very experienced it’s just not heavily skewed towards cold approach.

I’ll interview if it’s wanted.

 

[Duff]

I nominate @Will_V too

 

[POB]

Why you guys keep nominating guys that said no 50 times and already explained the why... Makes the forum look autistic...

Ppl can change their minds no?

 

[Teevster]

Ppl can change their minds no?

Make the ho say no

 

[Chase]

Sounds like @topcat is our (now willing) nominee.

I just reached out to him. We'll get the interview set up!

 

[Chase]

Interview with @topcat is now up (1 month late):

Skilled Seducer of the Month, December 2025: Topcat

Topcat, a talented online gamer with 160+ lays, details his online process, his attitude toward relationships, and his transition into cold approach. Today we interview Topcat, prolific online gamer, who's lately been working to make the switch from dating apps over to day and night game. He's...

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[Francis]

 

[Higher]

And I'm like, you know what? I just want new experiences. I'll go, I know this is very low odds, but I honestly don't give a fuck. I don't wanna fuck, I don't care. Right? Some weird shit started happening when I do that, where basically I said this to DoWhatWorks.

My whole goal is to show up and flirt and see what happens. Like I've given up on this shit. Girls would be asking me to come back to their house or they'd be saying, "Can I kiss you?" And like, just grab me and start kissing me. And this happened like for several dates going forward I would be like, "Oh yeah, like, do you wanna come back to mine?"

They'd be like, "Yeah, absolutely!" Like it was really weird. Like girls were jumping me on the dates asking me to go back to this and I don't know what it is. Maybe it was that nonchalance or that not really giving a shit. Maybe some Tao of Steve type thing, where it was just like I was desireless. Right? And from there that honestly light bulbs went off where it's like, okay, this desireless thing, I think I want to do more of that.

Absolute gold.

I'm slowly getting there too. I recall when i was trying to come up with contorted and needy ways to get the girl home. The girl would notice immediately and put up defenses and even laugh sometimes---like, wtf is this guy, he's in an awful rush.

I'm getting more relaxed now and things are starting to fall in place much more organically. I still move things forward and lead, but i genuinely don't care as much about the lay. Somehow nature will find a way.

"Move faster" is a great mantra for beginners. Its power comes from teaching the urgency of leading and that overshooting is better than undershooting. I think "desirelessness" is the step after that and it teaches focus and real presence.