Thoughts on asking your girlfriend if you’re the best guy she’s ever been with flat out?
To confirm she’s not an alpha widowWhy?
Makes you look insecure. She might say yes for the sake of protecting your ego.Thoughts on asking your girlfriend if you’re the best guy she’s ever been with flat out?
thats what i was thinking too, thanksMakes you look insecure. She might say yes for the sake of protecting your ego.
It's like asking someone whether they think you are ugly/bad/etc. The answer will be ego protecting.
Imagine a girl asking you if she was the best girl you have ever been with. That will put things into perspective.
I think you might be projecting a little bit. Perhaps the girl you’re with is the best you’ve ever had and you want her to share that. Or maybe she doesn’t treat you like you’re the best she’s ever had and you can’t stand that.Thoughts on asking your girlfriend if you’re the best guy she’s ever been with flat out?
It may be more projection (in the sense of a relationship) + competitiveness and the need to dominate. Definitely treats me the best any girl has in a relationshipI think you might be projecting a little bit. Perhaps the girl you’re with is the best you’ve ever had and you want her to share that. Or maybe she doesn’t treat you like you’re the best she’s ever had and you can’t stand that.
Either way asking her won’t ever get you a straight answer and will only make you a little more crazy about her.
Don't. You impose an impose an obligation on her - either to lie to you in order to make you feel good, or to hurt you by being honest with herself, or to confirm honestly that you are the best ever, which disempowers her in your relationship. Girls, in my experience, hate all sorts of sexual obligation (unless they're specifically into that kind of power dynamic.) And as has been said, it makes you look needy. Just be the best you can be.Thoughts on asking your girlfriend if you’re the best guy she’s ever been with flat out?
But the way she tells you might not involve involve spelling it out. She might say, e.g., "I've never come like that", or she might cook something amazing, or she might give a very "attached" look and/or hold you in an unusually affectionate way.One thing to keep in mind is that if you are the best she's ever had then she will tell you without you asking
And it's the same for us and most things: "this is the best chocolate pie I've ever eaten!" You don't need to be asked, you're happy to share. And the other person doesn't need to ask because they've already heard it before
Very trueBut the way she tells you might not involve involve spelling it out. She might say, e.g., "I've never come like that", or she might cook something amazing, or she might give a very "attached" look and/or hold you in an unusually affectionate way.
It often won't just be: "Hey, you're my best ever."
Seems like you are getting attached to this girl.It may be more projection (in the sense of a relationship) + competitiveness and the need to dominate. Definitely treats me the best any girl has in a relationship
thanks for the insight
Damn that truth hit home- it gets easier to lose abundance in a relationship. Whats a good way to fight against letting insecurity, ego, and fear of loss get in the way?Seems like you are getting attached to this girl.
You are misinterpreting insecurity, ego and your fear of loss of her as competitiveness/need to dominate.
Quite obvious when you see that you are competing with guys that aren't even in the picture.
She’s told me in the past that im the most dominant guy shes ever been with and the best guy she’s been with in bed, completely unwarranted without me asking so I guess I can take that as a sign? lolBut the way she tells you might not involve involve spelling it out. She might say, e.g., "I've never come like that", or she might cook something amazing, or she might give a very "attached" look and/or hold you in an unusually affectionate way.
It often won't just be: "Hey, you're my best ever."
That's not a "sign". As I understand, that's already a direct answer to your question.She’s told me in the past that im the most dominant guy shes ever been with and the best guy she’s been with in bed, completely unwarranted without me asking so I guess I can take that as a sign? lol
Bro bro bro. The way you’re posting, is the way your girl should be talking in her private group chats about you. Ideally.She’s told me in the past that im the most dominant guy shes ever been with and the best guy she’s been with in bed, completely unwarranted without me asking so I guess I can take that as a sign? lol
Lol I should explain why Ive been feeling this way, as it feels out of character for me.Bro bro bro. The way you’re posting, is the way your girl should be talking in her private group chats about you. Ideally.
“should i ask him if im the best he’s ever had girls?? how do i know??!! lol”
Act in a manner that has her feeling the way you do right now, and you’ll be okay..
the opposite.Hope that clears it up
Lol, basically I was feeling insecure that guys from her past were randomly reaching out to her recently, even though its a common thing with hot girls. She didn't respond to any of them and told me right away without me asking and I value her honesty, but still had me feeling a little insecurethe opposite.