Once more unto the breach...

[the player of games]

I've hit my 60s. I'm not new to game, in fact, I had some great experiences over a decade ago, but I foolishly stopped just when I was building up serious momentum and results.

I'm closer to the end than the beginning and I'm not satisfied with the life I've led. I don't want to die unfulfilled, especially with regards to my experiences with women. They have been wonderful ever since puberty hit and they remain just as wonderful and mysterious now.

So I have decided to enter the fray once more. Hence this journal.

In my opinion, game is not like riding a bicycle. You do not carry on from where you left off. Not even close. It's pretty much back to square one. Another reason not to stop until you've gotten all you want out of it. So square one for me is dealing with approach anxiety again, and in my case, it's amped up by age gap insecurity.

I'm methodical and disciplined. I'll start out slowly rather than diving in at the deep end. There probably won't be much of interest in this journal to start with, but let's see what we can build up to.

I'm mainly using Eric Disco's 'She's Six Steps Away' (6SA) to progressively deal with the AA. This book is awesome - I highly recommend it. It might seem trite and obvious in places, but it's the trite and obvious that hold the deep truths. Indeed, everybody pretty much already knows what to do. It's the doing part that's difficult.

Let the game begin.

 

[the player of games]

D1

Step 1 from 6SA is to just go out and get in the habit of doing so every day, so that's what I did. In fact, I've committed myself to go out everyday for 1 year without fail.

Currently back in my home town, a big city, and there was no shortage of beautiful, young women as I went out and about on a glorious spring day. The thought of actually approaching any one of them seems out of my comfort level, although, as it happens, I did, just casually asking a young Canadian girl now living here why the streets are so empty. She smiled and was engaged and almost looked surprised when I wished her well and walked off.

But actually starting an interaction with a young woman and showing intent? It seems almost impossible to me. But then I realised that thought is a trap. I have to switch from outcome-based thinking to process-based thinking. The outcome is sleep with a beautiful young woman, something I cannot control. The process for achieving that, however, is something that I can. At least in theory. So I shut that thought down. That's not today's mission. Even that open was going beyond the mission, an optional extra further down the line in the syllabus. The mission was to start going out every day. I went out. Mission complete.

Here are some other things I'm doing/have begun;

1. Grew a beard and dyed it. Makes a huge difference to my looks - people guess me to be at least 15 years younger.
2. Committed to getting regular haircuts/keeping my head completely shaved instead of letting it get too long before cutting it.
3. I've also committed to always being well-dressed when I go out, even if it's just down to the local shop for a few minutes.
4. hypnosis tracks - I created a script for myself to start listening to daily
5. Oh, and I started this journal. Not too sure about the accountability before a bunch of strangers. It's more about getting leverage over yourself using your own ego. Will I keep going or pussy out?

 

[the player of games]

D2

Woke up with a feeling of dread. I have anxiety over my impending approach anxiety! Even though the mission today is just to go out, nothing more, no need to approach, my mind is already thinking ahead to when I'm going to have to start actually hardcore opening and showing some kind of intent.

Went to shopping mall. Started chatting to the juice girl while buying a juice. Saw a mother and daughter taking a photo of each other and offered to take one of both of them. They were all smiles. So strange. My mood has lightened and lifted. Turn the corner and the juice girl is taking a break. I reopen. and we start chatting. She definitely seemed interested but I didn't find her attractive so ended the interaction.

Ended up opening another beautiful, young girl spontaneously, asking for directions to the station and she responded with a warm smile. Chatted to another guy who was giving out free samples. Just exchanging good energy. All seemingly small and trivial events, but the difference they created in my emotional state was anything but. What a strange thing the mind is. I woke up filled with foreboding and returned home on a high. Anyway, the mission was complete. The opens were above and beyond the call of duty.

Lol. It'll probably repeat the whole emotional rollercoaster again tomorrow morning.

 

[Atlas IV]

I've got a feeling this is gonna be a great journal.

Followed!

 

[the player of games]

D3

Funnily enough, the high carried over and I woke up with a feeling of optimism rather than dread.

Today's mission was the same, except I was going to hit the local supermarket and shopping centre. Came across a really hot chick at the end of my street which was a surprise. Only after I walked off did I think, damn, could have opened her. So I did the next chick ten minutes down the road, asking her where the shopping centre was.

Not that many girls out but that's fine as I wasn't expecting many - I live in a fairly quiet suburb. But what was interesting was the realisation that here I was going out shopping in my local area, going about my business and now all of a sudden, an everyday activity had now been co-opted into my 'hobby'. I wasn't just looking at the shelves. I was looking at the girls on offer in the supermarket as well.

Followed a really hot, tall chick into the chemist's in order to just drink in her beauty, although again, that's the next step in 6SA. Didn't open her but later passed her sitting down with a younger looking kid in the coffee shop, and they had some books out with 'REVISION' in large letters on the cover. So she could have been under 18. The reason I mention this is that I like to keep records and one of the things I keep track of is the number of women that I encounter each day that I go out that I would ideally like to have approached. At the moment, I only track solo girls. Now the fact that she was possibly younger than expected and not alone is irrelevant to my count. She looked at least 18 to me and was on her own when I came across her so she made the list.

So strange. These are really mundane and everyday observations I am making, although the context is clearly not. The context is one of the seduction of women, so even these trivial details have now become suddenly very interesting to me.

Which brings me to my next point. I believe that game is life. When I was hitting the streets regularly (I used to do it like it was my job, in fact, I used to say as much) over a decade ago, I would come home, exhausted, with my head buzzing and my heart on fire. It was only a 3 month period, and it was one of the most stressful periods of my life, but I have to say, and I've lived a pretty eventful life so far, it was also the period when I felt most alive.

I saw a video on youtube the other night, it's was by Maria-Louise Von Franz, a protegé of Jung's. It was about the anima, the female side of man and she said something very interesting.

The anima is the archetype of life. When the anima is negative, it is the impulse to dream about life and to make wishful fantasies about life instead of living it.

This was me as a teenager and even for large parts of my adult life. Living in a rich fantasy world. I would say that many of us still retreat into that world. Fantasies about women. Fantasies about riches. And it's not helped by our comfortable modern world which supports us in our fantasies, especially pornography and video games.

Maybe my anima is now turning to the positive. Real life is so much harder. But if you live it, you feel alive like nothing else. That's another reason why I'm going back to game.

 

[the player of games]

D4

OK, I've accelerated the mission timetable. 6SA says you should take at least a week for each step, but let's face it, going out each day is not that much of a challenge. More important is getting into the habit of doing so, which I've committed to anyway. That being said, I think this touches upon something so obvious that it is missed in pickup. And that is the question of access. If you are a nightclub promoter, you have access to women. If you are a student in college, you have access to young women. If you are a movie star, you have access to women. If you are in a position of authority of any kind, depending on the circle you move in, e.g. yoga instructor, college lecturer, etc. you have access to women. Without access to women, there can be no game. It goes deeper than that. The right kind of access can greatly facilitate game. I had an amazing experience about a couple of years ago which I might write about in future, describing this in more detail. Anyway - for the rest of us plebs, hitting the streets, especially in a big city, gives us access. Access is the first step.

So it's onto step 2 of 6SA - proximity drills! Went to the busiest street in Hometown. Each time I saw a girl I would normally have liked to approach, I would turn and follow her (just for 10 seconds or so). The idea is to condition my mind/body to turn towards an attractive woman and physically approach as soon as I see her. (Un)fortunately, I picked rush hour to do this, so anybody who was watching me (and the spotlight effect is real) would have seen a crazy dude in sunglasses and headphones walking 10 metres in one direction then 10 in the opposite direction and so on. It was very hard making progress going down the street!

Also, I take back what I've said in other threads. I was following one girl when I noticed another dude beside me. The sixth sense never goes away - I immediately knew this guy was a daygamer and was 'chasing' the same girl as me. From his body language I knew he was eager to make an approach but was trying to pick his moment, so I hung back to observe (after all I wasn't going to open today). Sure enough, he ran up and stopped her from the side. She smiled but I don't think there was attraction. Didn't catch the open or what she said but I think she was giving him the b/f objection. I heard him then say where are you from? She said something then walked off. It's interesting to watch others. It's much easier to be objective. This guy was in his 20s, well dressed, but not enough masculine energy. You could sense the hesitancy, insecurity, muted voice. He didn't spike attraction. Anyway, that's the first daygamer I've seen in years. So we are most certainly not an extinct species. (btw, back in the day, I was following one smoking hot half American/half Italian girl down the same street and was about to pounce when another daygamer ahead of me, younger, well-dressed dude, opened and was rejected. Too weak energy. I was already amped and stopped her hard 10 seconds later. Ended up with a number close. She told me she doesn't normally give her number to strangers )

Rollercoaster of emotions continues. Ranging from the lows - 'what am I doing here, it's too late for me, shit, I don't think I can do this' to the highs - 'it's great to be back on the streets again with so many beautiful, young women around.'

Ended up opening one stationary girl today asking where Starbucks is, who was very positive. It's interesting how one can open when one is not obliged to.

Anyway, time for a quote:

• 'Living is a process of becoming.' - Hypnotica

What am I becoming?

 

[the player of games]

D5

OK, so the mission today is same as yesterday. Proximity drills. See a girl you like? Turn and follow her for 10-15 seconds. That's it. No need to do anything more, no need to open.

BONUS OPEN 1 (copying @gameboy )
On the way to the subway station, I'm about to cross the road and turn and see a stunning, tall brunette behind me, late 20s. I cross the road and head towards the station thinking that if I started the count, she would definitely be on it. (I count the number of girls I would have liked to approach, but I don't start the count till I am downtown.) I carry on walking and think, fuck it, she's too hot, she looks Eastern European, I'm gonna open her. Fortunately she eventually heads into the station. I open her on the platform asking her where she's from? She made me guess so I guess that's a hook but I didn't pick up an emotional hook, but that's OK as this was not a full on approach, just a bonus open. However, being the interesting person that I am, we carried on talking and I sat next to her on the train chatting till my stop. Long story short - number fucking close.

It blows my mind that I nearly didn't open her. It blows my mind that your life can change in an instant, just if you go and talk to that stranger. Now I'm not holding out great hopes, especially since I didn't sense any great attraction from her. But at least the possibility is there. And do this often enough and possibilities will turn into probabilities.

BONUS OPEN 2
Polish chick in her mid 30s in Starbucks whilst waiting for my coffee. Again, guessing where she's from. She was with her friend but I'm guessing from the friend's body language and demeanour that the friend was open to me chatting up her friend from the way she stayed quiet and looked at both of us. Stopped talking and stayed silent and resisted the temptation to fill the pause. She reopened me by telling me where I should visit in Poland. Lol. It's only now as I'm typing this that I'm starting to get that I could have pushed the conversation and gotten her number.

Now I'm in a very sociable mood. End up chatting to a guy walking next to me and when we end up exchanging numbers. Doesn't count as a number close! Also we both confirmed we were hetero so there would be no confusion!

Sociable mood continues - talk to a policeman, talk to a rickshaw driver, finding out about his lifestyle, how much money he makes etc.

Something has changed here. Maybe because it's Friday evening but the streets are flooded with beautiful, young women. What the hell happened since I was away? Or maybe it's because I'm on semen retention.

Even a tranny (I think s/he was one - very tall) catches my eye walking down the street and we both exchange a knowing grin !

I feel great. I'm a great believer in momentum. I've had a good day, I know that inevitable bad days lie ahead, I only hope that I have enough momentum and will to carry me through.

BONUS OPEN 3
Sat down on a girl reading a book on the subway home. I asked her if I can be nosy and find out what she's reading. She was happy to let me know and then we started chatting about the novel and genre. I wouldn't normally have opened this girl but after chatting to her she had such a lovely demeanour that I realised she was a great girl. So she makes the count!

BONUS OPEN 4
After the reader gets off, I open the chick on the other side of me. 'Am I on the right train to...' She's all smiles. Exchange a few words but then I'm thinking, I'm done for the day, I just want to bask in the afterglow.

Life is good.
Game is life.

 

[gameboy]

That's an interesting exercise! I guess it takes a lot of the pressure of when you don't really "have" to open. You ended up opening 4 girls anyway, and even got a number... well done!

 

[bkw]

Fuck yeah. Following

 

[the player of games]

That's an interesting exercise! I guess it takes a lot of the pressure of when you don't really "have" to open. You ended up opening 4 girls anyway, and even got a number... well done!

Yes, but as I mentioned earlier, it's more to try and automatically wire your body to take action rather than fester inside your own head. But I think I did it because of the momentum I built up. Obviously it starts to decay once you get home but the idea is, if you keep going out regularly, the next day your starting level is higher than the previous day.

I also borrowed from @AspiringStoic 's idea on approach anxiety. Approaching without approaching. Very zen. Hope I'll stay that way when the time comes to actually start opening. (I'll just lie to myself that I don't need to open. Purely optional!)

Reading your journal btw. Feeling it very much. You don't know how much of a support it is knowing that someone else is going through the same things as you. The details might seem simple or everyday but I love it all. Better than fiction! And why wouldn't it be? Because it's real life!

 

[the player of games]

Fuck yeah. Following

Thanks! Also reading your journal. We share something in common. I also met Tom Torero once when I was out and about on the streets gaming years ago. He was with a student he was teaching but still had time for me. Lovely guy.

 

[the player of games]

D6

Not sleeping well last few days and it's starting to catch up on me. Today's mission was same as yesterday's, just doing proximity drills, but I didn't feel the buzz like previously. In fact, it was hard to keep out of my head (it's too late, you're too old, you missed your chance, you'll look creepy, you'll look ridiculous, you won't be able to keep this up, wadda wadda) but I ploughed on (mentally as well as physically) regardless.

Fewer single girls about as it's Saturday evening. There were plenty of sexy girls all dressed up for a night out in groups however.

BONUS OPEN #1
Because I've now been opening pretty much every day anyway, I felt internal pressure to do it, so I stopped a girl and just asked her for directions. Easy. But I didn't get the lift that I had on previous occasions.

Opened a gay guy on the train. (I didn't know he was gay beforehand!) Just to get the social momentum going. Opened some random football fans on the street. Exchanged a knowing smile with a beautiful policewoman - she smiled and had to look away.

OK, mission accomplished. I'm obviously lower energy today, it happens. You just keep on going.

BONUS OPEN #2 - kinda!
So I get on the train to go home. And as soon as I sit down there is a young girl in her early 20s sitting opposite me. I'm about to open her when she opens me! I move over to start chatting with her. number close

Don't know what to say. Right now I just feel gratitude.

 

[the player of games]

D7

Same mission as yesterday, just proximity drills, but again a shitty night's sleep. Not feeling it.

BONUS OPEN #1
On the train into town. This gorgeous 18 year old brunette wearing a short gingham dress and cowboy boots gets in two stops later. My eyes are fixated on her perfect creamy thighs as she sits down opposite me, crossing her legs. I'm looking at the perfect skin above her breasts. She is so damned sexy! My balls and prostate are having a riot in my pants with all this stimulation. (I'm D14 on semen retention.) I'm thinking shit, I don't have to open, I don't have to open, that's not the mission, that's not the mission. Fuck it, I have to open. But she looks a bit insecure. She looks like she's not in a good mood. Maybe she's underage? Fuck! OK, I'm getting off in 3 more stops. I start to plan my open. Once there's only one stop to go, I'm I'm going to complement her on her sense of style then walk off to the other end of the carriage so that defuses any tension or discomfort that arises, for both of us. Fuck. Am I really going to do this?

The station arrives. Fuck! A whole bunch of people get in and now we've gone to just 3 or 4 people in the carriage at my end to around a dozen. I think of aborting. My pulse starts to race. I feel warmth in my chest. But my balls are singing, this girl is sooooo hot. Fuck it! I stand up and pretend to look at the map above her head. Then I look down at her in the eyes and gesture for her to remove her headphones. She pulls one side back

Me: I really like your style.
Her: Why thank you (really posh and confident voice, she's smiling)
Me: Do you always dress like this?
Her: Yes.
Me: Well, I think that's really cool.

I then walk off down the carriage to the other end as planned. Station arrives and I get off, but I'm at the opposite end of the platform for the exit so I have to walk back. As I pass the doorway where she was, I look in and she's smiling at me. I wave. She waves back.

so

• It was in my imagination that she would be unreceptive.
• While I was talking to her, I did not give a fuck if others were watching and listening. I forgot about them completely.
• The fact that she was looking at me as I walked past later and made eye contact showed that I'd made an impact on her rather than her going back into her own world. I think I managed to spike attraction.

Another interaction where I almost didn't act and would have been left with nothing but the feeling of a dream out of reach, or the action I did take which made me realise I can cause a young girl to be attracted to me, as well as making her day.

I felt great! If I wasn't so tired, I would have felt over the moon and pumped to do even more. Now I was feeling regret at not staying in set. Damn! (Good. Remember this.)

BONUS OPEN #2
Hot blonde 18 year old walking towards me in the shopping mall. I thought I'd ask her where a particular shop was.

Me: Excuse me,...
Her: "I'm so sorry!" and she walks off.

Hmm. I don't think I looked like a beggar or something.

• Well, this was a rejection, albeit a really mild one. It did put me on a bit of a downer, which is silly, I know. But then I realised this is an opportunity. It reminded me that there will be good reactions, and there will be not so good reactions. This is just the way it is. It's nothing personal.
• But it also made me think about masculine frame. I should not have accepted her 'I'm so sorry' but challenged it. "What are you sorry for?"
• I should have stayed in set and kept my eyes on her and finished the opener.
• Ah, it just occurred to me. Maybe she had an earbud in the other ear which I hadn't seen and was on the phone.

BONUS OPEN #3
Asked another chick for directions. She didn't know. No big deal.

OK. So that's 1 week back into daygame. I went out every day. I moved towards attractive solo girls pretty much as soon as I saw them. I even opened a girl every day I think, which was above the call of duty. And I got two phone numbers, which is definitely a bonus, something I didn't dream of happening - both girls have since responded to my texts.

Tomorrow I commit to opening. I am now committed to opening every day. I will open 1,000 girls.

 

[empath]

D6

Not sleeping well last few days and it's starting to catch up on me. Today's mission was same as yesterday's, just doing proximity drills, but I didn't feel the buzz like previously. In fact, it was hard to keep out of my head (it's too late, you're too old, you missed your chance, you'll look creepy, you'll look ridiculous, you won't be able to keep this up, wadda wadda) but I ploughed on (mentally as well as physically) regardless.

Fewer single girls about as it's Saturday evening. There were plenty of sexy girls all dressed up for a night out in groups however.

BONUS OPEN #1
Because I've now been opening pretty much every day anyway, I felt internal pressure to do it, so I stopped a girl and just asked her for directions. Easy. But I didn't get the lift that I had on previous occasions.

Opened a gay guy on the train. (I didn't know he was gay beforehand!) Just to get the social momentum going. Opened some random football fans on the street. Exchanged a knowing smile with a beautiful policewoman - she smiled and had to look away.

OK, mission accomplished. I'm obviously lower energy today, it happens. You just keep on going.

BONUS OPEN #2 - kinda!
So I get on the train to go home. And as soon as I sit down there is a young girl in her early 20s sitting opposite me. I'm about to open her when she opens me! I move over to start chatting with her. number close

Don't know what to say. Right now I just feel gratitude.

How did she open you?

How is your texting going?

Interesting journal

 

[the player of games]

How did she open you?

Commented on my neck chain.

How is your texting going?

First girl has agreed to buy me coffee, but logistics are tricky. I don't hold out too much hope for this one, but let's see.

Have a coffee date with the 2nd girl this weekend. My concern there is male-to-female interaction, as in I'm not sure I made the initial encounter sufficiently sexually polarised, this being an early stage in my daygame rebirth, although there were hints of it from her side. We'll see.

Interesting journal

Thanks!

 

[gameboy]

Any chance you could let us know the actual conversation, up until the number close? Would love to learn from you.

 

[empath]

Commented on my neck chain.


First girl has agreed to buy me coffee, but logistics are tricky. I don't hold out too much hope for this one, but let's see.

Have a coffee date with the 2nd girl this weekend. My concern there is male-to-female interaction, as in I'm not sure I made the initial encounter sufficiently sexually polarised, this being an early stage in my daygame rebirth, although there were hints of it from her side. We'll see.

Thanks!

Don't worry you build comfort around sex later as well. Use plenty of touch druing the date.

Go for it.

Why logistics are tricky for first one?

 

[the player of games]

TLDR: boring stuff just for beginners

OK, been away for a couple of days on a business trip but still tried to get my missions in albeit not for a full session.

D8

OK, we are on Step 3 of 6SA, which is to 'say something', i.e. open. Now I've already been doing that so this is nothing new. The difference is that I am now committed to opening which I'm also kind of contradicting by adding my own 'if the urge arises spontaneously', after @AspiringStoic's https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/my-system-for-not-feeling-approach-anxiety.30324/
However, as I've mentioned earlier, I'm a firm believer in momentum. That plus my anal personality means that I will be kicking myself if I 'break the chain' so I know that I'm going to have to open at least one girl. But these are still low risk openers - asking for directions or even just situational openers, which come very natural for me for some reason - so I should be able to manage it.

Opened 3 girls in airports. I won't bother giving all the details from now on unless I think there's something to be learned or of interest.

• In the queue to board the flight, there was a short blonde bombshell, about 40. She had an amazing figure, totally flat and exposed midriff and a waist you could almost put just your hands around and the fingers would touch. Wanted to open her but the (natural) opportunity didn't arise. (I say natural, because, if I really wanted to, I could have just gone up to her regardless - if you can see her, the opportunity is nearly always there.) Tried several times to get eye contact with her but to no avail. She also looked quite serious so my mind was coming up with objections.
• At my destination I needed to find where a certain shop was, as that is where someone would be meeting me. Went back into the terminal after looking outside and who was there? The blonde. Asked her if she knew where X was, which she didn't, but she was very chatty and ready to engage, as if she knew me already, completely the opposite of what I'd imagined. If it wasn't for the fact I was unsure of whether my contact would be there or I'd missed them, this would have been a great opportunity to switch from indirect to direct. I'm fairly certain she would have been receptive.

So that's the lesson. What you think she is like or how she is going to react is most likely negative bullshit in your head. Open anyway.

D9

• I was looking for a girl to open (they only count if they are attractive enough) at the airport on the return flight. I'd seen a tall brunette passing by earlier but she wasn't alone. Then I ran across her again but this time solo and asked her if she had had a good time here or something like that as I was walking past. She (?20 Polish) told me that she only had 20m before her flight and asked if I was on the same one. She was also trying to find her friend. I told her she needs to hurry. Then I saw her flight was on final call and I caught up with her and told her so.
• Later on, I came across her in the queue and saw that she would be fine and I re-opened. Then her friend came to join us but I ignored her arrival. I asked her where she was from, that I'd been to Poland and couldn't understand why Poles would want to live in Britain. It's interesting that in this situation she was continuing to engage like saying I'd probably been to Krakow and so on, when I told her I'd visited. Anyway, I could have hung around for a lot longer but I ejected. Staying in set is not the mission. Yet.

The lesson here is that it was not too difficult opening this time because I'd been building social momentum all day. I spoke to married couples with babies, businessmen, the girl behind me, the woman next to me etc. It was almost automatic to start speaking to people so opening an attractive girl now seemed like a trivial extension of what I was already doing.

D10

The emotional rollercoaster continues. Felt I was on a roll and on a high Monday night. Was dreading going into town come this morning.

Long story short, I ended up opening 4 chicks out of a possible 11.

OPEN #1
2 girls seemed to be messing around and were blocking my way going into a shop. They apologised and stepped aside. They looked around 20 and one was cute.

Me: You look like sisters. (They laughed and hooked immediately.)
#1: We are! (They obviously are not.)
Me: Yeah, I can see that. Same curly hair, same jacket, same top. Do you two coordinate before you go out together?
#2 (cuter): Yeah we do.
Me: But you messed up. She's wearing jeans and boots (#2) and you are not (pointing to #1 who had tights and sneakers. They were both loving it and all smiles.)
#1: Yes, but I have different coloured socks.
Me: (Turn to #2) You will go far. (Turn to #1). You are doomed!
This caused #1's jaw to drop and she started to qualify herself whilst #2 laughed. At this point I smiled and went into the shop.

Premature ejection, but that's fine for now. Keep going.

OPEN #2
Lovely, tall blonde Scottish chick inside the shop in a long summer dress. I'd got a bottle of water and overheard the shop assistant serving her say, you're looking nice today. She said thank you.

Me: I second that.
Her: Wow, I should come here more often.
Me: Where are you from?
Her: Glasgow.
Me: You can't be. I can understand you.
Her: I'm not coming here again. (lol)
She took what she bought and walked out. I could have reopened her later as I saw her with the first 2 girls. For future reference.

OPEN #3
Very cute young girl with slender figure and make up on walking down the street. Asked for directions. Lovely girl, very helpful, but possibly underage once I heard her voice. Leave it at that.

OPEN #4
Get on the train to go home. I have the choice of sitting next to the black guy or the cute blonde or somewhere further down the train. Normally, I would have sat further down the train so as not to appear creepy. This is not what 6SA says you should do, so I did what he said and I sat down next to the blonde.
The black guy and his friend look perplexed at the next station and get off in a hurry. Even the blonde is wondering what's going on.

Me: They are football fans who just realised they are on the wrong branch line.
Her: Oh, I see.
Me: I know because I just did the same thing in reverse. I ended up on a station full of football fans.
Her: she laughed and said something, I don't remember
Me: You have an accent.
Her: yeah, I'm born in country X and now live in country Y
Me: (OK, at this point I was floundering a bit) Is that a lacrosse stick?
Her: hockey
Then she started looking at her phone and I put my headphones on. I think that this is salvageable but I had to get off at the next stop so I just let it go. There was no spark there anyway, but that doesn't mean that it can't be engineered. However, this is a beginner's journal...

Oh, there was another girl that I opened, not even attractive but I did it to try and build some social momentum.
Me: Excuse me, can you tell me if I'm heading in the right direction for X?
Her: Yes, but I'm not from around here.
Me: OK, thanks. Where are you from then?
Her: I'm sorry, I'm not in the mood for small talk.
Me: Ah, OK.

Now this is boring and uneventful, but for me it was a good experience in fact, even if it wasn't in feeling. This is a 'rejection' but on a scale of 0-10, 0 being no rejection and 10 being 'fuck off you ugly creep old enough to be my father before I call the cops' being a 10, it counts as a one. It felt a little odd. A little bit of a downer, but not majorly so. But I savoured it. I have no doubt that if I carry on this part, I am going to get a lot worse.

Summary - I kind of feel it wasn't a great day. I didn't feel as if I built up much in the way of state, unlike previous days. but framing and mindset are vital, so let me remind myself.

1. I continue to go out every single day, even when I'm travelling.
2. I continue to open every single day.
3. I continue to complete the missions.
4. I don't expect all days to produce results. I can only control my actions. I took the actions (although I could have improved on only 4 out of 11 possible opens) and therefore this meets the definition of a good day.

Keep going.

 

[the player of games]

Don't worry you build comfort around sex later as well. Use plenty of touch druing the date.

Go for it.

Thanks! I'm going to take your advice!

Why logistics are tricky for first one?

She's moving country. However, it so happens I'm going to be in the same city in a few weeks.

 

[the player of games]

Any chance you could let us know the actual conversation, up until the number close? Would love to learn from you.

OK, but I will try not to give away too many personal details. Like you, I value my privacy but also that of the girls I engage with.

You might be disappointed. Perhaps you are thinking that there are some special lines or techniques I use to get the number. I don't, but I am generally good at making girls feel comfortable. I do this by being genuine and sincere and also the vibe that I give off. Vibe is everything and I'm conscious of where I have deficits and how I can improve it.

Girl #1
I opened her on the platform by guessing where she was from. I got it wrong but I know a little about a lot of things (advantage of being in your 60s) so I was able to talk about her home country and even speak a few words of the language.

When the train arrived, I was surprised that she wasn't moving to get in so that allowed me to take the lead. I ushered her in whilst talking and sat down next to her and carried on.

This girl is very hot. In fact, she had an air of haughtiness about her as she is no doubt used to lots of attention from guys. I introduced myself and offered my hand. She told me her name. Handshake was partial and weak. (She has very feminine hands btw - long and slender.) I take mental note.

It turns out we have a few interests in common so we are able to 'bond' over that. So when I find out she likes the same type of music I high five her and she responds. (This is also more early kino as well as compliance.)
Then there are pauses and I try to sit with them. Let her say something first, which she does a couple of times. (I'm not going to wait forever for her to say something as I want to move things forward.)

There is more general chit-chat. When I find out she's moving country in a couple of weeks I tell her that I'm going to be there too, we should meet up for a coffee. She asks me if I have Instagram. I do but I say no, (which is kind of true as I am planning on starting a new profile just for game). I then say, but you have WhatsApp don't you, getting out my phone. I then get her details and carry on chatting as normal till my stop arrives. I again offer to shake her hand and say nice meeting you. This time the handshake is full and firm and she is all smiles as I leave the train. (She has the most amazing lips btw.)

Girl #2
Once she comments on my neck chain I move across to sit next to her and take it from there. I use it to segue into another topic which I know a lot about and she is very interested.

As with the other chick, there are quiet pauses and I let her fill them. She asks me what I do and I tell her and then she tells me other personal stuff that is related to my occupation and what she does. So it seems to her (and to me to be honest) that there are lots of serendipities which is helping things along.

btw, early on I ask her how far she is going as that allows me to plan when I have to ask for the number by. I did the same thing with the first chick as well. Fortunately in this case, as with the other girl, I had time and would be getting off first, which I guess also gives a psychological boost - I am leaving them and not the other way round.

Honestly, at this point, we are getting on really well. She is almost gaming me. If I can just get enough time with girls and can get talking, things start to swing in my favour. At the same time, I am always cognizant of how much I am talking and how much they are and I dial it down the further the conversation goes to try and draw more out of them. But I'm not just pumping them with questions. When they give me information I make a comment or observation which relates to them and their life. And this is easy for me as I am naturally interested to know more about them and their background.

So by now I know the chances are high that I can number close her. I ask her when she is next in town as we should get a coffee and I get out my phone. Done. Continue with chat.

I also touch and let my hand linger on this girl's shoulder when I leave as it feels right.