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Feel like this should've been a layup, opinions please:
Came back to the party just before closing time and saw a fellow white guy talking to two cute girls. I swoop in and they all happily welcome me. I talk mainly to one of the girls. Few minutes later the party closes and as I'm outside starting to walk home, her friend opens me. We're headed in the same direction, so naturally I suggest we all continue together. We pair off and I probe for plans; my girl could stay up later. I suggest we stay together longer and she's open to the idea.
My thought at this time is simple baby step pull.
I first get her to take my subway line and maybe agree to get off at my station.
At the station, the other two go the opposite direction and I think it's a done deal. The first flash of 'this is actually going to happen' hits. We do some basic vibe building chitchat with flirting mixed in so I make sure she knows what's up.
She's looking at all the maps because the last train comes soon and still isn't 100% on staying with me.
She asks what we're going to do and I say we'll chill and language exchange. She says she's tired and doesn't want to drink more. Says she's a little drunk and asks if that's okay with me. I say yes I am too.
Circumstances are a huge green light. But she's not very receptive to touch at all, which is weird.
She's on the fence so I baby step further by saying she'll just walk me home, joking about safety. Still looking at maps and even makes a comment about taking a taxi home later. I agree. We get off together.
As we walk back she tells me a story about how she got matched with a language partner who didn't want to exchange language, "only wanted love" and she blocked him because of bad vibes.
When we get to the door, she refuses to come in. I persist to no avail "we'll just talk for a few more minutes" "we won't do anything we're not comfortable with" "We have a good vibe, let's continue"
But it was a hard no I couldn't get around.
"I just met you 1 hr ago" "your home is a private space" "it's my rule" "I have to work tomorrow" -she's now saying we can meet another time somewhere else.
She leaves to take the last train so we exchange contacts and names.
I text her "get home safe" to open the convo
she says "yes I get home now"
my thoughts on what went wrong: journal
Came back to the party just before closing time and saw a fellow white guy talking to two cute girls. I swoop in and they all happily welcome me. I talk mainly to one of the girls. Few minutes later the party closes and as I'm outside starting to walk home, her friend opens me. We're headed in the same direction, so naturally I suggest we all continue together. We pair off and I probe for plans; my girl could stay up later. I suggest we stay together longer and she's open to the idea.
My thought at this time is simple baby step pull.
I first get her to take my subway line and maybe agree to get off at my station.
At the station, the other two go the opposite direction and I think it's a done deal. The first flash of 'this is actually going to happen' hits. We do some basic vibe building chitchat with flirting mixed in so I make sure she knows what's up.
She's looking at all the maps because the last train comes soon and still isn't 100% on staying with me.
She asks what we're going to do and I say we'll chill and language exchange. She says she's tired and doesn't want to drink more. Says she's a little drunk and asks if that's okay with me. I say yes I am too.
Circumstances are a huge green light. But she's not very receptive to touch at all, which is weird.
She's on the fence so I baby step further by saying she'll just walk me home, joking about safety. Still looking at maps and even makes a comment about taking a taxi home later. I agree. We get off together.
As we walk back she tells me a story about how she got matched with a language partner who didn't want to exchange language, "only wanted love" and she blocked him because of bad vibes.
When we get to the door, she refuses to come in. I persist to no avail "we'll just talk for a few more minutes" "we won't do anything we're not comfortable with" "We have a good vibe, let's continue"
But it was a hard no I couldn't get around.
"I just met you 1 hr ago" "your home is a private space" "it's my rule" "I have to work tomorrow" -she's now saying we can meet another time somewhere else.
She leaves to take the last train so we exchange contacts and names.
I text her "get home safe" to open the convo
she says "yes I get home now"
my thoughts on what went wrong: journal
