Player support request - The Bar Tender

[The_real_AFC]

I recently started work at a local bar. During my first trial shift, I met this girl. 5 ft 4, Caucasian and wears an inordinate amount of make up (still pretty hot) and she's 19.

Our relationship so far has been one of me being very elusive. She's not entirely sure what my MO is as I have kept her largely in the dark about that. I guess she's intrigued by the mystery (at least I think that's why she keeps talking to me).

Tonight I spoke to her briefly about a guy she's trying to get with. She said she's not pursuing it further, reason being that the guy has a girlfriend. At that point I demanded her number, to which she relented, giving it to me. A few moments later this guy walks and tries to game her, even though she was supposedly into me she was actively engaging this guys advances. I semi confronted her about it - hard to explain but I playfully entered the scene with them both in the smoking area talking. I instantly understood the situation and left, but I shot her a text message:

Me: Mixed race guy has some game
Me: I bet £100 bucks your'e going to Fuck him

About 45 minutes later

Her: I have standards
Me: Ouch, thats harsh
Me: The guy worked pretty hard
Her: He's not my type (or something along those lines)
Me: Hang in there kiddo, eventually some guy is gonna come swoop you off your feet

On the one hand, maybe she's bullshitting me, but after this I'm inclined to think there's no loyalty where this chick is concerned. She's just as likely to go for the next random guy who gives her attention, and I am not going to get myself emotionally invested as I tend to do (a habit that I will murder in time).

My strategy at this point is to cultivate other options, distance myself from her more and make myself visibly surrounded by women. That last part I am working on because lets face it, that's the only thing that makes women really stand up and take notice.

What I would like at this point is some advice as to how you guys would have handled it, and what I could do going forward.

Thank you.

 

[Fuck This]

You can comment on her suitors, but don't become her texting buddy. Now she feels qualified to comment to you when you engage a woman in front of her...How do you feel about that?

You are going to have to project an image of discernment, and not give her the feeling you will bed every dirtyleg that bats her eyes at you. Only then will she compete for your attention.

If you maintain a friendship at some point she is going to ask you what your standards are, and you better be solid on what you want. If she is angling for you she is going to try qualifying herself. Maybe not in words but actions over time....Watch her and see if her dress and behavior change around you.

She is going to be tuned into when women are attracted. She might make a good wingman. Or she might be late at the bar and "need a ride" either way be clear with her to avoid her being butthurt if you take another woman home....