Premature ejaculation help!!!!!!

[illmatic]

Opening girls, moving girls, overcoming LMR are all good but when one fails to deliver in bed, it ruins the experience for both of you. I cant tell you guys how much this frustrates me. I dont masturbate and so did not develop bad sexual habits from it. And i have tried everything i could lay my hands on from technique to technique. Sometimes, i last under a minute. It's that bad. It even makes me ask whats the point of even approaching girls in the first place sometimes.

Anyone who overcame this should please help and the rest of you with insights, pls do too. CHASE!!!! I've come to trust the solidity of anything you recommend cos of the solid research behind it. If you could do an article on this that proffers a real solution (which is your forte, anyways), I would greatly appreciate it and I'm sure a lot of guys on here would appreciate it as well. And, i'm not trying to patronize you here, but i believe there would be even more traffic to the site cos guys world over are dealing with this thing. All that apart, please a GC faithful is in need of your help.

Thanks a lot, guys.

 

[Richard]

I'm not sure what the problem is, but, if you're not having sex too frequently. The first time you do in a while you're more likely to cum early and have premature ejaculation, and I find that, before bedding a girl (if you know the two of you will be fucking that day) it's best to masturbate, rub one out so you're more prepared. But, I don't know the details of the problem, so this is the advice I can currently offer you.

As a side note! I've had a couple friends who overcame this problem via this book, the aptly named "How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation" by Helen Singer Kaplan
Check the book out, I read it to see what it was all about while my friends had talked about it, and, she goes into great detail about what causes PE and self-help techniques and practices you can do in privacy to help yourself out.

Hope this helped,
Richard

 

[illmatic]

Thanks a lot Zphix. I'll check that book out. Funny thing though is, I do have quite frequent sex. I would not say I just recently got exposed to sex. I have had sex with a number of babes and that's why Im a little worried cos I figured it should have been overcome now. And besides, I've read LRs or first timers who went on for 45+ minutes.

Anyways, I'll check that book out. Thanks again, man. Any other comment or help is very much welcome.

 

[Richard]

http://www.wikihow.com/Control-Premature-Ejaculation

Here's another link I found for ya. The book covers a few of the same techniques just more in-depth, however, I figured you may not be able to get your hands on the book immediately, so the website should serve as a nice temporary help plan. One interesting thing that the site says, as I said before, is masturbation before sex, and that studies have shown that gentle, more frequent masturbation actually has quite a few health bonuses, and allows you to last longer than the last time you came was.

This website is actually quite useful and informational. Truth be told, I've never had PE, but with my ex it took her 30 minutes to cum, and I had to learn to fuck for longer than 30 minutes without cumming, and sheer mind power ( I believe anything can be overcome with the power of your brain) got me past 30 minutes, you'd be surprised man.

Anyway, enjoy yourself, and enjoy the reading,
Richard

 

[illmatic]

Thanks again man. Checked out the link. Would give those a shot too although I have tried many of those.

Any other help from guys here would be appreciated. CHASE!!!, could you provide some insight, please.

 

[The Tool]

If all else fails talk to your doctor about Male enhancement medication such as cialis or Viagra. Because you can then proceed to cum. After which you will stay hard (extremely) clean yourself off. slip on another connie and get right back into the action. and since you already orgasmed itle be a while before you do it again. And if you do repeat the same process.

Note Cialis (which is the best) works as a PDE5 inhibitor. Which means you only get hard through stimulation of your penis as in being touched or sexually turned on.(so as soon as your not sexually aroused or stimulated you will become soft. so its realatively safe if you do not abuse it) and it has a half life of 17 hours so its effects can be noticed for a full 2 days. Which is why it is known to frat guys as "weekend warrior" because you take it sat morn and have all the sex you want sat and sun.

Note with all drugs do not abuse as this can cause issues

 

[TylerDurden]

Something that helps is breathing, being relaxed and thinking about other things, like her body, kissing, not about ejaculation.
Another good tip is trying to relax your pelvic muscle. When you stop peeing you use the muscle I'm talking about.
It might even help to excersice this muscle, google kegel excersises man for some good examples.
If this muscle is relaxed it's difficult to cum.

Also It's easier to hold if she is on top, mostly because it's easier to relax that muscle.

And finally, you can stop every few minutes to change positions and you can put some fingering/oral mixed up to let you rest if you're in a pinch (pressing the head of your penis to cut circulation also helps in these rest moments)

 

[allanmogale]

I've recently had this happen to me once with a rather attractive, but badly rumored girl in school that I've been dating for a week. On the first round, due to excitement, I guess, I lasted for about barely three minutes. I quickly pulled back and pretended as if there was something wrong with the condom I was wearing and ran off to the bathroom, cleaned myself out and put on another rubber.

When I got back to my room, she asked "why don't you wear your cloths back on"... "sex with cloths on?" I replied while getting in bed with her. I didn't know anything about premature ejaculation back then, and I was afraid that I'd last for yet another two minutes before I cum. I let her lay on my chest and explained "Government condoms sit very uncomfortably tight on me, and we can't have sex without a condom on", but that was only an excuse. The girl has later been distanced with me. I was supposed to see her today, but she didn't show up. Anyway, the advice given here is all good. Hope your problem doesn't persist

 

[LucidityComeBackToMe]

Yes PE is a horrible problem. In my case it is due to both mental and physiological factors. I have a condition called CPPS (Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome) and my muscles are in a chronically tight and spasmic state. I experience neuropathic pain all day pretty much and have learned to live around it. The unfortunate consequence of this is extreme premature ejaculation and just recently erectile dysfunction issues.

I remember when I was 18-19 I loved to go to strip clubs to get lap dances. The CPPS symptoms started/flared up around age 20 and just having a girl on my lap could get me to the point of no return!!! I pretty much stopped going to strip clubs because it was pointless to get lap dances anymore since I would blow my load in my pants right away without enjoying the dance. After this I pretty much spent my 20s being asexual and hardly tried to pursue women at all.

I just recently started getting out there and dating but have not hooked up with anyone yet. I have only had sex with escorts and I always have to go for multiple rounds because I blow my first load without them really having to touch me. The second round I can usually last for 5 minutes or so which is still not great.

I feel you man. This is a horrible problem to have. I am working on my fundamentals with women but always have the thought in the back of my mind of PE. The idea of even having sex will sometimes make me have involuntary muscle spasms and extreme amounts of anxiety. I am hoping to find a woman that can understand this type of condition but I'm pretty sure she would cheat on me with some stud that can plow her right. Other girls would just laugh and probably talk about me to their friends.

 

[illmatic]

Hey guys,

Thanks a lot for all the help you guys have offered. Very encouraging. Sorry for not replying earlier.

Anyways, I have tried most of the things discussed here cos I'm a serious reader and a committed learner (which is why I'm sorta addicted to GC..hehe). I have to admit that when I read Zphix's and Narrow J's LRs, I feel really jealous of how they give babes 3 orgasms and stuff since you really cant do that much inside her if you have PE. The whole thing is quite sad cos I have a really long schlong.

I used to think it was physiological since my dick is bent a little downwards when erect but I recently realized it couldn't be this since on the second round I could go on and on until I start to pound hard and cum. So, this has further fanned my desire to get this thing sorted. I know I could clean up and go for the second round blah blah but it takes me a while to get hard again for the second round (any ideas appreciated).

Just ideas from my personal experience on what has worked for others experiencing this:
- Breathing deeply
- Not thinking getting laid is something novel and rare and generally having more and more....you become better conditioned
- Identifying your point of no return (that point where ejaculations is inevitable)
- Knowing it is something you would get over at a point in your life anyways since your nervous system becomes less sensitive

I am also thinking of picking a pocket vagina called Stamina Unit from Fleshlight.com even though I'm not really a fan of masturbation. But I guess for conditioning sake, it's kinda worth it.

Learning a lot on here and I wont let PE get the best of me and stop me from improving in an area so fundamental and important. Thanks guys for all the help.

 

[Atra]

A late reply here, you've got tons of great advice already, but if nothing else helps, some medications are known to prolong ejaculation time, i.e. antedepressants from the SSRI (serotonine reuptake inhibitors) group. For some people suffering from depression, this may be a unwanted side-effect from medication, for others a beneficial effect.
Of cource, it's best if other methods like the ones mentioned up-thread work.

 

[Landlord]

I posted in two other strings here on Pe and Ed already have a look there if interested
With my ex wife I found thinking about tommy herr-- second baseman for the 1982 World Series winning
At louis Cardinals helped me last longer--- but it probably didn't do wonders for the strength of my erection!!