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So some of you may have seen I posted about a girl that I had been seeing for about 3 weeks that was a really conservative virgin, I just went on a short flight to another country with her. It was actually a great idea - we had a really good time, unluckily she was on her period but the first night we slept together anyway (I framed it as totally not a problem before we left - I can sometimes predict what part of a cycle girls are in). Some pain, she came that night which was good (she was very emotional about it), but it can be difficult having amazing sex when she's in pain and on her period, so only happened once that night... She told me she had liked me since the first time she saw me. Said she almost fainted when I came and got her number (bear in mind she had been ignoring me all that night - avoiding me).
Anyway this is clearly the start of a "relationship" of sorts. I have been in a long LTR before so I know things about maintenance and about salvage, but I'm not an expert on setting all the right frames from scratch- especially since I know I need to maintain abundance (one mistake I've learnt from in the previous LTR). I know this is one point is essential since the girl is always being approached and therefore has the abundance mentality built in! Do I frame keeping my abundance mentality as a normal thing? This is the very very start so we are not even really in one yet but I can tell it will be arriving soon - lets discuss what we think are the perfect frames....
Its the holidays soon - so I'll have been seeing her for 4 weeks by the time we split for the 3/4 week holidays, any frames I need to be setting for this time in advance? How would you approach this - there might be some big questions coming from her over the next week....also how to act towards her during the time apart? - I can't mirror her because she totally follows everything I say - submissive hardly takes any initiative - its all looking to me for what to do....
I would really like to get this one point down perfectly lets talk about maintaining abundance mentalities at the start and the transition phase into a relationship
Not just that but also keeping our process sharp and honed and continuing to improve it throughout.
I've been thinking of using a trick I learnt of just having loads of female friends around - or at least as many as her male ones. I think one important distinction I need to make though is to not have had sex with them - they need to be new friends - otherwise she will ask/find out and then that could start a load of problems.
Oh and a small note - how do you sort out money? - I've tried to start an alternate day/date spending idea - one day I pay everything next day she does - not sure its working very well though.
Anyway this is clearly the start of a "relationship" of sorts. I have been in a long LTR before so I know things about maintenance and about salvage, but I'm not an expert on setting all the right frames from scratch- especially since I know I need to maintain abundance (one mistake I've learnt from in the previous LTR). I know this is one point is essential since the girl is always being approached and therefore has the abundance mentality built in! Do I frame keeping my abundance mentality as a normal thing? This is the very very start so we are not even really in one yet but I can tell it will be arriving soon - lets discuss what we think are the perfect frames....
Its the holidays soon - so I'll have been seeing her for 4 weeks by the time we split for the 3/4 week holidays, any frames I need to be setting for this time in advance? How would you approach this - there might be some big questions coming from her over the next week....also how to act towards her during the time apart? - I can't mirror her because she totally follows everything I say - submissive hardly takes any initiative - its all looking to me for what to do....
I would really like to get this one point down perfectly lets talk about maintaining abundance mentalities at the start and the transition phase into a relationship
Not just that but also keeping our process sharp and honed and continuing to improve it throughout.
I've been thinking of using a trick I learnt of just having loads of female friends around - or at least as many as her male ones. I think one important distinction I need to make though is to not have had sex with them - they need to be new friends - otherwise she will ask/find out and then that could start a load of problems.
Oh and a small note - how do you sort out money? - I've tried to start an alternate day/date spending idea - one day I pay everything next day she does - not sure its working very well though.