Should you fix broken glass?

[Ryan]

As i progressively learn more from Girls Chase articles and increase my confidence in myself, I found myself looking back to the girls from the past a lot more. The girls that I never knew what to do when they clearly liked me and spent time with me. But i messed up from my lack of experience/ignorance, and they left with a very bad impression of me.

I already described the story of one girl i messed up with here: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=4075
I've always hoped to set things straight with her and totally sweep her off her feet in romance properly, rather than allow her to remember me as a bad memory.

Another girl i feel particularly bad about was also a cute girl who had feelings for me. But i misinterpreted a Girls Chase article that encouraged me to be aggressive and dominant.
During a date with her. I became far too aggressive and demanded too much from her, and in the end i think she felt a little scared or repelled by me. Though i was only trying my best to be 'attractive' and 'manly'.
I never heard from her again. But i still think about her. I feel bad for almost forcing myself upon her, so i hope one day i could phone her and ask to set things straight.

What do you think? Should i just let the past be the past? Or can i really replace the girls' bad memories about me with good ones?

 

[trashKENNUT]

Ryan,

What do you think? Should i just let the past be the past? Or can i really replace the girls' bad memories about me with good ones?

iT really depends. IF you can get her out again without her feeling "cornered", she likes you. Just don't do the same thing again.

Zac

 

[Franco]

Ryan,

What do you think? Should i just let the past be the past? Or can i really replace the girls' bad memories about me with good ones?

Unless these people are family members or extremely close friends that you have a past history with, I would just let bygones be bygones.

The only reason you would be worried about what people in the past think about you is that you don't have enough people in the present who think about you the way you want to be thought about. So instead of trying to change the past (which is damn near impossible under most circumstances), I would focus on forging all of your relationships in the future to be much more positive ones. This will certainly help you forget things that have happened in the past -- and as a matter of fact, you will likely think back to your "old" self and laugh about the fact that you were once like that.

I can tell you right now that most girls cut bad interactions out of their minds anyway. It doesn't take long for them to put negative stuff behind them, especially if there is a change in their life (such as moving to a new location, finding a new boyfriend, getting a new career, etc). So it's likely that these girls have long forgotten about you, and trying to interact with them would only remind them of the bad interactions you had and make them upset again.

As a matter of fact, your best bet at mending these relationships actually IS forging newer, and better ones. The best way to convince people from the past that you've changed is by showing them how much the new relationships in your life have flourished as well as how much the new people in your life respect you. This is one of the few things that will make them re-consider their past opinions about you (think pre-selection).

Anyway, you'll think back from time to time on your prior mistakes and smack your forehead, but then just laugh it off and think about how much better all of your future ones are going to be. =)

- Franco