Should you mention about other girls to the ones you are talking?

[Duke22]

Hey guys,

This is a quick one, I'm just generally curious about this.

Should you mention you have other girls in your life? When girls asks you?

And what about the girls you are little serious about, should you talk about other girls when they ask.

Thanks.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Duke22,

Turn back the question to her and ask why, while also give a warm smile

If she is serious on her tone on this question but never give compliance, she is nuts. Just not the kind of girl worth it to chase. Because i been on this kind of situations enough though. *DISCLAIMER: GENDER EQUALITY IF SJW AND FEMINIST READ THIS KNEE GROW*

Zac

 

[lostnumber]

Never directly tell a girl you are seeing other people, this is almost always a mistake. You want to leave an air of mystery around the topic

 

[Richard]

You want to prolong it as long as possible.

Eventually, there comes a point where a girl demands a real answer and then you determine that girl's place in your life. But, until that time comes you want to playfully brush it off or give her a sexy smile and leave her mind wandering.

-Richard

 

[Duke22]

Oh crap.

I do tell them every now and then.

And I got curious about this few days ago, realized that it's not really good to mention to the one I care about. It made her not just jealous but I think little hurt too. I just don't like to lie man.

So, what now... ... she knows that I have capability to bring girls in my life, whenever I want. (that's what she thinks of me).

I'm not really sure if I want to commit to her, I want to explore.

 

[Richard]

Oh crap.

I do tell them every now and then.

And I got curious about this few days ago, realized that it's not really good to mention to the one I care about. It made her not just jealous but I think little hurt too. I just don't like to lie man.

So, what now... ... she knows that I have capability to bring girls in my life, whenever I want. (that's what she thinks of me).

I'm not really sure if I want to commit to her, I want to explore.

Not necessarily a bad thing.

Every girl wants to be #1 to a guy they're attracted to - so, if she knows you CAN bring girls into your life then they'll usually push harder to be with you or, depending on the precedent set, will be hurt and throw a wrench into things - if it's the latter you can usually smoothly navigate through and (if you're successful) those girls tend to become fiercely loyal.

At this point, she's more or less aware, so if she decides to keep seeing you then she knows what she's getting herself in to. Plus, nobody said you had to commit to her AND nobody said you can't not commit to her and bring new women into your life - the world of seduction isn't that black and white.

-Richard

 

[Duke22]

Not necessarily a bad thing.

Every girl wants to be #1 to a guy they're attracted to - so, if she knows you CAN bring girls into your life then they'll usually push harder to be with you or, depending on the precedent set, will be hurt and throw a wrench into things - if it's the latter you can usually smoothly navigate through and (if you're successful) those girls tend to become fiercely loyal.

At this point, she's more or less aware, so if she decides to keep seeing you then she knows what she's getting herself in to. Plus, nobody said you had to commit to her AND nobody said you can't not commit to her and bring new women into your life - the world of seduction isn't that black and white.

-Richard

WOW!


So, she gets upset when I'm out and she knows that I must be with some girl. She said many times that I'm expert and clever and has seen other girls flirting with me. Even mentioned that that girl is interested in me, and I'm like... 'What?'. Several times she told me that girl who was talking to me was interested and was ready for bang. This is where I saw her feelings getting hurt a bit. Many times she asked me no to go and stay.

First, tell me what you see here, what she really wants. Like trying to rope me or what?

Second, there's a really interesting thing you said that caught my attention and all new to me. Like committing to her and still get other girls.

Is that possible? If so, . .....how should I do it? Like telling her that she's gonna be my main girl but I'm also gonna have other non-serious affairs?

The real thing is, I care about this girl but also wants to learn the seduction. So, I thought that I had to stay single in order to get more girls in my life.

It'd be really helpful if you could help me with this.

-Duke

 

[Richard]

First, tell me what you see here, what she really wants. Like trying to rope me or what?

Second, there's a really interesting thing you said that caught my attention and all new to me. Like committing to her and still get other girls.

Is that possible? If so, . .....how should I do it? Like telling her that she's gonna be my main girl but I'm also gonna have other non-serious affairs?

The real thing is, I care about this girl but also wants to learn the seduction. So, I thought that I had to stay single in order to get more girls in my life.

It'd be really helpful if you could help me with this.

1) I can't be sure because I don't know the details of the situation with this girl. I have a vague idea of what's going on so only time will tell; it should be fairly obvious to you which route she's going with you.

2) Yeah, it's certainly possible. The thing to keep in mind is that you want to avoid directly telling a girl anything - you want to keep things as implicit as possible. So, the second you directly say "You're my main girl, but I'm going to see other girls casually" you introduce a ton of problems. It's better to keep seeing this girl and playfully brushing it off when she talks about you and other girls - the day will come where she NEEDS or DEMANDS an answer from you and then you decide what that girls place in your life is going to be:

• FB = Sex only, no emotion, and no commitment
• MLTR/Dating = Sex, Emotion, Caring, but non-committed
• Monogamy = Sex, Emotion, Caring; Total Commitment
• OLTR = She's your main girl. Sex, Emotion, Caring, Love, Marriage, etc. Most Committed to her but you still see other women sometimes.

Prior to this event where she demands an answer you should be treating girls the same; you have sex, you text minimally, etc. Precedent is very important if you're looking to do this because if you're texting a girl a lot and seeing her all the time she's going to misinterpret what you want from her and it will bite you in the long run.

That being said - until you and a girl have TALKED about what the two of you are then there is no commitment on your end and you're free to do what you please. Girls will eventually bring up that TALK (average of 3 months time and fluctuates depending on your experience) but until that time comes you're free to do as you please because you've made no verbal commitment to her so she cannot reasonably expect that of you.

-Richard

 

[Drck]

No

 

[Damien]

Adding some input to this topic:

I'm currently seeing one girl as an MLTR and one which is a fuckbuddy, but with potential for more, + I'm picking up chicks on the side and I might add some to the rotation. So anyway with the MLTR girl she wants to know about all the girls I'm seing and she actually finds it funny when I pick up a chick. The fb doesn't want to know about my other girls, but on the night I first slept with her, I told her I'm in an open relationship and that didn't stop her from fucking me. This could turn out to be a mistake later, but I just wanted to say so far I was going with the 100% honesty approach and it seems to work. I have to say I'm very congruent with my frame on this, it's just how I am and I think that's why the girls accept it.

Cards open seems to be working too, additional information here would be, that both girls are of the strong independent type and probably see it more as a challenge than as an insult, since they are both used to guys submitting to them. I wouldn't be that explicit with sweeter girls.

 

[Fuck This]

Kind of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" territory. Your availability infers quite a bit. I you ar always available to respond to a Saturday night text then she can figure out you are not actively socialising or otherwise engaged. When you are talking about something that happened when you were out with a girl, just say "out with a friend". Once things become a little more regular you may get asked specifically about who other women are...just know what you are going to do if and when asked.