Smash City

[Bismarck]

Quick update: so I did find that girl (the tasty Finn) through my work's employee registry, and told her to text me on WA. Then when she did, I invited her out for a drink. Lol she sent me this longwinded paragraph telling me she only wanted to be my colleague.

In other news, last week (Wed 12 Oct) I was hanging out with a close friend and his girl when the blue-eyed black-haired Austrian devil who I met in both house parties the weekend before last popped up out of the woodwork (at said bar) with a tall handsome German, presumably en route to her boudoir after a few beverages and some niceties.

I'm throwing a house party on Sat 22 Oct. Also, the girl that I day game approached and was banging since July gave me some drama about not wanting to get attached to me and said she needs to "create some distance" with that goal in mind.

 

[Bacchus]

Then again, opportunities don't always present themselves for indirect, unless you shout after girls and run back to them

This is inaccurate.

Did you ever see me go direct or shout at girls? No... you didn't. So whenever such false thoughts pop into your mind. Know they are signs you aren't paying enough attention to your environment... or the girl in question. Or the social context of your approach. Being too self absorbed costs lays.

There was this Finnish chick, cute, dirty blonde, tight bod, good taste in dress, that I hit it off with, after giving her double cheek kiss (close to lips) to greet her, which always shocks Nordic sensibilities off of the open.

Stop doing this immediately... it's creepy.

Lesson: never again leave a house party without the digits of the girl(s) you want to fuck. (A)lways (B)e (C)losing! I haven't seen sexy Baltic girl since 31 December 2021 and 8 October 2022 was probably the last time I saw sexy Finn.

This is a good lesson. However, this...

Quick update: so I did find that girl (the tasty Finn) through my work's employee registry, and told her to text me on WA. Then when she did, I invited her out for a drink. Lol she sent me this longwinded paragraph telling me she only wanted to be my colleague.

...also crosses the line into creepy territory. Since you didn't get her number at the party, you should have just let it go.

I'll be straight up with you... stop trying out all these sharpshoots until you are ready. Work is a very risky place for it.... I have met you in person so I know you are a talented player with story-telling skills... and a strong presence. But your cold approach skills still have a long way to go. Due to crutch-game.

So I'm writing this post to tell you to focus your energies on cold approach. You may throw parties and attempt to find a lover for the night... or exchange phone numbers with attractive girls at these parties. But I wouldn't think too much about them... or pull any of the above creepy shit. Keep refining your verbal game skills with women you meet in day game or night game... make sure you stop this reckless behavior and learn more calibration so you grow.

 

[Bismarck]

25 Oct
After taking a walk after work on Monday 24 October, seeing about a handful of delectable belles, and not approaching, today after work I did. I was walking after a girl when I saw an even hotter girl walk in my direction. I aborted the first and walked after the second, and called out to her when I was close: "Hey!"

She stopped.
I said, without blinking or looking away: "I was walking and saw you and I like your style"
She said, "Thanks" with a big smile
I said, "Are you in fashion?" (cred. Proper)
She said, "No"
I said, "do you study it?"
She said, "No, I teach Dutch"
I said, "Ah, you're a Dutch teacher"
She said, "Yes"
Here I didn't know what to say for a second, and she giggled slightly
I said, "Are you cold?"
She said, "Yes"
I said, "I think it isn't the temperature, just the wind"
She said, "Yes"
I said, "Well, I was on the way to the shop, and just thought I'd come and say hello"
She said, "Thank you that is very nice! Have a nice day"

For next time: "Are you single?"

 

[Bismarck]

Yesterday I was invited to another house party.

I felt really good because I recently began a new low back rehabilitation regimen under a licensed coach specialized in low back issues and the changes I've started implementing, aside from twice-daily exercises, have so far borne fruit in terms of longer periods of pain-free disposition.

Aside from that, yesterday my manager bought lunch for the team, and we went to this expensive joint, and it was a great time.

So I arrived at the party feeling like a million dollars. As soon as I walked in around 10 p.m. (it had started at 9), this svelte black-haired girl with meaty lips came up to say hi. She was bedecked in a stylish kimono.

She said she was Polish. I asked her if she'd seen this new Polish picture that's doing the rounds (has won an award at Cannes), and how my Polish friend had invited me to watch it but I had said I had a house party to go to.

Shortly after this one of the two guys who live there (the one who invited me) came up to say hi. We hugged. He asked me how I was doing and I said I was doing great. Then he said his country was playing soccer (it's the world cup rn) and that they were watching it upstairs. So I told Polish I'd BRB and went upstairs to catch the end of the match.

I sat watching the match for about an hour surrounded by a couple of dudes, chatting while sipping my two short beer cans. Then the match ended and I stayed upstairs chatting with the recent arrivals. Upstairs was also the smoking area (downstairs was the dance floor), so I smoked a Marlboro and even had one or two tokes off a doobie a bit later. I was chatting with a sexy Italian girl whose boyfriend was there and never really left her side, with some intelligent Italian dudes who were here visiting for the first time, and eventually with a Dutch guy and a German friend of mine.

Eventually, Polish reappeared, to smoke a cigarette herself. So after I was done chatting with the sexy Italian girl, I went back to her. And we continued our conversation. I told her, at one point, that I liked Polish girls, "because they are feminine, and it is very attractive." She didn't try to deny this fact (in retrospect I could have gone a bit further and set other, better frames, like "non-judgemental and passionate.") She was contrasting Polish with girls from my country (her housemate is from my country), so we spoke about that for a bit. I also complimented her kimono.

At this point, we started chatting with some people, and she held my waist. I held hers back. After a bit, I went downstairs to get some mulled wine. I whispered in her ear that I was going to do that and that I'd be back.

When I came back she was chatting with some girls and I didn't interrupt, starting chatting with other people. She then went downstairs without telling me anything and I fought back the urge to follow her down. Then she came back and held my waist again. At that point, it was a done deal. I isolated her slightly from my buddy and the French dude we were chatting with, and a hot but brief makeout ensued. She was delicious. We chatted with them a bit more and then made out a bit again. Then she went downstairs. I stayed upstairs and then went downstairs to get some water.

There I bumped into a ginger Italian bae. Could have made out straight away, as it was around 1.30 a.m. at this point, the lights were out, and people were dancing about. I was also in a flow state. Didn't seize that moment though, as I was worried Polish would see me. Better to have a bird in your hand than to see two flying. I then went to Polish and tried to extract her home, but she said she had come with her girlfriend so couldn't leave without her (a girl I know). The truth is that girl was there with her boyfriend, and I suspect Polish had gotten there by herself, since that girl wasn't there when I arrived, and Polish was already there.

So I invited her to come to a party with me today (another house party I was invited to), she gave me her number, and I left.

But of course, taking this girl to another house party (especially far from my place) will get me nowhere nearer to the goal of fucking her, and now that I've already made out with her, I've already given her the validation hit she was looking for, and I've also already shown her my hand. It will be damage control to try to hijack the usual beta male three-date courtship circus at this point. She holds the frame.

 

[miker]

Things have reached a point where I am now confident that I will have paid work at least until early next year, and probably for longer, provided I do my absolute best. Additionally, I have procured decent accommodations splat bang in the middle of all the action.

The back issue is still largely unresolved, however. Nevertheless, I can reduce the pain to manageable levels, albeit having limited mobility. (This may be problematic for sex technique, but it means that adapted missionary or standing doggy style will be positions of choice, and gives me further incentive to penetrate her mind with verbals before unclothing her).

Right now I have 3 girls I'm "plate-spinning," and my objective is to practice game (big picture) and work on improving my date/close game (my opener/number-close/texting game is already spick and span) as opposed to only seeking the "get the lay" outcome (small picture).

I will shoot to arrange dates starting tomorrow but also throughout next week with these girls, and in the meantime will read the following gambits:

1. 8 Orgasms
2. Good Sex/Bad Sex
3. Purity
4. Mental G-spot

And prepare anti-ASD frames (about society punishing women for expressing their sensual side, women lying to themselves and attempting to control their arousal so that they don't slut-shame themselves, etc.)

Basically, the important thing is to incorporate versions of this crack into my verbals that suit my style and life experience. "I used to just have sex for sex, for the physical aspect, and that was enjoyable for a time, but soon got old, as you run into feelings of meaninglessness...I don't just want sex for sex anymore, but instead am seeking connection and intimacy. Pleasure is great, but nothing beats allowing someone to truly express who they are without fear of judgment so that they no longer feel they have to bow to societal pressures that only serve to constrict them and make them feel miserable."

Something like that. Also, fractionation, and SOTs, so that I don't START talking about sex out of nowhere, but it just organically flows into the conversation. Travel is a good starting point.

Hey I noticed you mentioned your text game is spic and span any advice you could offer would be great …I get numbers try to use girls chase info as much as I can but still get dead ends…now that could be cuz the connections aren’t always there with a quick number close but either way any tips and tricks would be appreciated

 

[Bismarck]

Hey miker,

Sure dude - why don't you make a journal where you document your game adventure giving specific examples of the sorts of texts you send and I'll be happy to take a look and troubleshoot.

Edit
BTW @miker I just made a thread with a quick tip for texting you may want to take a note of.

 

[Bismarck]

Wednesday 28 December
Last night in my hometown (Christmas hols) and I meet up with a bro I hadn't seen since September. Guy's quite successful with the (hot) local girls. We hit up a bar at 11 and stayed there until closing time (2.00 a.m.)

At the bar, we initially sat at a small table isolated from the rest in a room that was quickly filling up, mostly with hot young local chicks in the 17-22 age range. Bro went to get a drink and I walked up to tell two cute slightly older foreign chicks (28 age range) who were sitting at another small table in the same row that we were gonna sit next to them and introduce myself. I moved all our shit to the table right next to theirs.

With this, we now had social proof for the 20 or so other hotter younger chicks who were there. At one point bro asked the hot locals at one of the tables for a cigarette, offering some money in return. Then I went up to them and did the same. Finally when he went once again this delicious 17-year-old in her last year of high school at a conservative Catholic local lyceum said "you don't need to pay, you're so nice" as she blushed slightly. I went up to them to inquire about what was going down later in the night and they said they would be hitting x club. I relayed the info to bro and we decided on hitting it too.

We left the bar at closing time and made our way to the club, where we arrived at 3. The place was stacked with luscious belles.

We went to grab some vodka red bulls, and then we were next to the main dance floor. I saw this really hot girl (tall, slim, long dark brown hair, pretty) wearing sunglasses. Bro made his way to the front near the DJ and I was supposed to follow along, but I couldn't resist opening this bombshell. I tapped her on the shoulder from behind (she was in a circle with two other hot chicks and a dude) and said to her: "why are you wearing sunglasses in here?" not sure what she said. I stacked with "are you on ecstasy or something?" again, don't remember what she said. Then I said, "yeah but you don't have the vibe [of someone who is on "e"]" again don't remember what she said. Then I said "are you trying to look special?" she said "...and it worked, right? you came here to talk to me" to which I said, "Nah, I was on my way to the front and just happened to notice you." I was holding her waist as I spoke loudly in her ear.

Anyway, at this point, her girlfriends and the guy friend had abandoned her (giving us isolation) and she became worried because she didn't want to be alone. I told her not to worry, that they wouldn't have abandoned her (and the club) and that they'd be around somewhere. She wouldn't have any of it though (I think she was quite drunk) and so went to go look for them. I stayed where I was. Bro was back and we were reconning. Then she came back and asked me if I could help her. Here I had my first inkling that she was into me. I said, "sure." I took her hand and went to look for her friends with her.

We eventually found them. I chatted with her girlfriends for the first time, and with the dude, introducing myself and befriending them. At the same time, I was gradually kino'ing my bombshell more and more. She was getting more receptive to my touch. We chatted a bit, and I discovered she's 22 and studying where I did my master's. She's also studying what I now do for work. Her two other hot girlfriends too. She's also from a small town right next to the village where my father's mother was from (so a fair bit of similarity/social frame right there). Then she went to the WC to have "the talk" with one of her girlfriends.

She came back and I was by myself trying to act non-needy and considering opening other sets, when bro started working on the third hottie (the one who'd stayed behind when the other two went to the WC) and came up to me to say the others approved me and that I should go get her and invite her to come and dance with me elsewhere on the DF, effectively isolating her. I went up to the friend she'd gone to the WC with and asked her if I could "borrow" bombshell to go dance for 1 minute. She said, "please do!" But bombshell didn't want to be separated from her. I persisted several times with no success.

Anyway, I held her waist and spun her into me so that we were now dancing inches away from each other's faces. As if by magic, her girlfriends isolated her again, and, once again, she was worried. Then she saw her WC friend making out with their guy friend, and I told her that her other girlfriend had said we made a cute couple. Her other girlfriend had actually said that. Soon we were spooning and thrice she initiated makeouts that I cut short and told her something along the lines of "stop doing that, you're turning me on too much" with a smirk. I then tried to positively affect her state by describing how the 80s tunes they were blasting made me feel.

Long story short: she then went to find her WC girlfriend and tell her she wanted to go home. They both left with the guy friend but the third one wanted to stay with bro. He also didn't manage to smash in the end.

tl;dr - the girl was too drunk and seemed to not be very disinhibited. Her girlfriends approved of me and were trying to get her to let loose but she seemed to have hangups. I also had zero logistics and was entirely dependent on bro (he said he could drive us to one of several flats his family owns and rents out) for that. Didn't have control over the situation and was also completely exhausted, having woken up around 6 am and it being past 3 am (this is why I don't enjoy night game - I really appreciate the concentration of high-end young tail you find, but it's just such a Herculean effort to stay up all night...overkill for me).

 

[Bismarck]

Wednesday 18 January 2022

Cute/Hot Long Light Brown-haired Green-eyed Brunette captured my carnal imagination with her forward demeanor and luscious ways. The girl is the epitome of the twenty-first century's feminism-fuelled hedonistic generation. Even though I strongly suspected that doing away with rubbers had made me catch something from her on 22 December 2022 night, I still felt strangely drawn to her moist twat, plump pink nipples, round firm breasts, pretty face, slim waist, spankable ass-cheeks, and long legs. She also allured me with her testiness, which is simply the language of the sexually experienced girl.

We had arranged to meet yesterday. I sent her a WhatsApp at 11.30 a.m. suggesting we do so at 9.30 p.m., and giving her my address. She responded by stating that she "wanted to go to a bar together but didn't really feel like something else. Okay?". After conferring with some acquaintances, I decided to accept, take her to a bar, and still endeavor to bring her home afterward for dessert. When she arrived at the bar and was fidgeting with the chairs in front of me at the table I was sitting at on a wall-mounted sofa, I tapped the space next to me while looking at her and she came to sit down next to me.

During the date, I basically had to "re-seduce" her. Ran some light game on her once more, setting frames, etc. Also a bit of kino. Then I suggested we have a second drink back at mine, with the cheeky afterthought that she could always crash on my new guest foldable mattress. At that point she was mine. Brought her home and fornicated for almost 2 hours. Got the whip out, blindfolded her, restrained her, whipped her, licked lemon juice off her tits, she gave me an amazing blowjob, and I came inside her again. We also tried multiple different positions, including doggy standing in the WC.

Conclusion: had to postpone the STD clinic appointment since you need to wait two weeks before being tested to ensure accurate results. Still intend to verify and if necessary cure whatever I have (and then tell her about it).

 

[Bismarck]

What's new from the grapevine:

I can't believe it's been almost 2 months already, fuck. Time really flies when all is dark around you and you have to work for 8-plus hours per day. I am sitting here in my studio, freshly cleaned by a maid I will probably never call over again as she made me wait 1.5 hours yesterday to come clean, and in general, she doesn't clean to the highest standards, even though she's cheap.

Presently I'm juggling three main goals:

1. HEALTH Heal my spine - read Back Mechanic, do the self-assessment, go visit the specialized coach once more overseas next month, and practice spine health every single day (correct posture, sitting for 30 minutes to 1-hour batches and then standing up for 5-10 mins, working standing a bit, then sitting back down again, watching how I stand up and sit down, squat with good form to go low but don't pick anything up off the floor, watch posture for putting socks on and off, clothes on and off, etc., etc.) walk at least 3x per day for 10-15 mins
2. WORK Get a different (slightly better paid) job - basically, my work isn't making me feel very challenged or realized, and, on top of that, my team leader is bonkers, so the chances that she will give me a hard time if I stay under her for much longer are high, even if I do an excellent job. Looking for another job means lots of applications, cover letters, CVs, etc.
   1. Study for the competition later in the year - this could be my "in", but chances are low considering the number of candidates versus spots available. Still, it will require a lot of studying and preparing for the different phases of the process and will be a good learning experience
3. LOVE Continue spinning plates - continue milking house parties and extended social circle for good-looking low-hanging fruit (7.5s) while keeping an eye out for the chance to develop a more meaningful relationship with a girl who is cute/pretty and has a good body but I can also hang out with, so who is chill and fun to be with.

There is a bonus goal which is to leverage my passion to develop a hobby that I can manage digitally. I've found that I have a gift for reading but also for memorizing facts and for understanding history, and I want to share the fruits of these pursuits with the internet at large. Who knows, maybe it could eventually be monetized somehow.

 

[Bismarck]

20 March 2023

So over the past couple of weeks, I've been on a few dates:

• 28 February 2023 - went on a date with a tall fit blonde Polish girl whom I met at a house party back in 2022 and who recently came to a house party I organized at another Polish girl's place on 25 February. At the latter party, I groped her delicious ass cheek, and was rubbing her hands all up in her face, but resisted outright making out with her as there was other talent around that I wanted to also number close and pursue. The date went well but she cut it short (maybe after she heard me say I was considering leaving the city, I get the impression she is looking for a boyfriend. She's in her early 30s) and then she declined the opportunity to meet again

• 16 March 2023 - I went on a date with a fit short brunette that I also invited to the 25 February party. However, she doesn't seem to have understood that it was a date, even though I'd said "we should get a drink and not talk about work" (the first two times I'd met her had been (1) to give her tips to help her along with her internship over hot chocolate in the afternoon for 45 minutes and (2) a beer in the evening where I was again in help her mode since she'd asked to see me sometime before where the advice part was dealt with in the first 10 minutes but then I didn't switch the frame or escalate the vibe, perhaps losing my WoO) so the thing flopped

• 17 March 2023 - I went on a date with a cute short brunette that I met at the 25 February party. She was conservatively dressed and I told her to sit next to me on the bench but then she went to sit super far away which was awkward. It was hard to do any sort of SOT since she doesn't do anything outside of work and in general, seemed rather boring. I may have missed an opportunity to connect by not having asked about traveling. 27-year-old who earns a couple of hundred dollars more per month than me but our employer is not known for being meritocratic.

• 20 March 2023 - Just came from a short date that lasted about 1 hour with this fit stylish strawberry blonde I met at an event on Tuesday 14 March and literally chatted to for 5 or 10 minutes before number closing (but it was quite man-to-woman, and I could see her looking at my lips). She was super compliant and we agreed to meet again. Have a good feeling about this one. I also find her much more interesting than the 17 March gal.

All that said, I will be going back to cold approach, as SC just doesn't deliver the goods pronto. It's more time-consuming and a bit hit or miss. This weekend will be visiting the one and only Devilicious, and that should be a good opportunity to practice.