snobbish,important,superior attitude from girls THAT YOU SEE DAILY! How to act?

[razir110]

Hi guys,

How to act around girls that act superior, uninterested, snobbish, etc when they are part of your social surroundings? So you seem them often, say same school.

Example: I approached a girl that was exchanging stares with me for a while, we spoke, now she is acting uninterested. So what to do here, imagine I pass by and she turns away. Do I totally ignore her or do I say a "hi" and keep walking?

Another girl that I use to talk to but now is acting like ignoring me. If I cross with her, do I say hi or do I ignore?

Essentially, these are people that I see on a regular basis, so this is not an approach situation! In general, should I give them back exactly what give me? In this case they may think I am butt-hurt about they ignoring me. At the same time if I am the one to talk to people ho seem to ignore me I fell I am chasing them and honestly I couldn't give less f about these girls, I meet new ones every day. But then again, I don't want them spreading rumors I got affected by their lack of attention toward me.

So this is a very delicate issue. How to go around this?

If it were an approach situation, it could be a test, resistance, etc but as you understand this scenario is different.

Thank you!

 

[Average]

Re: snobbish,important,superior attitude from girls THAT YOU SEE DAILY! How to a

Sup bro,

If you ignore people (especially girls) they tend to ignore you back. One of the traits of being a man is being the first person to do pretty much everything. So that includes greeting and beginning a conversation.

Another scenario in which people tend to turn on a guy is If said guy is experimenting with the "asshole" persona. This does lose people if it is handled in the wrong way.

A third possibility is if you take too long to court her and you don't progress things with her. If she likes you, you talk and you don't take her numbers for example, she'll think you aren't interested and could be saddened by the thought. Her ignoring you can be a defensive thing (you didn't reject me, I rejected you!!!)

I dunno. I think it could be one of these problems. Maybe even more. But at the end of the day I feel like you're having an attainability problem. Its too low.

What should you do about it:

I dunno.

I guess it depends on what you're goal is with the specific people. If you want a relationship with them then you could just pop up and greet em and have a conversation with em. Make sure not to highlight the ignoring battle between you because it seems kinda weak. Just act like it never happened and speak to her like she's your bff. If you want her then progress things. It may seem weak/chasing but that's how you react to a person when your attainability is too low.

They'll be so grateful that you did it that they won't even notice it.

Take heed: if you ignoring her isn't what's causing her to ignore you and something that you're continuously doing is what's causing it....then exposing yourself to her will probably make things worse between you and her. BUT it will allow you to pinpoint exactly what it is that's causing all of these negative reactions in the first place.

My advice is to freestyle until you find the problem if none of these scenarios fit you. Doing something is better than nothing, right?

 

[razir110]

Re: snobbish,important,superior attitude from girls THAT YOU SEE DAILY! How to a

Hi Ash! Thank you for your reply.

If you want her then progress things. It may seem weak/chasing but that's how you react to a person when your attainability is too low.

I am confused here, first what do you mean by low attainability?

Then if I understand correctly you are saying I should talk to her even if it will be chasing?

So in general, when a girl is being snobby to you you just ignore her attitude and move things forward anyways? It wouldn't put you in the chaser position then?

Thanks!

 

[Average]

Re: snobbish,important,superior attitude from girls THAT YOU SEE DAILY! How to a

I am confused here, first what do you mean by low attainability?

There are 3 things to take into account:

Value
Investment
Attainability

Value is something of worth that the girl might find useful or add value to her life/day (such as a man that can give her orgasms)

Investment is the amount of work needed to achieve said valuable object.

Attainability is whether or not that object can be obtained or not. If the attainability is too low then said object cannot be obtained (at least not by her and her limitted abilities) and if its too high then its too easily acquired.

There are articles that explain attainability better than I can. But the three of them, attainability, value and investment work hand In hand. So searching articles about those three can help out a lot. These 3 things encourage a girl to go for you.

The question that she'll ask herself in terms of attainability is:

Can I get that guy?

Whether its in terms of dating or sex, etc.

Then if I understand correctly you are saying I should talk to her even if it will be chasing?

If your attainability is too low then she's thinking:

Can I get that guy? No. No I can't because he's too good for me/he doesn't like me/he's taken or something along those lines

So if you give a little sign to her that you are actually attainable, even though in some situations it would be seen as chasing, but in this situation it is necessary for her to realise that you are really an option.

So in general, when a girl is being snobby to you you just ignore her attitude and move things forward anyways? It wouldn't put you in the chaser position then?

I was under the impression that the girl started off normal but then turned snobbish after a bit of interaction. That's usually a sign of low attainability because of something that happened during the interaction that made her think that. But if they already are snobbish when you meet them then that could be a sign of her thinking that she's better than you.

In some cases your fundamentals, style, etc are so good that the second she sees you, she instantly believes that you're "out of her league" and so she shuts down completely believing that she can't get you.

In other words: low attainability.

But in conclusion
If they really are snobs and think they're the cure to all diseases.....I usually avoid them. I aint at that level yet . And usually I take it as a sign that their not interested. . So I can't help out much there. I remember seeing an article that remedies this though.

If your attainabilty is too low then being kind and friendly to them (or displaying some form of interest in her) is a good way to make yourself seem attainable.