Solo Daygame tips?

Gamenoob92

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Hey guys! Anyone on here who does solo daygame? The problem is I don't really have a good wingman. I only know two guys who are into pickup. One is my flatmate and I have great vibe with him. We are old friends and we have a blast most of the time when we do go out. But he is not very motivated and I spend a lot of time trying to convince him to come out with me regularly.

The second guy goes out often, but not to sound too judgmental but there is something really unsettling about him. Every time I was out with him, I come back feeling heavy and sad. It seems like we are doing something very serious when I approach with him and it is not fun at all and I end up fucking up my vibe and not approaching many girls.

I feel very frustrated and stuck sometimes, I really want to not have to depend on anyone to go out and daygame. I have attempted solo daygame a few times and have never approached more than 7 in any of my sessions. And I never hit a good vibe solo and it is always drudgery. Any tips from you guys on how to daygame solo would be great!
 

Richard

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I am hardcore solo daygame - never been a big fan of wings, either. Ironically, when I first started approaching I didn't want anybody else around me (that I knew) so I could save myself some embarrassment if I was rejected XD

Anyway, it looks like you're only thinking of the drawbacks of not having a wing and not looking enough at the benefits of going out solo; I've always found that going out solo put a lot of pressure on me to actually approach because, well, I was out there alone for a REASON. I'm more focused and have better energy simply because I have an intention to approach. Also, I'm in control of what I want to do - nobody else is around me dictating where I'm going or anything else; I have complete freedom to approach who I want, when, and how.

If small mindset shifts like this don't help you then just try to take baby steps and week-by-week or day-by-day add new goals; if the max you can approach is 7 then try changing it to 8 OR stick with 7 but stay in the conversation a little bit longer. Try changing up what you're going to focus on day-by-day, change your approach tactics, experiment with different openers, etc. :)
 

Gamenoob92

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I am hardcore solo daygame - never been a big fan of wings, either. Ironically, when I first started approaching I didn't want anybody else around me (that I knew) so I could save myself some embarrassment if I was rejected XD

Anyway, it looks like you're only thinking of the drawbacks of not having a wing and not looking enough at the benefits of going out solo; I've always found that going out solo put a lot of pressure on me to actually approach because, well, I was out there alone for a REASON. I'm more focused and have better energy simply because I have an intention to approach. Also, I'm in control of what I want to do - nobody else is around me dictating where I'm going or anything else; I have complete freedom to approach who I want, when, and how.

If small mindset shifts like this don't help you then just try to take baby steps and week-by-week or day-by-day add new goals; if the max you can approach is 7 then try changing it to 8 OR stick with 7 but stay in the conversation a little bit longer. Try changing up what you're going to focus on day-by-day, change your approach tactics, experiment with different openers, etc. :)
Thanks Richard. Maybe you are right, I am just focusing on the negative aspects of solo daygame. The only problem is the time between sets, if I have a wing I am talking and joking around with him, if I am alone I get in my head and start having negative thoughts especially if an approach was awkward or went badly etc.

And also with a wingman I feel that when one of us gets blown out we joke about it and its like having another guy who is also doing that with you makes me feel not weird. It's all in my head. But on the other hand I know solo daygame builds amazing strength of character and emotional mastery and I just feel like its the pinnacle of freedom a man can experience. To be able to just walk around the streets and talks to anyone he pleases :) I want to get there and I will. Have a few exams coming up and it started snowing so taking a bit of a break but I am going to be out prowling the streets soon :)
 

Gamenoob92

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Solo daygame is honestly the best kind - it looks much less suspicious and more natural than trying to go out with a wing and doing it.

Pick a time, of about 1-2 hours, set a timer, and just go do it. Don't stop until time's up.
Thanks! I am going to try this. When I am out solo the #1 problem I have is the time between sets. I chicken out of a few sets and the time gap between sets leads to negative thought loops. Do you face that problem? Do you keep a rule on the amount of time between opens as well?
 

Cody Lyans

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Yeah, other people will influence your mood and this can have a big impact on your own motivation. What I would do is initially go out myself and try to build a social circle of a few girls who advise you on things to do and places to go.
Then you won't need to rely on the guys own missions aligning with yours, cuz the girls will fill the gap.

Then you are basically leading your own thing, which will empower you
 

Mr STIF

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Solo Day game improves your conversational techniques which is essential to doing pick up. Simply go somewhere where no one knows You and approach tons of sets. It's a sweet feeling that you'll love.
 
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