FR Starting 30-Day Bangkok Daygame + Night Game Immersion – Day 0 (HCMC → Bangkok)

[casey_jfly]

Hey guys,

This is my first post on SkilledSeducer — nice to meet you all.

In just 2 days (March 26) I'm flying from Ho Chi Minh City to Bangkok for a full 30-day cold approach immersion. This will be my first big dedicated trip focused purely on game.


Background & why Bangkok:

I'm an American who's been living in HCMC, Vietnam for 5 years. I speak English, Vietnamese, and Mandarin. HCMC has attractive women, but the density (especially daytime) is much lower, so it's hard to get high volume.

I visited Bangkok once before with a buddy who's strong at game. He took me around for a full day of daygame and it blew my mind — the sheer density of cute girls on the streets and malls is on another level. It's clearly a much better place for rapid, high-volume practice. That's why I'm committing to 30 days there.


Where I'm at right now:

I've been grinding at this for about 2 years. Two years ago my approach anxiety was brutal — I once saw a girl standing on the sidewalk with her backpack wide open and the easiest possible opener ("Hey excuse me, your backpack is open") and I literally couldn't say a word. I just walked past her in silence, heart pounding, mentally kicking myself.

Now I'm at about 50/50. Some days I can push through the nerves and approach. Other days the anxiety still wins and I freeze. Inconsistent as hell, but real progress from the total paralysis I had before.


My plan for the 30 days:

• High daily volume in both daygame (streets, malls, cafes, skywalks) and night game (bars, clubs, nightlife areas)
• 100% sober the entire time — no alcohol, no cannabis
• Pure cold approaches only (no apps)
• Goal: Get comfortable approaching in all environments so the confidence actually sticks when I return to Vietnam

Long-term I'm hooked on game. I love how it builds real social confidence and dating abundance, and I want to eventually coach guys and start a fun street-interview YouTube project in HCMC using my Vietnamese.

This thread will be the start of my field report series. I'll post regular updates with approach counts, what went well, brutal fuck-ups, lessons learned, etc.


Looking for feedback:

• Anyone here done a similar 30-day (or longer) immersion, especially sober and in Asia?
• What helped most when you were stuck in the "sometimes I approach, sometimes I freeze" zone?
• Specific Bangkok tips for daygame and night game (best areas, logistics, cultural notes, good spots)?
• Mindset hacks for staying disciplined and pushing through anxiety without substances?

Appreciate any solid advice or war stories from guys who've been there.

Let's do this.

Thanks bros.

 

[Francis]

Would read Tony D only

Travel - My experience in Thailand (Bangkok/Pattaya)

It has now been roughly 2 years ago since ive been in thailand and thought now its the time to share my journey with you folks. Before i start i would like to give a small introduction. -Im 24yrs now -I consider myself a 8/10 -Tanned -Not a player, but a kinkster -Im not much of a talker, the...

www.skilledseducer.com

Newb Learns Daygame in Asia

Hey guys, Just departed on a trip to Southeast Asia for as long as possible. Goal is to get started with game, and I figured this would be a nice setting for it. The main focus will be on DAYGAME. Hope you enjoy. By the way, I'm nineteen but everyone always thinks I'm older, I'm a virgin...

www.skilledseducer.com

And check Atlas IV's journal. I think he specifically targets really hot girls. A lot of Thailand posts may not.

 

[casey_jfly]

Thanks @Francis I'm new to the forum and I see the journal section now. I'll create a journal.

 

[carter]

Really good! Keep us updated. I want to hear how it goes for you because I'm also in Bangkok

 

[POB]

You should PM @Atlas IV and ask for advice.

 

[isildur1]

Atlas is very experienced and has had a lot of success

 

[Francis]

Would read Tony D only

Oh and I saw Colt posted too... I've never delved deep into Thailand posts... I just know Tony is a trustworthy source

Have you started yet? I highly recommend writing the reports same day.

 

[casey_jfly]

What's up bros,

Just hit the 11-day mark in Bangkok (arrived March 26th) and wanted to drop my first proper field report as promised. I've now done 8 consecutive days of approaches after a couple of slow work days right after landing.

The density here is much better compared to HCMC. Spending 8+ hours a day walking malls (Emsphere, Emquartier, Iconsiam, Silom BTS area, etc.) really adds up in steps — and in sets.

Quick timeline & highlights:

• March 26 (Thursday) — Landed, settled in, and did my very first approach at Emsphere the same day. Turned out to be a Vietnamese girl living here (older than me, I’m 37). We ended up on a spontaneous 2-hour instadate. No real spark, but a solid way to break the ice.
• Friday & Saturday — Had leftover work to finish, so zero approaches.

Since then I’ve approached every single day for 8 straight days. Here’s the breakdown:

• Sunday March 29 — Walked 24km+ across malls and BTS stops just to get the feel of the city. Took me the whole day, but I finally pushed through and did 1 approach. It was nervous and a bit fumbling, but I got it done and felt genuinely happy about it.
• Monday 30/3 — 1 approach (Myanmar girl at Emsphere)
• Tuesday 31/3 — 1 approach at Silom BTS outside Starbucks. Cute 27-year-old Thai girl. We chatted for 2 hours at a nearby café. Took her out on a date Friday night… more on that below.
• Wednesday 1/4— 2 approaches
  • Bench girl at Emsphere (complimented her hair, short chat)
  • Followed a girl from Silom BTS into the mall — she was meeting her BF, polite exit
• Thursday 2/4 — 1 approach at Emquartier/Phrom Phong Student moving to America soon. Good chat, exchanged IG. She’s been viewing my stories but no real follow-up.
• Friday 3/4 — 1 approach (but a 2-set at Iconsiam) Two Chinese girls. Opened on one’s dress, switched to Mandarin when I found out they were Chinese. Nice 5-10 minute chat. They were flying out that night. Only one approach that day because I cut it short for the date with the Tuesday girl. The date was pretty much a flop — she turned out to be quite westernized/feminist. Live and learn.
• Saturday 4/4 — Tough mental day after the lame Friday night date. Took half the day to get my head right. Skipped morning approaches, rested, then went out in the evening and got 2 solid approaches at Emsphere:
  • Walked with a 2-set on the escalator for a few minutes → exchanged Instagrams (great vibe)
  • Harsh rejection on the way out (girl gave me a mean stare after staring first). I just chuckled. Rejections are rolling off me way more easily now.
• Today Sunday 5/4 — 3 approaches:
  • Outside Sephora: Nice 3-4 min chat, exchanged IG… she blocked me later
  • Skybridge: Helped a girl who looked lost → 5 min good chat, exchanged IG. She’s now flirting pretty hard in my DMs (she had a flight tonight but will be back).
  • Outside Silom BTS Starbucks: Cabin crew for Qatar Airlines (based in Doha). Cool 5-min chat, but when I suggested connecting she hit me with a straight “Nah I’m ok” Felt a bit cringe in the moment, but I stayed polite and wished her a good day.

Overall progress after 8 days of daily approaching:

• The approaches are getting noticeably easier. My body and mind are relaxing more into it.
• I’m slowly increasing volume day by day.
• First time approaching a 2-set — felt like a nice little win.
• Immunity to rejection is growing. Even the mean ones don’t sting much anymore.
• Still inconsistent on some days (especially after a bad date), but the “freeze” moments are becoming shorter and less frequent.

Biggest takeaway so far: The sheer volume possible in Bangkok malls is a game-changer for building momentum. Even on slower days, just being out for 8+ hours forces me to get reps in.

Still 100% sober the whole time. Evenings can feel a bit flat when the city is buzzing, but I’m sticking to the plan.

I’ll keep these updates coming — probably next one around Day 14-15 with a running total of approaches and more detailed lessons.

Questions for the experienced guys:

• Any tips for increasing volume faster in Bangkok malls (best times, routes, or warm-up strategies)?

Appreciate any feedback or war stories.

Still early in the 30 days, but I can already feel the desensitization happening. Let’s keep grinding.

I think I'm going to extend the trip to either 60 or 90 days. I really really want to get to a very high level of mastery and I'm willing to put in focused work every single day to make that happen.

For now I'm just doing day game. I haven't gone out at night yet. But becoming a social beast in a night game setting is definitely something I want to achieve. For now I'm just doing daygame to desensitize to approaching / being in interactions with new random women. Maybe in 2 or 3 weeks I'll do night game too.

Thanks bros.

 

[Francis]

Nice work man. Seems you are very nicely warmed up and will probably be on fire soon.

Once you get more of the longer interactions, it could help to flesh out the reports on those a little more. Otherwise you will only end up with stats, but reflecting will bring some insights and give the guys here some information on what you are doing and could be improving on. Even just some general info on what your opening body language and verbals are, what your early banter looks like, etc.

 

[Jamster]

• Mindset hacks for staying disciplined and pushing through anxiety without substances?

30 days? Wow.

I'm guessing the end goal is for the anxiety to evaporate -cease existing - no more "pushing through," just having fun with no discipline necessary?

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 9 Summary


Today was my 9th consecutive day doing approaches. I felt a clear step forward.


I completed 5 approaches (3 two-sets and 2 one-sets), totaling 8 girls. The results were mixed — mostly rejections with a couple of decent interactions.


The biggest win today was internal: I felt a significant drop in approach anxiety. Rejections barely sting anymore (maybe only 5–10% as much as before). I could roll off any interaction with almost no emotional residue and no adrenaline spike. I also managed to get all 5 approaches done in a much shorter time window.


Some rejections were so oddly hostile that they became fascinating instead of painful. For example, my second approach was two girls walking on the skybridge outside Emsphere. I smiled, waved, and calmly asked, “Hey, do you guys speak English?” — only to get an immediate angry snarl and “No!” I just chuckled and kept moving. Progress.

Approaches:​

• 1. A girl sitting on a bench at Silom BTS station (next to an older man she didn’t know). In the past, the presence of others would have stopped me. Today I approached without hesitation. We chatted for about 2 minutes, shook hands, but the conversation felt flat so I moved on.
• 2. Two girls on the skybridge outside Emsphere. Opened with “Hey, do you speak English?” — met with immediate angry faces and a sharp “No!” Moved on instantly.
• 3. Two girls wearing skirts walking inside Emsphere. Same opener: “Hi, do you speak English?” One giggled and replied “Only a little,” then they walked off. Pleasant enough interaction.
• 4. A girl standing on the street waiting for something. Chill vibe — we laughed and joked around. Ended up exchanging Instagrams.
• 5. Two Filipino girls in line at Starbucks in Terminal 21. Opened indirectly with “Hey, are you Thai?” We had a nice chat. She asked where I was from and what I do, but her friend pulled her away. They were flying out that night, so no contact info was exchanged. Oh and some guy after the girls walked away said to me "You've done that before haven't you?" sorta acknowledging from his perspective I seemed like I had some level of skill.

 

[casey_jfly]

30 days? Wow.

I'm guessing the end goal is for the anxiety to evaporate -cease existing - no more "pushing through," just having fun with no discipline necessary?

I think I may extend this to 90 days. I am free to do that. I can spend many hours a day working on this for the next 3 months.

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 10 Summary

Today was a bit different from the previous days. I only did one approach, but it was a solid direct one that turned into a several-minute conversation before I got blown out in a familiar way.

After that, I decided to pull back, do some self-analysis, and have a good discussion with my coach.

I’m fortunate to have a close friend who is extremely skilled in game and has taken me under his wing as a mentor. He lives in Bangkok but is currently on holiday in Europe and won’t be back until later this month. I’m looking forward to training more with him when he returns. In the meantime, I’m focusing on putting in as much solo work as possible.

The Approach​

I started my day at the mall near Silom BTS station. While walking through, I spotted a cute girl going up the escalator who gave me strong, prolonged eye contact (a clear IOI for 2–3 seconds).

At this point, approach anxiety is basically gone. I’ve done enough approaches and been blown out enough times that I just don’t care anymore — I’m pretty numb to it.

I followed her up the escalator, caught up, and followed her into a store. I approached from the side at a comfortable distance with a smile and opened directly:

“Hey, I saw you on the escalator just now and thought you were cute.”

Here’s a rough outline of the conversation (from notes I took right after):

• “Hi, saw you… thought you were cute.” “Oh thank you ”
• “Are you Thai?” “Yes.”
• “Oh cool, I just moved here.” Bla bla bla…
• “You have lovely contacts, those look cool.” “Thanks.”
• “Are you a student?” “Just finished.”
• “I’m meeting someone here for a project.” “Oh cool, are you starting a business?”

She mentioned she’s a singer and a dancer. The vibe was okay, but when I suggested “Let’s get coffee sometime,” she replied, “I’m not sure…”

I wished her a nice day and we parted.

I left the interaction feeling a bit exasperated and frustrated. I didn’t sleep great last night, so I wasn’t at 100%, but I was still proud of myself for approaching the very first cute girl I saw, especially when I wasn’t feeling my best. She was genuinely hot and the IOI was real — I just didn’t run the interaction as well as I could have.

The disappointment lasted only 1–2 minutes. I knew I could have jumped into another approach right away, but because I’ve been getting similar blow-outs lately, I decided to take a step back. I walked around Bangkok, listened to music, reflected, and strategized on how to improve.

Current Stage & Next Steps​

I believe I’m in Stage 2 as described by Francesco Toggianini in his article “The 4 Stages of Street Cold Approach” on Girls Chase. I can now consistently “go in” and open with direct approaches without hesitation. However, once I’m in set, I’m still winging it and not getting much success yet.

In the evening, I had a 2-hour call with my coach. He gave me solid guidance and a simple structure to start using:

1. Open direct — e.g. “Hey, I saw you and thought you were cute…” (or flip the script: “I saw you looking at me. You’re chasing me — how could you not say hello?”)
2. Lead with statements about something you’ve noticed about her, and “talk in stories” instead of jumping straight into questions. Example idea: “I noticed your hair… I was walking along thinking and suddenly your hair caught my attention.”
3. Stack more statements (about what she’s doing right now, her look, her style, what she does, where she’s from, etc.). Avoid falling into interview-mode questions too early.

The key takeaway: my conversations are still too logical and “nice.” I need to shift toward being more flirty and emotional.

I’m going to implement this structure tomorrow and get back out there.

 

[Francis]

Good shit man, I'm rooting for you.

There was a forum discussion and Chase article that followed about deep diving too early. A lot of guys here were doing that - generally getting to know her right away.

Consistent with the statements, it seems common ideal practice is to cold read her and tease before going into screening her. It's consistent with Mystery Method A2 before A3, besides the direct opener... But that's also common ideal practice for girls who are moving.

If you need more structure there is a sticky called PROCESS in the tactics section. In that thread there's a link to a Chase article on beginner day game that is written literally step by step.

 

[gameboy]

Day 10 Summary

Today was a bit different from the previous days. I only did one approach, but it was a solid direct one that turned into a several-minute conversation before I got blown out in a familiar way.

After that, I decided to pull back, do some self-analysis, and have a good discussion with my coach.

I’m fortunate to have a close friend who is extremely skilled in game and has taken me under his wing as a mentor. He lives in Bangkok but is currently on holiday in Europe and won’t be back until later this month. I’m looking forward to training more with him when he returns. In the meantime, I’m focusing on putting in as much solo work as possible.

The Approach​

I started my day at the mall near Silom BTS station. While walking through, I spotted a cute girl going up the escalator who gave me strong, prolonged eye contact (a clear IOI for 2–3 seconds).

At this point, approach anxiety is basically gone. I’ve done enough approaches and been blown out enough times that I just don’t care anymore — I’m pretty numb to it.

I followed her up the escalator, caught up, and followed her into a store. I approached from the side at a comfortable distance with a smile and opened directly:



Here’s a rough outline of the conversation (from notes I took right after):

• “Hi, saw you… thought you were cute.” “Oh thank you ”
• “Are you Thai?” “Yes.”
• “Oh cool, I just moved here.” Bla bla bla…
• “You have lovely contacts, those look cool.” “Thanks.”
• “Are you a student?” “Just finished.”
• “I’m meeting someone here for a project.” “Oh cool, are you starting a business?”

She mentioned she’s a singer and a dancer. The vibe was okay, but when I suggested “Let’s get coffee sometime,” she replied, “I’m not sure…”

I wished her a nice day and we parted.

Why didn't you ask for her number? Maybe she wasn't sold yet, but you could still have texted her and see if she's sure another day.

I'm not a great closer myself [yet], so I can totally relate to you ejecting... but I think in this situation it would have made sense to ask.

 

[Francis]

deep diving

Not sure how familiar you are with GC, so should clarify - deep diving is more for when seated on an insta-date or date. Lighter probing is screening and qualifying her on the approach. Make sure to touch her on high points.

Ideally move her a little bit in the initial flirting phase (and read about chase frames) prior to qualifying (and lean on something if possible). If you get that far, then move her further and sit to build some trust in you (optional if high compliance). Then bounce for an insta-date or propose a later date before exchanging contacts.

Very cool to read about such significant rejection desensitization. Don't forget to try situational openers if she's stationary and you can riff on the environment.

 

[JohnnyKendhammer]

Interesting I found your post. I am in Thailand now and was going to do a 10 day Daygame challenge in Bangkok from April 19th until April 29th and then I’ll be in Ho Chi Min.

curious what areas you find best for Daygame in Bangkok?

 

[casey_jfly]

Why didn't you ask for her number? Maybe she wasn't sold yet, but you could still have texted her and see if she's sure another day.

I'm not a great closer myself [yet], so I can totally relate to you ejecting... but I think in this situation it would have made sense to ask.

Why didn't I ask for her number? Her body language and tonality and just phrasing was clear she didn't want to connect. And I get why I didn't run a good structured flirty interaction. I was overdoing it with repeat interview-style questions. Clear rookie mistakes. To ask for the number when the girl was trying to politely reject me would have been too pushy given her clear wishes.

I fumbled so much because I'm basically just barely now arriving at the capability level where I'm getting this far into an approach and I'm so new I don't know what to do.

I pulled back, strategized, got advice, and nailed it the next day. Check out my day 11 summary here.

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 11 Summary

Today was an absolutely fantastic day — easily one of the best so far.

The conversation structure and guidance my coach gave me last night worked incredibly well. I nailed a strong approach on a gorgeous woman in one of the Silom malls. She was stunning — wearing a tight, elegant dress with heels, hair done, very high quality.

I took my time getting started today. I sat in Starbucks, had a few coffees, listened to some motivational Andrew Tate podcasts, and let myself build a strong, positive caffeine-fueled mindset. Instead of rushing into the first girl I saw like previous days, I rehearsed the new structure in my head and got into the right headspace.

When I finally stepped out and told myself “Okay, it’s go time,” she was the very first attractive woman I spotted. I initially walked past her and felt a brief moment of hesitation, thinking “Damn, I choked — I shouldn’t hesitate on the first one.”

But three seconds later I thought “Fuck that,” turned around, and went in. I used a small white lie to make the approach feel natural: I told her I had seen her a minute earlier but was on a phone call.

The Approach​

I caught up to her outside a store and opened using the new structure:

“I saw you just now — I was on a phone call and you completely distracted me. You look really lovely.”

She smiled and replied, “Hehe, oh thank you.”

I continued with a statement:

“What I noticed about you is your outfit. It looks really lovely and fashionable. I’m not used to seeing girls dress this nicely where I’m from.”

“Ohhh, where are you from?”

From there the conversation flowed naturally. She asked for my name, what I do for work, and started digging into me with questions. I stayed totally calm and relaxed — something I’ve developed after 11 straight days of consistent approaches. That calm state helped me fine-tune my delivery, body language, and smile.

There are definitely things I could have done better to flirt more and create stronger tension, but overall the interaction was solid. She wanted to connect on Instagram. I told her I had a meeting to get to but that I’d love to grab coffee sometime. She agreed.

We exchanged Instagrams. I sent a quick hello message later, and she replied. I’ll think about how to move things forward.

Reflection​

The success of this approach left me stunned and elated. It genuinely felt like I had cracked the code. After so many days of grinding, this breakthrough was massive. I was so happy with it that I spent the rest of the day celebrating internally, reflecting, and mentally preparing myself for what’s next.

I now feel confident I can repeat this kind of interaction. It makes me believe the floodgates might finally be opening.

Tomorrow I’m heading back out with the goal of doing as many approaches as possible — I’m aiming for at least 5, and maybe even 8–10 depending on how many good opportunities I see.

The key today was the simple structure and statement-based approach my coach recommended. It made a huge difference.

Today really felt like one of the greatest days of my life in this journey. I’m finally starting to see real progress.

 

[casey_jfly]

Interesting I found your post. I am in Thailand now and was going to do a 10 day Daygame challenge in Bangkok from April 19th until April 29th and then I’ll be in Ho Chi Min.

curious what areas you find best for Daygame in Bangkok?

All the malls. There are so many malls. The malls are huge.
Also the sky walkways between the malls and the BTS stations are great.

Asok BTS station has Terminal 21, which is a pretty good one.

Silom BTS station has many malls right there next to the exits. Silom is probably the stop with the phyiscally biggest malls and greatest number of girls walking around.

Phrong Phong BTS station basically has 3 malls. Emsphere, EmQuartier, etc - great location

A little bit further away the IconSiam mall is a great location.

Daytime you really gotta go to the malls, it's so insanely hot and sunny outside on the street most of the day you just can't be out there. The girls all hide from the intense sun/heat.

I've been living in HCMC for 5+ years and I love it there. The women of Vietnam are hot sexy classic wonderful. The problem is, the city is much much smaller than Bangkok and there's just a lower density of hot girls available to get rapid approach practice in. And that problem is pretty strong during the daytime. You wont find Viet girls outside when the sun is out. Nighttime is significantly better. Pleanty of beautiful women will come out in district 1 to take pictures near key areas like walking street and the opera house.

That's why I came to Bangkok. There's more girls densely packed into key areas for approach practice. I think once I spend 90 straight days here in Bangkok working on my game and getting a decent level of ability - I can be in HCMC and see 5-10 amazing women as I go through my regular day and approach them with skill that leads to good success rates. But first I feel like I gotta use Bangkok to train.