FR Starting 30-Day Bangkok Daygame + Night Game Immersion – Day 0 (HCMC → Bangkok)

[Francis]

“Ohhh, where are you from?”

From there the conversation flowed naturally. She asked for my name, what I do for work, and started digging into me with questions

She's displaying really clear early interest in you here, so to be honest I think you are even past the flirting and it's time to speed run, so move on to getting compliance, turning it around to taking the reigns and evaluating her, then move it forward fast.

I think "what I noticed about you was" is from Tom Torero's Street Hustle. Might be a good read consistent with your style.

Nice job again!

 

[JohnnyKendhammer]

All the malls. There are so many malls. The malls are huge.
Also the sky walkways between the malls and the BTS stations are great also.

Asok BTS station has Terminal 21, which is a pretty good one.

Silom BTS station has many malls right there next to the exits. Silom is probably the stop with the phyiscally biggest malls and greatest number of girls walking around.

Phrong Phong BTS station basically has 3 malls. Emsphere, EmQuartier, etc - great location

A little bit further away the IconSiam mall is a great location.

Daytime you really gotta go to the malls, it's so insanely hot and sunny outside on the street most of the day you just can't be out there. The girls all hide from the intense sun/heat.

I've been living in HCMC for 5+ years and I love it there. The women of Vietnam are hot sexy classic wonderful. The problem is, the city is much much smaller than Bangkok and there's just a lower density of hot girls available to get rapid approach practice in. And that problem is pretty strong during the daytime. You wont find Viet girls outside when the sun is out. Nighttime is significantly better. Pleanty of beautiful women will come out in district 1 to take pictures near key areas like walking street and the opera house.

That's why I came to Bangkok. There's more girls densely packed into key areas for approach practice. I think once I spend 90 straight days here in Bangkok working on my game and getting a decent level of ability - I can be in HCMC and see 5-10 amazing women as I go through my regular day and approach them with skill that leads to good success rates. But first I feel like I gotta use Bangkok to train.

Thanks the info brotha. I walked through Central World yesterday and it seemed pretty good, and I walked Terminal 21 and that seemed ok. Asok seemed like a better area with the hotels, but I did see quite a few working girls in that area. I'm trying to decide if I should stay in Asok or Central World currently.

If the street game is no good and I need to game at malls then I guess I should probably stay near Central World. I want to game where logistics is in my favor. Do you think Phrong Phong is the best?

I'll be out there April 19th. Maybe we can link up at some point.

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 12 Summary

Man, this game development journey is such a roller coaster. Today was only a tiny step forward — nothing major, slightly disappointing, but I’m okay with it.

I’m slowly gaining insights into how to push through these tough barriers. This whole process is really just repeated exposure to fear until the fear loses its power. The more I do this, the clearer it becomes: willingly subjecting yourself to these uncomfortable moments builds real mental toughness. And that mental toughness is honestly at the core of male attractiveness.

As the fear fades, something else happens at the same time — you stop caring so much about what any random woman thinks or feels about you. It doesn’t make you a dick, you just become genuinely unbothered. That freedom and non-neediness is incredibly powerful and, from what I’ve seen, very attractive to women. They want a man with a strong mind just as much as a strong body.

Recap of the Day​

The day started with a funny story on the skytrain ride to Silom. A couple got on one stop after me. The girl (who was pretty hot) started staring at me hard. At first I just chuckled internally — “IOI from a taken girl, classic.” But it got wild. She kept eyeing me, then turned her ass toward me while holding her guy’s arm and literally shook it at me before looking back over her shoulder.

I live by a simple bro code: I don’t go after girls who are already with someone. There are infinite women out there, and I don’t want that kind of karma or drama. So I just moved to the window, turned my back to them, and had a quiet laugh to myself.

When we got off at Silom, she walked in front of me, pulled her sunglasses down, gave me strong eye contact, winked, flashed a thumbs up, and even glanced at my crotch. I took a different path down the stairs. Even then, she kept turning around to lock eyes with me for about 10 seconds while walking with her guy 20 meters ahead. I just smiled and thought, “Yeah, I see you… but behave yourself.”

Funny way to start the day.

I noticed I was getting a lot of IOIs today (many from girls who were with guys). Holding eye contact feels much easier now. I just relax, give a chill smile, and stay locked in without any urge to look away.

Approaches​

The first girl I wanted to approach was in CentralWorld. Zero English. Had to move on.

A long time passed before I found another one I liked. When I finally caught up to her… again, almost no English. I let it go. I could’ve tried Google Translate, but I’d rather just find a girl who speaks English and has better vibe.

So in the end, I only did 2 approaches today, and neither really turned into a conversation. Not great, but not a disaster either. Just a small step forward.

I’m learning how important momentum is in a daygame session. Good approaches give you a dopamine hit that makes the next one easier. Misses due to AA spike cortisol and make everything feel heavier. That’s why starting strong really matters.

I also realized that every new challenge (like approaching a group of 3 hot girls, which I still haven’t done) is going to suck the first few times. You have to go through the pain — the harsh rejections, the embarrassment, the cringy moments. There’s no way around it. You have to let your brain experience the discomfort so it can get stronger. Once it does, all that fear and awkwardness fades away.

For tomorrow, I’m going to mentally coil up all my energy and prep myself to go big right from the start of the session. I want to bite the bullet and throw myself into something hard immediately. The specific thing will depend on what the universe throws at me, but I’d love to finally approach a group of 3 hot girls. I haven’t done that yet. If I can just do it once and break through that barrier, it’ll be a huge win.

It’s simply an unavoidable part of this process — you HAVE TO go through the pain. You gotta get harshly rejected, feel the embarrassment, cringe, and fall flat on your face. That’s how your mind gets stronger. Once it does, all that fear and awkwardness disappears.

I've made personal arrangements to stay in Bangkok and focus on this full time for 90 days. Becoming a master at this is my highest life goal. It's clearly something I just agressively want and I wont stop until I'm a master. Long term? I'd love to coach this. To be a coach obviously I need to achieve mastery first - so I will. I wont stop until I get there.

 

[casey_jfly]

She's displaying really clear early interest in you here, so to be honest I think you are even past the flirting and it's time to speed run, so move on to getting compliance, turning it around to taking the reigns and evaluating her, then move it forward fast.

I think "what I noticed about you was" is from Tom Torero's Street Hustle. Might be a good read consistent with your style.

Nice job again!

My buddy that's basically my coach is a big Tom Torero fan. He turned me onto his stuff and I love listening to it. Sad he's no longer with us his stuff helps me a lot today. Grateful for his content.

 

[casey_jfly]

Thanks the info brotha. I walked through Central World yesterday and it seemed pretty good, and I walked Terminal 21 and that seemed ok. Asok seemed like a better area with the hotels, but I did see quite a few working girls in that area. I'm trying to decide if I should stay in Asok or Central World currently.

If the street game is no good and I need to game at malls then I guess I should probably stay near Central World. I want to game where logistics is in my favor. Do you think Phrong Phong is the best?

I'll be out there April 19th. Maybe we can link up at some point.

I'm staying near Phra Khanong and I just hop on the skytrain every day and head straight to either Silom, Asok, or Phrom Phong.

Just those 3 locations off the BTS system are enough. There's enough volume there. I mix it up every day just for variety. I've been at this every day for the past 12 days, I'm getting intimately familiar with every little area of these BTS stations and the attached malls.

I haven't bothered to walk the streets for game at all. Maybe at some point I'll start checking that out. I feel like the air conditioned malls have the volume and I might as well not get sweaty when I'm trying to present myself to women.

And yeah I'd love to link up. I'm out here 6-8 hours a day by myself. Love to meet up with a fellow bro working on the same mission. I'm confused are you already here or you're arriving on April 19?

 

[JohnnyKendhammer]

I'm staying near Phra Khanong and I just hop on the skytrain every day and head straight to either Silom, Asok, or Phrom Phong.

Just those 3 locations off the BTS system are enough. There's enough volume there. I mix it up every day just for variety. I've been at this every day for the past 12 days, I'm getting intimately familiar with every little area of these BTS stations and the attached malls.

I haven't bothered to walk the streets for game at all. Maybe at some point I'll start checking that out. I feel like the air conditioned malls have the volume and I might as well not get sweaty when I'm trying to present myself to women.

And yeah I'd love to link up. I'm out here 6-8 hours a day by myself. Love to meet up with a fellow bro working on the same mission. I'm confused are you already here or you're arriving on April 19?

I was in town yesterday getting my passport back and now back in Pattaya until April 19th

 

[casey_jfly]

I was in town yesterday getting my passport back and now back in Pattaya until April 19th

Awesome when you’re back I’m down to meet up let me know.

You’re doing a 10 day challenge? How experienced are you?

how are you finding Pattaya? It’s not my favorite place TBH. I prefer Bangkok.

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 13 Summary

Things are really starting to shift in my mind, and I’m very aware of it. I feel like my entire mentality is changing.

I’m feeling more powerful and aggressive. The fear that used to hold me back is shrinking every single day — it’s now just a tiny fraction of what it once was. It’s honestly mind-blowing.

I think my testosterone is rising too. I have way more drive and aggression than before.

I’m also noticing a lot more IOIs from random women. The way I respond to them has changed naturally. When a girl gives me eye contact, I now lock eyes with her, hold it without blinking, and give a light, closed-lip grin. It’s not forced at all — it’s just my new default state. Most of these girls are with guys, so I don’t approach, but if I get a strong IOI from a girl who’s alone, I’m going in without hesitation.

Today I was walking around the Silom BTS area feeling like I was at a music festival (I had one AirPod in, jamming to some music). I was basically dancing as I walked, writing down funny observations and anecdotes, and sharing them with my friends on IG.

And of course, I was opening girls — more easily than ever.

I completed 5 good approaches today. One of them was a strong success — my second major close using the framework my coach gave me. She was a 25-year-old very hot Thai flight attendant based in Dubai. She had to work a flight tonight, but she asked for my contact info, took my IG, and even messaged me first saying we should hang out when she gets back.

I’m now juggling DMs with two girls and making plans for dates around their schedules. Now that my skills are finally clicking, the “stack” is starting to grow.

I can feel my power level rising every day. I feel a little more capable than the day before. I’m treating this whole mission to master game like a 24/7 thing — when I’m not in the field, I’m focused on resting well, staying sharp, and keeping the right mindset.

I’ve been using Andrew Tate’s advice about “remembering the feeling” to control my state. When I need a pump-up, I replay the memory of how I felt after my first big close with the framework. It brings back that self-amused, confident energy and gets me in the right zone.

Right now, the main limiting factor is that every approach still feels very exciting and a bit draining. It’s a great feeling, but after a good interaction it takes me a while to calm down and recover. I actually saw a 6th girl I could have approached, but my brain just said “Nope — I need to rest and process everything first.”

I can’t even imagine how different things will be after the full 90 days when I go back to Vietnam. Tonight is Friday, so I’m just going to bed early. I’ll rest up and hit the malls again tomorrow for another full daygame session with as many reps as possible.

My friend/coach is coming back to Bangkok next week and I can’t wait to see him. I think my ability has improved a lot since the last time he saw me. We haven’t done any night game yet, but we’re planning to go out next Friday night. I’m really excited for it. I believe all this daygame grinding is going to transfer over and help me a ton in night game too.

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 14 Summary

Today was a good, interesting, and slightly different day.

I ended up doing only one approach — but it turned into a 4–5 hour instadate with a very hot woman.

I started the day as usual with a coffee at Starbucks near Silom BTS. I had a solid WhatsApp chat about game in Bangkok with @JohnnyKendhammer before I even began approaching.

At the beginning of the session I felt a slight resurgence of approach anxiety. It was just a thin layer of resistance. I hesitated on a couple of girls for the first 30 minutes or so. I could tell the anxiety wasn’t actually that strong, but I was feeling a bit lazy and didn’t push through it right away.

After walking around in my head for half an hour, I finally told myself “Alright, fuck this — just go in on the next one.”

Right as I turned the corner, there she was: a super attractive brown-skinned Thai woman standing at the mall entrance, dressed in a sexy tight long dress with full makeup on. It turned out to be her 27th birthday and she was looking her absolute best.

I went straight in with a direct approach. The interaction felt really good — my body was calm, my mind was relaxed and outcome-independent. The conversation flowed naturally, so I suggested we grab a smoothie nearby. From there we just wandered around the mall together, shopping for fun. She picked out a shirt she liked for me, so I bought it. We looked for a bikini shop but couldn’t find it. Later we got hungry and had dinner together. Since it was her birthday (she showed me her ID), I bought her a 600 baht lipstick as a small gift.

I met her around 1–2 pm. She had mentioned early on that she needed to meet her family at 6:30 for her birthday dinner, so she left around then.

From the moment I approached, it was clear she was genuinely happy and excited that I had come up to her. Halfway through the instadate she randomly said, “Just so you know, I won’t touch a guy on the first day… but tomorrow is okay,” which caught me off guard and made me laugh. I just replied, “Of course, no problem.”

She wants to meet again today (Sunday / Day 15), so we’ll see how that goes.

This brings me to 3 girls in my DMs now, all in various stages of the funnel — and all three have come in the last 4–5 days. Now that I’ve got the basics locked in, the results are finally starting to pick up.

After the long instadate I felt pretty tired, so I headed home to rest and reflect. Normally I try to rack up as many approaches as possible each day to desensitize myself to approach anxiety and build skill, but today the universe handed me this opportunity, so I rolled with it.

 

[Francis]

Niiiice the bday girl sounds solid.

Can I ask - what's your lay count, or just generally... Including online dating

Just wondering if your experience pulling from dates, thinking in terms of logistics, physically escalating etc. is already there.

And I definitely noticed the testosterone thing too when I was approaching constantly. There is a momentum aspect to it. Chase has an article called the Winner Effect about it.

 

[casey_jfly]

Niiiice the bday girl sounds solid.

Can I ask - what's your lay count, or just generally... Including online dating

Just wondering if your experience pulling from dates, thinking in terms of logistics, physically escalating etc. is already there.

And I definitely noticed the testosterone thing too when I was approaching constantly. There is a momentum aspect to it. Chase has an article called the Winner Effect about it.

Hundreds mostly via dating apps and some social circle.
I'm fairly experienced from the point of being on the date.

I'm building my cold approach ability. I really want to get to the point where I can consistently go in / do the approach 100% of the time any girl any environment 0 fucks given whatever her reaction may be. At 30ish approaches I'm closer but not there yet.

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 15 Summary

Today was the first day in 15 straight days that I did zero approaches.

I spent the afternoon at Benjakitti Park walking around in the sun. The crowd was very different from the upscale malls — not many approachable girls at all. I ended up getting cooked by the heat and felt pretty drained by the end. Minor mistake on my part. I’ll rest up tonight and get back after it tomorrow.

I’m at a very interesting psychological point in this journey. I talked about it with my coach, and he said it’s actually pretty common — he went through the same thing himself.

It feels like an intermediate “purgatory” phase. I’ve had a handful of successes and built a bit of confidence, but now I have this new ego that’s scared of getting knocked back down to zero by a few bad approaches. The approach anxiety is weakened a lot — in a full session I can usually push myself to do some approaches — but it’s not fully defeated yet. I’m still chickening out and missing opportunities here and there.

Apparently this phase is quite normal around the 30–40 approach mark, so I don’t feel too bad about it.

The solution is simple: no matter what, just keep going.

Tomorrow is Songkran, and I’ve never experienced it in Thailand before, so I’m not sure what to expect. Hopefully the approach environment is decent. I’m going to rest up tonight and do everything I can to get into a strong mental state. My plan is to gather every ounce of courage I have and kneejerk push myself into the first set as soon as possible tomorrow to build positive momentum right from the start. I really hope to have a big day of approaches tomorrow. I wanna get to a higher ability level.

 

[Francis]

Hundreds mostly via dating apps and some social circle.

Ok that gives a whole lot of additional context, including likely fundamentals.

This is going to be a very different journal then.

Blast off in 3... 2...

 

[JohnnyKendhammer]

Day 14 Summary

Today was a good, interesting, and slightly different day.

I ended up doing only one approach — but it turned into a 4–5 hour instadate with a very hot woman.

I started the day as usual with a coffee at Starbucks near Silom BTS. I had a solid WhatsApp chat about game in Bangkok with @JohnnyKendhammer before I even began approaching.

At the beginning of the session I felt a slight resurgence of approach anxiety. It was just a thin layer of resistance. I hesitated on a couple of girls for the first 30 minutes or so. I could tell the anxiety wasn’t actually that strong, but I was feeling a bit lazy and didn’t push through it right away.

After walking around in my head for half an hour, I finally told myself “Alright, fuck this — just go in on the next one.”

Right as I turned the corner, there she was: a super attractive brown-skinned Thai woman standing at the mall entrance, dressed in a sexy tight long dress with full makeup on. It turned out to be her 27th birthday and she was looking her absolute best.

I went straight in with a direct approach. The interaction felt really good — my body was calm, my mind was relaxed and outcome-independent. The conversation flowed naturally, so I suggested we grab a smoothie nearby. From there we just wandered around the mall together, shopping for fun. She picked out a shirt she liked for me, so I bought it. We looked for a bikini shop but couldn’t find it. Later we got hungry and had dinner together. Since it was her birthday (she showed me her ID), I bought her a 600 baht lipstick as a small gift.

I met her around 1–2 pm. She had mentioned early on that she needed to meet her family at 6:30 for her birthday dinner, so she left around then.

From the moment I approached, it was clear she was genuinely happy and excited that I had come up to her. Halfway through the instadate she randomly said, “Just so you know, I won’t touch a guy on the first day… but tomorrow is okay,” which caught me off guard and made me laugh. I just replied, “Of course, no problem.”

She wants to meet again today (Sunday / Day 15), so we’ll see how that goes.

This brings me to 3 girls in my DMs now, all in various stages of the funnel — and all three have come in the last 4–5 days. Now that I’ve got the basics locked in, the results are finally starting to pick up.

After the long instadate I felt pretty tired, so I headed home to rest and reflect. Normally I try to rack up as many approaches as possible each day to desensitize myself to approach anxiety and build skill, but today the universe handed me this opportunity, so I rolled with it.

Nice brotha. Congrats on the Instant Date. Sounds like you're heating up. I'll be out there Wednesday

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 16 pregame report

Ok it's about 10am on Monday, I've got a meeting from 10:30 - 11:30 and then I'm heading out.

For the last 16 hours I've tried to singularly focus my mind on my one goal: I want to just automatically go in on the very first girl I see today like a robotic retard that doesn't think. I want to reflexively just do it.

I'm tired of approach anxiety. I have to get my brain past this.

I'm going to head down to Silom BTS station, get myself a coffee at Starbucks, and then GO.

I don't give a fuck how it goes. I don't care if for some ridiculous reason she screams like a banshee or if she just fuckin pulls her tits out and shoves my face into them right there in the mall. I don't fucking care. All I care about is just going in.

I'll let you guys know it goes!

 

[casey_jfly]

Quick mid day 16 update.

Fucking success. Here’s recap.

Alright it’s about 12:30. I arrived at Silom today agressively determined to be stronger at going in with a goal of going in on the first girl I see no hesitation. I did it.

I saw two hot girls, one of them I was into. I went in. Asked if they spoke English. Turns out they were Chinese. I actually speak mandarin half decently. We got into a nice 5 minute chat completely in mandarin. Did I do as good of a job as I could have if we did it in English? No. But I have the novelty factor of being a white guy that can speak Chinese and that’s always interesting. The convo went well. I kinda focused on one girl. Looking back I could have brought in the other girl more. I tried to get a coffee thing to happen but they had plans or basically the friend just wanted to keep going.

But whatever! Fucking success. I was getting kinda mad at myself for not pushing through AA more… and I just did it. Relieved.

the day is still fresh I’m getting back to it. 🫡

 

[JohnnyKendhammer]

Quick mid day 16 update.

Fucking success. Here’s recap.

Alright it’s about 12:30. I arrived at Silom today agressively determined to be stronger at going in with a goal of going in on the first girl I see no hesitation. I did it.

I saw two hot girls, one of them I was into. I went in. Asked if they spoke English. Turns out they were Chinese. I actually speak mandarin half decently. We got into a nice 5 minute chat completely in mandarin. Did I do as good of a job as I could have if we did it in English? No. But I have the novelty factor of being a white gut that can speak Chinese and that’s always interesting. The convo went well. I kinda focused on one girl. Looking back I could have brought in the other girl more. I tried to get a coffee thing to happen but they had plans or basically the friend just wanted to keep going.

But whatever! Fucking success. I was getting kinda mad at myself for not pushing through AA more… and I just did it. Relieved.

the day is still fresh I’m getting back to it. 🫡

Nice bro, good job to push yourself to go in and with a two set none the less

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 16 Final Update

Songkran kicked into full gear right after my last post. This is my first time experiencing it in Thailand, and now I get the vibe.

The city gets extremely crowded, mostly with Thai kids, teenagers, and families. The trains are packed in every direction, and the constant water fighting makes everything a bit gross — especially inside the BTS stations and in the usual areas where I game.

It’s a fun family-oriented Thai cultural event, and I’m not trying to hate on it, but for what I’m trying to do right now, it’s pretty inconvenient.

I’m extremely grateful I found and immediately went in on that first set of the day. If I hadn’t done that, I’d probably be feeling pretty down right now. That was basically my only real chance today, and thank god I nailed it. I’m in good spirits now, but the stakes felt high.

I spoke with some friends who know Songkran in Bangkok well, and they said it’s usually like this every year. Because of that, I think I’m going to pause my normal daygame routine until the festival dies down. I might still do some light approaches, but I won’t be taking the train into Silom and walking around there like usual. Tomorrow I’ll probably just walk the streets around Phra Khanong and see what I can find. I definitely won’t be using the BTS system — being jammed in those wet, packed trains isn’t enjoyable at all.

One technique that’s been working well for me to push through something brand new and difficult: For 16+ hours (from the end of one session all the way until the next day), I hyper-fixate on pumping myself up to immediately go in on the first set I want. From last night through this morning, all I was thinking about was hitting the very first girls I saw without hesitation. It worked today. If there had been more good opportunities after that first set, I think I would’ve had a strong session.

Getting positive momentum right at the start of a daygame session is so critical. It seems like momentum is either positive or negative. If you go in on the first set, you feel good about yourself and it carries forward. If you choke and miss that first one, you get disappointed and it becomes much harder to recover.

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 17 Summary

Day 2 of Songkran. As planned, I skipped my usual routine of heading into Silom and walking the malls. Instead, I stayed home most of the day and handled some personal stuff.

Around 5:30pm, once the sun had dropped a bit, I went for a long walk from Phra Khanong through Phrom Phong / Emsphere and back. Within three minutes of leaving my building, a little Thai kid shot me right in the face with a water gun

It turned out to be a really interesting walk. I ended up having a few solid interactions and was in a great state of self-amusement (which is getting easier and easier to access every day).

At the start of the walk, I decided to experiment: I would just throw out quick, polite, friendly compliments to random girls as I passed by, without stopping or trying to run long sets. I wanted higher volume and quick in-and-out interactions to test how my mind felt doing it.

Examples:

• “Hey, you guys look really cute.”
• “Oh thanks hehe.”

What I noticed is that I’m now a lot more comfortable with casual social engaging in general. My mind has relaxed significantly since I started this journey.

Two notable interactions:​

• I came across a group of three beautiful girls who seemed to be with a Western guy showing them around. I got into a conversation with one of them. I felt like I was slightly intruding on his group, but I still asked for her IG. She seemed interested, followed me back, and then I made an excuse and left.
• Then came my first ladyboy encounter . I turned a corner, saw what I thought were two girls, and immediately hit them with “Hey, you guys look really cute.” Two seconds later when I got closer, I realized one was a dude. He started talking and I could hear it in his voice. I just laughed it off with “Yeah, have a nice day!” and quickly walked away.

Overall, not a bad day at all. It was small but positive progress, and I’m feeling great.

I’ll probably do the same kind of relaxed walk tomorrow. Once Songkran is over, I’ll go straight back to my usual full-day daygame routine.

This Friday I’m finally doing my first night game session with my coach who’s returning to Bangkok. I’m pretty excited and optimistic about it. All the interactions I’ve had over the past few weeks have massively desensitized me, so I think I’ll have an easy time just going in on sets.