FR Starting 30-Day Bangkok Daygame + Night Game Immersion – Day 0 (HCMC → Bangkok)

[casey_jfly]

Day 46-48

The last few days have been rough. I pushed hard but only managed one real approach. I’m feeling stressed, yet my determination to keep showing up every single day is higher than ever.

A note on this project
I originally planned this as a 30-day challenge, then extended it to 90. Now I’ve decided I’m going to journal this journey for a full year. I’ll keep approaching daily, even after these 90 days in Bangkok when I return to Ho Chi Minh City. I’ve made enough progress with my approach anxiety that I can continue building momentum back home.

Becoming truly elite at this feels like a 1–2 year project. I want to document the full process—the real struggles, the pace of progress, the ups and downs—so others can see what it actually takes.

Day 46 – Friday
I went out around Siam from 7–9pm but couldn’t find any girls I genuinely wanted to approach. The session felt empty and left me frustrated. Eventually I just went home and called it a night.

Day 47 – Saturday
A strange but memorable day. I started in Siam around 11am and spent over two hours with zero opportunities. Tired and frustrated, I sat down in a restaurant to recover.

Then I spotted two absolute stunners—legit 9s or 10s, supermodel territory. I went straight in and opened the two-set. I wasn’t at my sharpest after walking around all day, but I managed to stack the conversation decently. One of them even told me I was very good-looking.

I didn’t have the presence of mind to push for a close, and the set ended on a friendly note. Still, opening two extremely beautiful women as a tired 2-set felt like a small win.

After that I found nothing else and got completely drained. I later realized I’d walked 25km in Bangkok’s brutal humidity. That explained the exhaustion.

New plan for Sunday: Sit in strategic cafés and high-traffic spots for 1–2 hours each instead of aimlessly walking. Better energy management.

Day 48 – Sunday
Extremely frustrating day. Sundays in the areas I’ve been exploring feel hit-or-miss. I saw over ten attractive girls I wanted to approach, but every single one was with a boyfriend.

I’m in a weird headspace right now. I have a date this week with the great girl I met on Day 45, which is exciting, but this weekend was painful for approaches. It honestly felt more like a lack of good opportunities than approach anxiety holding me back.

Still, even with the dent to my confidence this weekend, I can clearly see how far I’ve come. Approaching is much easier than it was 48 days ago.

This journey is a total roller coaster. I feel stressed and flat today… but I’ll be right back at it tomorrow, as hard as I can.

Extra Note:

I'm currently at 58–61 total approaches after 48 days on this project. That’s roughly the equivalent of 32 actual working days, since I had a few burnout periods, holidays like Songkran, and other days where I didn’t go out.

I believe I can significantly increase both my daily average and overall approach rate from here. Approaching already feels much easier than it did at the start, and I’m confident the consistency and volume will ramp up soon.

 

[Francis]

I'm keeping good logs.

it does read like a captain's log.

I’m feeling stressed, yet my determination to keep showing up every single day is higher than ever.

A note on this project
I originally planned this as a 30-day challenge, then extended it to 90. Now I’ve decided I’m going to journal this journey for a full year

Becoming truly elite at this feels like a 1–2 year project. I want to document the full process—the real struggles, the pace of progress, the ups and downs—so others can see what it actually takes.

I’ll be right back at it tomorrow, as hard as I can.

hey man have you ever been in love..? or even oneitis. even if it's record keeping for "couch to 5k", can you muse a bit on your ultimate motivations? I'm curious what your date process is like... if you deep dive, etc.

 

[casey_jfly]

Days 49–52 Summary

Wild few days. After a brief setback, I came back stronger than ever.

Day 49 – Monday Still deep in the setback. I got nothing done and can barely remember why now. Just a flat, completely unproductive day.

Day 50 – Tuesday Tuesday completely flipped the script. Even with very limited time, I went out early in the Silom area and knocked out 3 approaches back-to-back. Two of them hooked hard. The confidence and ease I felt after Monday’s slump was a huge mental win.

Day 51 – Wednesday Wednesday was interesting. I approached two super hot girls outside Chit Lom even though my head was cloudy and my mental state was off. The fact that I could still “go in” despite not feeling it showed real progress.

Unfortunately, I fumbled the interaction — stacked poorly and asked some dumb questions. The bigger takeaway was still very positive: my ability to initiate is stronger than ever, and my recovery from a cringy set is now lightning fast. Two minutes later I was back to normal, whereas earlier in this journey that kind of set would have ruined half my day.

(Note to self: retire the “Are you a model?” opener for good )

Day 52 – Thursday Thursday delivered the highlight of the streak. While waiting for my friend at Chit Lom, I spotted two extremely attractive Vietnamese girls and went straight in. The set was on fire from the beginning. We vibed hard, the conversation flowed naturally, and being able to speak Vietnamese decently definitely helped.

When my friend arrived, he winged me perfectly with the other girl. After a strong 20-minute interaction, my girl pulled me in and kissed me as I was leaving.

That moment genuinely felt like the culmination of the last two months of consistent work — everything just clicked.

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Looking ahead My 60-day tourist visa in Thailand is almost up, so I’m heading back to Ho Chi Minh City tomorrow for the weekend before returning to Bangkok on Monday for another 30–35 days. I’m really excited to test my new approach skills in Vietnam and see how they translate back home.

 

[casey_jfly]

Days 53–56 Summary

Day 53 – Friday
Day 54 – Saturday
Day 55 – Sunday
Day 56 – Monday

I’m back in Bangkok after a quick weekend trip to Ho Chi Minh City. Before heading home, I was excited — and a little nervous — to see how the last two months of near-daily approaching in Bangkok would translate back in Vietnam. As I noted at the start of this journal, I had basically zero approach ability when I first moved to Thailand.

I’m thrilled to report the results were excellent.

The weekend felt like a genuine milestone. I had a great time with my friends while putting in solid work across daygame, street approaches, and night game. The biggest shift was how natural taking action now felt. I was consistently doing things that would have seemed impossible just two months ago.

I’d currently place myself at a mid-intermediate level. After 100+ approaches and some increasingly strong successes, my confidence, inner belief, and overall relaxation have improved dramatically. Opening is no longer difficult — I can comfortably go in and riff/stack for the first minute or two. My verbals still flop sometimes, but I’ve stopped letting it bother me. Even if a set doesn’t go perfectly, it barely affects my mood or momentum anymore.

One of my biggest strengths right now is my positive mentality and personality. I bring good energy and value to every interaction. I avoid steering conversations toward anything negative, heavy, or effortful. Instead, I focus on light silliness, playfulness, compliments, teasing, and positive emotions.

Golden Rule: Never complain or bring negativity into the set. Avoid lines like:

• “This place is so crowded.”
• “The music sucks tonight.”
• “People here are so fake.”

I’d rather make playful observations, give genuine compliments, or create fun push-pull moments.

The main area I want to sharpen now is my riffing and verbal game — specifically building attraction and sexual tension early in the interaction. I’ve already set up a plan for this: 10 focused training sessions with my friend/coach. His verbal skills are elite, and I’m confident this will take me to the next level.

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Overall Reflection This weekend in HCMC was the perfect test. It confirmed that two months of consistent effort in Bangkok have created real, lasting change. My foundation is much stronger now, and I’m excited to keep building.

Today marks the start of my final 30-day stint of this project in Bangkok. I’m expecting accelerated progress as I build on the momentum from the past two months. From here on, I’ll go into more detail on specific approaches and sets. As mentioned earlier, I plan to share my progress openly over the next year to show other guys what’s realistically possible with daily, focused game development.

Travel Plans for the Next Few Months:

• Bangkok for the next 30 days
• Return to HCMC in June for approximately 3 weeks
• Amsterdam/Belgium on July 10th for Tomorrowland — will likely spend ~3 weeks in Europe, continuing to work on my game
• United States for the month of August to visit family (this will be a forced ~1-month break from game, as the area is limited for daygame)
• Back to HCMC at the start of September with no further travel planned — I’ll settle in and focus on consistent daily approaches (daygame + night game)

Feeling motivated and ready for the next phase.

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 57–58 Summary
Progress continues. Everything going well.

Day 57 – Tuesday

Went out for a game session in Bangkok, but honestly didn’t find anything that excited me. I casually opened two girls, but I wasn’t very attracted to either of them and had no motivation to push the interactions further.

Bangkok is still an incredible city for game, but days like this happen occasionally. Sometimes you simply go out at the wrong time or place and the city feels empty.

I’m also becoming increasingly selective. I’ve now had enough success with girls I’d genuinely classify as 8–10s that I no longer feel much desire to invest in interactions I’m not excited about. Approaching becomes far more enjoyable when you’re genuinely drawn to the girl instead of just doing a set for practice.

What I do feel strongly about is the progress I’ve made over the past two months. Every set feels productive now. I’m learning from each interaction and steadily improving. I haven’t had any crazy 10-approach marathon days — my highest day has maybe been six approaches — but I’ve been chipping away consistently, day after day, and the growth is undeniable.

Day 58 – Wednesday

Great day.

I went out for a game session around 6 PM and, completely by chance, bumped into my friend/coach at Terminal 21 in Asok. We ended up walking around together for about 2.5 hours exploring.

At one point I saw a girl on the BTS skywalk that I was immediately very into, so I went straight in.

The approach went well. Honestly, I barely feel AA anymore. My internal state these days is extremely solid — I’m genuinely happy, especially because week by week I can clearly see my game improving. So when I entered the set, I felt calm, relaxed, grounded, and full of positive energy.

I opened direct with a compliment about her look and teasingly told her she distracted me while I was walking past. From there I riffed for a minute or two using observations and assumptions before the interaction naturally flowed into conversation.

She hooked quickly and started asking questions — where I’m from, how long I’ve been in Thailand, etc. We ended up making plans to meet again and exchanged Line contacts. (No Instagram — in my opinion going for IG is usually a rookie mistake.)

My verbals still weren’t perfect. A little clunky at times. But my energy and confidence carried the interaction well. My verbal game is definitely improving, though there’s still a lot of room to sharpen it further. The focused coaching sessions I’m doing with my friend on “riffing” and conversational flow are helping tremendously.

Later we walked over to Benjakitti Park where my friend absolutely crushed a set with a girl who gave him a strong look-back IOI while running. She was gorgeous. He waved her down from a distance and confidently walked over to open her.

It was masterfully executed.

Watching that made me realize I should also start using waves or hand gestures when girls give IOIs from farther away. It’s a small detail, but those tiny calibration improvements are exactly the kind of things you gradually pick up through experience.

After that we continued exploring different areas for future sessions before eventually getting tired and calling it a night.

Honestly, experiences like this are exactly why I love cold approach and game.

Two guys walking around Bangkok for a couple hours, both meeting high-quality women organically, all through confidence and social freedom. You simply walk outside and, almost like magic, beautiful new women can suddenly enter your life.

That experience does not come from dating apps.

It comes from developing social courage, game skills, and inner confidence — and very few men are willing to endure the discomfort required to build those things.

What’s crazy is that two months ago this entire reality felt impossible to me. Back then my AA would never have allowed me to make an approach like the one I did today.

There was a period in my life where I genuinely believed I might never overcome AA or become socially free.

Thankfully I kept forcing myself through the process anyway.

Now I can clearly see that overcoming AA is not some mysterious talent gap — it’s simply a process of repeated exposure and gradual adaptation. If you keep going through that process long enough, eventually you come out the other side.

Additional Thoughts

I’m very fortunate that I met my friend, who has genuinely elite-level game skills.

We met completely by chance around two years ago. The very first time I saw him in action I was blown away by his social ability, and I instantly decided I wanted to develop that same level of confidence and skill for myself.

In the beginning he was kind enough to take me out even though I had essentially zero game ability or approach experience. Since then I’ve happily paid him several times for coaching because the value I’ve gotten from his guidance has been enormous.

He’s helped me avoid countless mistakes and accelerated my progress dramatically compared to what I could’ve achieved alone.

What’s exciting now is that my own ability is finally improving to the point where I can genuinely keep up with him and contribute value as a wing.

Earlier on, when he was coaching me, I was definitely slowing him down — and he was patient enough to help anyway. But now I’m actually becoming competent enough to carry my own weight during sessions.

Last Thursday, for example, I opened a two-set and brought him into it, essentially helping him get a girl through the interaction for the first time.

It’s similar to skiing: an experienced skier is obviously going to have more fun skiing with another experienced skier than with someone brand new who barely knows what they’re doing.

That’s kind of where things are heading now.

We’re already making plans to travel and game together in different countries. I want to take him to Singapore soon — I honestly think Singapore is underrated for game. Tons of beautiful women, very international, and almost everyone speaks English.

 

[kevkev39]

Day 57–58 Summary
Progress continues. Everything going well.

Man you are on point with the consistency here. If you want a wing, let me know. I'm also in BKK right now, totally locked in on fitness, but looking for more things to do.

 

[Francis]

This journal is confusing... There are four pages but no detailed field report at all?

Like if you handed the whole thing to Chase to ask for advice on improvement or tweaking, there is pretty close to zero information in it to use.

So the motivation is to show guys "what it takes" but there is nothing to read. I know you have a skilled friend/coach but guys like @Atlas IV @James D and @alleniverson etc could be helping you a lot with small 80/20 rule tweaks. Major opportunity cost. A guy looking for inspiration will only get ratio data out of this (which is useless without context).

 

[casey_jfly]

This journal is confusing... There are four pages but no detailed field report at all?

Like if you handed the whole thing to Chase to ask for advice on improvement or tweaking, there is pretty close to zero information in it to use.

So the motivation is to show guys "what it takes" but there is nothing to read. I know you have a skilled friend/coach but guys like @Atlas IV @James D and @alleniverson etc could be helping you a lot with small 80/20 rule tweaks. Major opportunity cost. A guy looking for inspiration will only get ratio data out of this (which is useless without context).

Bro I don’t know what to tell you I’m sorry you’re confused.

It’s a journal. I’m sharing my daily reflections on my experiences and my internal state changes as I go through the process. The idea is share with other people that might just be starting out what the nature / speed / intensity / flow of the process is like. So far I think I’ve done a good job sharing what the emotional roller coaster and potential achievable progress is like over the first 2 months. I assure you I’ll reach out for specific types of advice as I need it.

I’m probably not going to go as far as sharing super intimate private sexua from the results of these interactions just out of respect and privacy - especially since I naively started out on this forum using a handle that can be searched and traced to my actual identity.

Maybe there was a better subsection of the forum I could have started this under, I was new I didn’t know - and oh well it’s too late to change it now.

I’ve gained value from other people that have talked to me via this form, and I’ve talked to other people who have told me the chronicling of this journey is helpful for them.

I’m just gonna keep rolling with my preferred writing style

 

[casey_jfly]

Man you are on point with the consistency here. If you want a wing, let me know. I'm also in BKK right now, totally locked in on fitness, but looking for more things to do.

Thanks man! Yeah would love to connect let’s chat in the DMs.

 

[kevkev39]

Thanks man! Yeah would love to connect let’s chat in the DMs.

Totally. Shoot me a message because I have no idea how to do that on here.

 

[Francis]

Bro I don’t know what to tell you I’m sorry you’re confused.

It’s a journal. I’m sharing my daily reflections on my experiences and my internal state changes as I go through the process. The idea is share with other people that might just be starting out what the nature / speed / intensity / flow of the process is like. So far I think I’ve done a good job sharing what the emotional roller coaster and potential achievable progress is like over the first 2 months. I assure you I’ll reach out for specific types of advice as I need it.

I’m probably not going to go as far as sharing super intimate private sexua from the results of these interactions just out of respect and privacy - especially since I naively started out on this forum using a handle that can be searched and traced to my actual identity.

Maybe there was a better subsection of the forum I could have started this under, I was new I didn’t know - and oh well it’s too late to change it now.

I’ve gained value from other people that have talked to me via this form, and I’ve talked to other people who have told me the chronicling of this journey is helpful for them.

I’m just gonna keep rolling with my preferred writing style

Journals also typically have descriptions of the interactions, especially reflections and troubleshooting of sticking points, which requires detail.

I see you want to be a coach, and think it could be valuable to hand a student your evidence that he's going to have to grind. The work ethic is admirable.

You don't have to post the details she reveals in deep diving etc. But there is very little about the sets.

 

[Francis]

From first report... Examples of what could each have been two or three paragraphs (more for first one). Not to knock you... It's to help you. I am not a coach with any motivation besides showing you there is nothing to critique or help others:


Tuesday 31/3 — 1 approach at Silom BTS outside Starbucks. Cute 27-year-old Thai girl. We chatted for 2 hours at a nearby café. Took her out on a date Friday night… more on that below. [“Feminist”, “live and learn”]

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Thursday 2/4 — 1 approach at Emquartier/Phrom Phong Student moving to America soon. Good chat, exchanged IG. She’s been viewing my stories but no real follow-up.

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[April 4]

approaches at Emsphere:

Walked with a 2-set on the escalator for a few minutes → exchanged Instagrams (great vibe)

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[April 5]

Skybridge: Helped a girl who looked lost → 5 min good chat, exchanged IG. She’s now flirting pretty hard in my DMs (she had a flight tonight but will be back)

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 59–62 Summary (Thursday – Sunday)

The last few days have been really tough. This whole process is a roller coaster, and Days 59–62 marked a clear low point — especially after feeling on top of the world the previous week.

My mental state took a noticeable step backward. I felt off, weak, anxious, and nervous again. I can’t fully explain why — it felt somewhat random. Even though I wasn’t psychologically strong, I still pushed myself to go out and do at least some approaches.

• Thursday: 1 approach — went okay, closed the contact.
• Friday: 1 approach — quick blowout.
• Saturday: Complete rest day. I wasn’t in the mood to talk to anyone, so I stayed home and recharged.
• Sunday: Went out for 9 hours in Bangkok and forced myself to do two approaches (one single and one 2-set). Both were blowouts.

The weak approaches and blowouts were clearly the result of my inner game being off. I’ve been actively working on shifting my mindset back to a positive place — and thankfully, it’s working. The progress feels slow but steady. As I write this, I already feel pretty good and genuinely optimistic about tomorrow.

Even though the results were rough, completing those two approaches on Sunday made me feel better. It proved I could still take action despite a bad mental state. I’m committed to viewing everything through a positive lens.

This feels like a temporary resurgence of my approach anxiety — nothing serious, just a short dip. I’ve also been reflecting on my thought patterns and how they often cause me to bail on approaches I know I should take. With a solid night of sleep and a fresh start tomorrow, I’m better prepared to spot those mental habits early and push through them.

I’m writing this quickly before bed on Sunday night. I can already feel myself climbing out of the low point of the roller coaster. Tomorrow I’ll hit the streets with a renewed mindset. I’m optimistic that my inner game, mood, and confidence will be significantly better.

Key point for anyone on the same journey: I’m now at 60+ days of consistently going out every day and pushing as hard as I can. In those 60 days I’ve made clear progress — I’ve had huge wins and I’m texting with several girls who seem genuinely interested.

But even after 60 days, you’ll still have low periods where you don’t feel awesome. This is not a straight line of constant improvement. It’s full of highs where you feel like a god and lows where you feel like shit. The difference is that over time the highs get higher and the lows get less severe. The progress graph looks like a lightning bolt climbing upward to the right.

This difficult, non-linear path is exactly why most guys never reach mastery — they can’t handle the emotional roller coaster. But I am obsessed and I will not quit - no matter what.

Above all, I’m ferociously determined to master this skill. I’m going to push myself to approach as much as humanly possible every single day until I get there — and I’ll document and share the entire journey as it unfolds.

Extra Note:
I need to increase my volume. I need to get to at least 5 opens in < 3 hours as an interm goal - eventually getting to 10 in < 4 hours. Tomorrow I'm going to do my absolute best to try and get to 5 in < 3 hours. 🫡

 

[kevkev39]

Day 59–62 Summary (Thursday – Sunday)

The last few days have been really tough. This whole process is a roller coaster, and Days 59–62 marked a clear low point — especially after feeling on top of the world the previous week.

My mental state took a noticeable step backward. I felt off, weak, anxious, and nervous again. I can’t fully explain why — it felt somewhat random. Even though I wasn’t psychologically strong, I still pushed myself to go out and do at least some approaches.

• Thursday: 1 approach — went okay, closed the contact.
• Friday: 1 approach — quick blowout.
• Saturday: Complete rest day. I wasn’t in the mood to talk to anyone, so I stayed home and recharged.
• Sunday: Went out for 9 hours in Bangkok and forced myself to do two approaches (one single and one 2-set). Both were blowouts.

The weak approaches and blowouts were clearly the result of my inner game being off. I’ve been actively working on shifting my mindset back to a positive place — and thankfully, it’s working. The progress feels slow but steady. As I write this, I already feel pretty good and genuinely optimistic about tomorrow.

Even though the results were rough, completing those two approaches on Sunday made me feel better. It proved I could still take action despite a bad mental state. I’m committed to viewing everything through a positive lens.

This feels like a temporary resurgence of my approach anxiety — nothing serious, just a short dip. I’ve also been reflecting on my thought patterns and how they often cause me to bail on approaches I know I should take. With a solid night of sleep and a fresh start tomorrow, I’m better prepared to spot those mental habits early and push through them.

I’m writing this quickly before bed on Sunday night. I can already feel myself climbing out of the low point of the roller coaster. Tomorrow I’ll hit the streets with a renewed mindset. I’m optimistic that my inner game, mood, and confidence will be significantly better.

Key point for anyone on the same journey: I’m now at 60+ days of consistently going out every day and pushing as hard as I can. In those 60 days I’ve made clear progress — I’ve had huge wins and I’m texting with several girls who seem genuinely interested.

But even after 60 days, you’ll still have low periods where you don’t feel awesome. This is not a straight line of constant improvement. It’s full of highs where you feel like a god and lows where you feel like shit. The difference is that over time the highs get higher and the lows get less severe. The progress graph looks like a lightning bolt climbing upward to the right.

This difficult, non-linear path is exactly why most guys never reach mastery — they can’t handle the emotional roller coaster. But I am obsessed and I will not quit - no matter what.

Above all, I’m ferociously determined to master this skill. I’m going to push myself to approach as much as humanly possible every single day until I get there — and I’ll document and share the entire journey as it unfolds.

Extra Note:
I need to increase my volume. I need to get to at least 5 opens in < 3 hours as an interm goal - eventually getting to 10 in < 4 hours. Tomorrow I'm going to do my absolute best to try and get to 5 in < 3 hours. 🫡

Part of the reason you're feeling like that is that you've been working on & optimizing for the wrong things. (Which is evident in how you're describing your goal as increased volume.)

Props to you for putting the work in and being consistent about cold approach, but here's the thing:

The reality is, unless you're leaving some stuff out of this journal, you've already got enough cold approach fundamentals down.* You can keep optimizing for volume and do it just to keep doing it, but it's probably NOT going to help you in any meaningful way.

From this point, you'd be better off either working on the follow-up to schedule a date, or on dialing in the environments you like, where you'll also find quality girls in. (Or alternatively go full tilt like me and work on building a harem generation system.)






*This is where you either agree or you start making excuses like you don't know how to handle objections every time, still fel a little nervous, etc. etc. This is also where I tell you that when I've taught cold calling, I can typically bring someone to around 5~10% meetings booked (Which is a minimum of 5x better than the average.). Even these guys (and yes, even myself) - who are GREAT at what they do - have a burning hatred for doing volume, and it makes them feel just as bad as you're describing here.

 

[casey_jfly]

Part of the reason you're feeling like that is that you've been working on & optimizing for the wrong things. (Which is evident in how you're describing your goal as increased volume.)

Props to you for putting the work in and being consistent about cold approach, but here's the thing:

The reality is, unless you're leaving some stuff out of this journal, you've already got enough cold approach fundamentals down.* You can keep optimizing for volume and do it just to keep doing it, but it's probably NOT going to help you in any meaningful way.

From this point, you'd be better off either working on the follow-up to schedule a date, or on dialing in the environments you like, where you'll also find quality girls in. (Or alternatively go full tilt like me and work on building a harem generation system.)






*This is where you either agree or you start making excuses like you don't know how to handle objections every time, still fel a little nervous, etc. etc. This is also where I tell you that when I've taught cold calling, I can typically bring someone to around 5~10% meetings booked (Which is a minimum of 5x better than the average.). Even these guys (and yes, even myself) - who are GREAT at what they do - have a burning hatred for doing volume, and it makes them feel just as bad as you're describing here.

Thanks man for the feedback.

I guess I have neglected to add one detail, I’ve been working on doing verbals/improv/“riffing” training with a coach of mine who is very good at this. And it’s been going well I’ve improved a lot with attraction generation.

im going through a bit of a rough patch, but I’m *going*

It’s 10:30am Monday morning here and I just did my first approach of the day and it basically was a bomb - I have somehow slightly regressed psychologically from where I was last week. From what I’ve learned about the process from talking to others - this is not unexpected.

I pushed myself to do the approach but annoyingly I’m not feeling 100% in my head and that’s what caused it to go badly. BUT I’m happy with myself for doing it at the very least. I did my first one today very quickly - much more so than yesterday.

I’m now walking around bangkok going to try again. I’d say I’m off to a decent start even tho my first set was a bomb. I’ll write up a full summary of the day later.

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 63 (Monday) Summary

Amazing turnaround. This was easily my best day of the entire journey so far — both in volume and quality of interactions.

I completed 7 approaches, my highest volume day yet.

I started the morning in a rough internal state — low confidence and still carrying momentum from the previous tough days. But I pushed through with pure willpower and determination.

The first approach was a quick blowout, a clear result of my head not being in the right place. Instead of spiraling, I reframed it positively: At least I took action even when I wasn’t feeling good.

From there, everything shifted. The approaches got progressively better, and my internal state improved with each one. I went from feeling off and anxious to being in peak form. Most interactions flowed well — even the girls who had boyfriends turned into fun, extended chats. By the end of the day, I had lined up 3 solid dates with girls who were clearly interested.

My overall “approach power” — confidence and comfort in tougher situations — hit a new all-time high. My inner game flipped from low to extremely strong in just one day.

And best of all, I’m now booked with dates almost the entire week.

I’ll go deeper into the specifics of my approaches in future posts. Right now, what I really want to share is the constant roller coaster of managing my internal state and inner game. The goal is to reach a place where I consistently feel good, confident, relaxed, strong, and free of approach anxiety.

Just a week ago I was at a high, then suddenly dropped into an irrational 3–4 day low only to swing back up to a new peak. It’s been an intense ride of highs and lows — but the highs are getting higher.

And I could have easily kept going after the 7th approach, but my phone died and my feet were exhausted, so I called it a day.

I’m writing this on Tuesday feeling strong and motivated, but unfortunately I won’t be able to get back out today — I’m swamped with work and have a date lined up this evening. Still, I’m really looking forward to hitting the streets again soon.

 

[casey_jfly]

Days 64–70 (Tuesday – Monday) Summary

This was a different kind of week: very light on approaches, heavy on dates.

After my strong Day 63, I spent most of the week on dates with girls I’d met from earlier daygame sessions. With work and gym taking up my days, I kept approaching to a bare minimum — usually just one per day.

The dates were a mixed bag. Some girls showed real keeper potential; others I chose to let go. Over the past week I added five new women to the funnel and dropped two. For example, Tuesday’s date was genuinely lovely, while Wednesday’s was quite annoying. Both were attractive enough to catch my eye and earn an approach, but I’m now in a new phase of actively curating — and churning — my options.

This week reinforced a clear truth: volume matters. At this stage in my life, I’ve become extremely picky. I’d rather enjoy my own company than settle for anything less than an exceptional woman who checks nearly all my boxes. Exceptional women are rare — you simply can’t find them without putting in serious volume through approaches, connections, and dates.

Looking ahead, I already have even more dates lined up this week, but I’m determined to get back to consistent daily approaching.

Monday – Day 70 I completed one approach today. It went decently, but I can definitely sharpen it.

I opened two girls walking together in the food court at Siam Paragon. The one I liked was wearing a white skirt and white top — great figure, very attractive overall. I started with “Do you speak English?” followed by a compliment. I ran out of stack ideas a bit awkwardly and moved straight into the close. She was attracted enough at baseline for it to work, but my verbals could have been smoother and I should have included her friend more. Being my first approach in several days, I felt rusty.

Tomorrow (Tuesday) I’m planning a full brute-force approach day: 8am–1pm and 3pm–5pm, followed by an evening date in the park.

 

[casey_jfly]

Day 71-76 Summary

This past week followed the now-familiar pattern: a sudden mood collapse followed by the grind of climbing back out into a solid, positive state.

I spent 2–3 days feeling low for no obvious reason. Approaching felt like an enormous struggle. I was constantly talking myself up, trying to force my mindset back on track. It took a few days, but for the third time in this journey, I managed to reset my head and get back to work. Yesterday I pushed hard and had a strong day: 4 solid approaches with 1 good close. Today I’m aiming to beat that.

At Day 76, I want to pause and share where I’m actually at, plus a few recent lessons. I’m curious how my pace compares to other guys on the same path, and I hope this helps anyone following along.

Current Progress​

I’ve now done roughly 100 lifetime approaches in 76 days. That’s slower than I expected when I started, but it’s still a massive leap for me. Seventy-six days ago I was basically at zero. I had dabbled before, but the effort was sporadic and never stuck. Committing to this focused mission was the difference-maker.

My approach anxiety is maybe halfway defeated. On good days I can push through 4–6 approaches, though I still choke on some—especially the lightning-fast ones where I have under two seconds to react (I've gotten some of these but far from 100%). I’m much stronger when I spot a woman from a distance and have time to move in.

Yesterday was a rollercoaster: good approaches lifted my mood, missed ones dragged it down. I’m still learning how to stay even-keeled.

Key Lesson​

One of the most useful things I’ve figured out recently: Don’t dwell on any single approach. Clear it from your mind as quickly as possible. I used to text my friend after every set to debrief. Now I just open my notes app, jot down one quick line, and deliberately blank my mind.

I’ve watched my friend (who’s very good at this) operate the same way — he does the approach and immediately moves on mentally. Copying that helped me stay relaxed and level yesterday. Highly recommend experimenting with it.

Current Ability Level​

In 76 days I’ve gone from crippling AA (where even one approach felt almost impossible) to being able to do ~5 approaches per day with enough skill to close 1–2 of them. For me, that’s a huge milestone. Closing even one or two a day starts building a real pipeline.

I still want my approach anxiety lowered much further so I can comfortably hit 10+ per day. My coach/friend proves it’s possible — watching him makes it feel achievable.

My verbal game and stacking are still my weakest areas. They’re good enough that girls who like my look will give me a chance to hook, but there’s a lot of room to grow. I’m confident those skills will improve with time and volume.

The first two months were brutal — hammering out approaches with almost zero results. Finally closing some sets and “completing the circuit” has been incredibly motivating. The momentum feels real now.

I took the entire week off from work and personal projects to go 100% all-in on game. I’m heading out again today and plan to approach every day this week. My goal is to finally hit my first 10-approach day as soon as possible.