Strange phenom on girls ("Why guys lost interest fast"-Her view)

Eiswein

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Good afternoon friends i want to know you opinion about this

I have noticed an strange phenom on girls when you are in the certain stage of a relationship, they start to think that you are losing interest in them because you talk to them less, but personally i do that because sometimes i feel like there"s nothing to speak about, sometimes you are busy, I'm relatively new to the game and I don't know if it's a frame issue, sometimes i feel like they want me to be a entertainer for them but Conversely they never say funny things and i find them having boring lifes
 

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Cro-Magnon Man
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Most girls are highly attuned to even the smallest behavioral changes in people around them. If they think that change is negative, most of the time they try to analyze and draw possible conclusions. They talk to their friends about it, perhaps even close family members.

If you do things like
  • stay in touch every day, but now you only speak every other day,
  • write upbeat and long texts, but now you only do the bare minimum to keep a text conversation alive
  • you used to fuck her every time you met, and now you fuck her less than that
then she will feel something is different and maybe react on it. It's an inevitable part of relationships at some point, but you can delay them from happening. And in order to do that, you might have to do things differently.

Do you talk to her about everything too soon since you feel like there's nothing to talk about later?

What would happen if you did it the other way - don't talk about everything right away, but gradually introduce more topics to your conversations as your relationship progresses? And could it perhaps be that you have a limited amount of hobbies and interests you can talk to her about?

And when you say "they never say funny things, and I find them having boring lifes", does that mean you might be meeting the wrong girls? Did they present themselves in a better light in the beginning to get you attracted to them?

Maybe you have to meet women from other venues than the one(s) you're meeting them from now. Or screen better for girls with a sense of wit and an interesting life.

If she's a girlfriend, are you then introducing novel events you can share together? Does she get a feeling that the relationship is progressing, or are you doing exactly what you have always done and keeping things stale?

Of course the girl has to play some part too, but there are many things a guy can do himself :)
 
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COCPORN

Tribal Elder
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Hey, space monkey.

They do not lose interest in you because you don't talk to them. They were never really interested, and you stopping talking to them gives them an out.

Women who are into you will drive the conversation.

Flawed premise.

You think they have boring lives because they do not want you and it is a good out for you.

"We didn't like each other."
 

Eiswein

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it is a good out for you as your relationship progresses? And could it perhaps be that you have a limited amount of hobbies and interests you can talk to her about?
Did they present themselves in a better light in the beginning to get you attracted to them?
I find your answer very interesting, i will try new interesting topics in the future and i have interesting hobbies, i play in a rock band and rock climb but somehow i dont like to talk much about these things
Also i think last question is also the case, maybe i need to screen better and that also applies to me i guess i aproach to much like a funny guy

Women who are into you will drive the conversation.
The things is that i like shy girls who are generally socially akward, i think they sometimes they try but with boring questions like: (what are you doing every 4 hours)
 
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