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I saw a recent post on a guy asking for texting advice and they got so much conflicting advice that it must of been confusing.
A lot of us here have big egos but the fact of the matter is you can consistently get laid with many different styles.
I'm going to outline the way I text because it gets results and it's super short which reduces the chance of messing up. When you're new you tend to get in your own way.
Full disclaimer my approach is a hybrid of: Blackdragon 2.0, Chase and Skills traffic light system.
**big shameless shout out to @Skills - no exaggeration his text guide took my communication to the next level but no offense bro I think your ping every morning advice is "beyond horrible" for newbies
hahaha anyway I digress.
Who will this guide work for? Guys who hate texting because they would rather be doing something else.
If you're the extraverted always chatty type then this style or guide isn't for you.
What makes me qualified to write this? I've had a rotation of 3 girls for the last 2 years. A few have lasted 12 months+ with as little as 1 text every 2 weeks.
I have also consistently met up with new girls even after a week or even 2 of radio silence. I do lose a few more girls than my more active counter-parts but the low-maintenance trade off is worth it for me.
Right let's start off with the foundation and some ground rules:
Cardinal rules you should *almost* never break
1. Keep your texts short
Stop writing wayyyyyyyyyy to much. Honestly stop & think if you write over 2 sentences. You should always aim to text half of what she writes or the same at worst.
I'm super particular about this and even "draft" and send whatsapp messages to myself so I know how it will appear. This makes me super concise without seeming blunt.
2. Keep your texts simple
Don't try to add too much in one text. Until you know what you're doing - ask 1 question at a time and make your texts simple and clear
3. Text at "off-peak" times
If you just met a girl and you're texting her on a Friday or Saturday night that says a lot about you. I don't care if you don't have anything to do, fake it if you have to and wait until Sunday
4. Be cool
Don't know how else to say this. Text should be a supplement of you being a cool guy not a way of building an image of you being a cool guy (in my opinion). With my style a lot of the work is done in person. If you're an online guy then make your pics top tier. Be cool also means that you should never as the man have "deep chats" over text or get emotional. Leave that to the girl and if you want to have that conversation just invite her to your place.
This guide could be pages so I'll just write common situation texts and why they work:
Cold approach text
"Hi [name], was cool meeting your [personal fact you learnt about her] , how was [activity she was about to do]"
E.g. "Hi Alexa, cool meeting your non-boring accountant self, how's the rest of your night? - DWW"
So let's break this down. I'm being personal by using her name and mentioning something we spoke about. Then I'm giving her a bit of attention by asking how her night was. This tends to work because what girl doesn't like a bit of attention?
This is where I changed my method as I used to go straight into confirming the date but that had mixed results. Now I confirm the date in the 2nd text and my results went up. I'm essentially pinging to see her buying temperature before closing. Again read skill's guide for reference. You should already have seeded logistics as per my daygame guide here
I often write this as a voicenote as these type of messages can be long over text. If you prefer texting keep it to 1 maximum 2 sentences.
Making interesting conversation
*Opener to girl on Tinder*
"Hii [X], how did you find living in [German flag] vs [US Flag?]
*girl reply blah blah blah*
"Ahh you must now drink like a sailor [face palm] aha that's cool what do you get up to now in London?"
My investment is short but open so can easily form a big reply and give me many threads to go off. My response is also playful but not overly entertaining. Notice I also ask about what she gets up to because I'm funneling her into sharing her schedule / logistics even in the rapport building phase.
I don't do much of this but the principle here is to force a girl out of auto-pilot and yes or no answers. The way you do this is:
1. Push and pull
2. Open questions
3. The right amount of validation so she wants to respond to you
Won't see a girl in X weeks because of xyz
"Hi [x] cool meeting you, I'll catch you in a week or so, enjoy [xyz]
I think so many guys overthink this scenario. If a girl is into you she will have no problem waiting 1 week and she won't go off the radar.
E.g. "Hi Leanne, random but fun meeting you by the bus stop, see you in a week for drinks and enjoy camping!"
Why does this work? You add something fun and personable, you confirm the date in a casual way so she knows it's definitely happening (you should have already seeded it in) then you wrap it up with enjoy camping! Which is just a nice thing to do so most people will say thank you.
The best bit about this text is you test her level of investment in you dependent on the reply.
**Just remember to text her a few days before the date to re-confirm**
"Hi Leanne, hope camping isn't too stressful in the rain [laugh emoji], we still good for Friday?"
Again this works because it's fun, personable but straight to the point and clear. You're obviously confirming the date but adding a nice warm touch to it.
Girl asks you for social media or finds it weird that you don't text
"Hi [xyz] I'm not much of a texter, I prefer to just be present in person instead"
One of my personal favorites. I'm in my 20's and very much a ghost on social media. At this point 90% of the time it spikes girls interests in me because I appear more mysterious. The other 10% wouldn't be compatible with me anyway.
This is another thing that I think the community overthinks. If you've given a solid impression, are clearly cool and normal then you'll be fine.
A lot of us here have big egos but the fact of the matter is you can consistently get laid with many different styles.
I'm going to outline the way I text because it gets results and it's super short which reduces the chance of messing up. When you're new you tend to get in your own way.
Full disclaimer my approach is a hybrid of: Blackdragon 2.0, Chase and Skills traffic light system.
**big shameless shout out to @Skills - no exaggeration his text guide took my communication to the next level but no offense bro I think your ping every morning advice is "beyond horrible" for newbies
hahaha anyway I digress.Who will this guide work for? Guys who hate texting because they would rather be doing something else.
If you're the extraverted always chatty type then this style or guide isn't for you.
What makes me qualified to write this? I've had a rotation of 3 girls for the last 2 years. A few have lasted 12 months+ with as little as 1 text every 2 weeks.
I have also consistently met up with new girls even after a week or even 2 of radio silence. I do lose a few more girls than my more active counter-parts but the low-maintenance trade off is worth it for me.
Right let's start off with the foundation and some ground rules:
Cardinal rules you should *almost* never break
1. Keep your texts short
Stop writing wayyyyyyyyyy to much. Honestly stop & think if you write over 2 sentences. You should always aim to text half of what she writes or the same at worst.
I'm super particular about this and even "draft" and send whatsapp messages to myself so I know how it will appear. This makes me super concise without seeming blunt.
2. Keep your texts simple
Don't try to add too much in one text. Until you know what you're doing - ask 1 question at a time and make your texts simple and clear
3. Text at "off-peak" times
If you just met a girl and you're texting her on a Friday or Saturday night that says a lot about you. I don't care if you don't have anything to do, fake it if you have to and wait until Sunday
4. Be cool
Don't know how else to say this. Text should be a supplement of you being a cool guy not a way of building an image of you being a cool guy (in my opinion). With my style a lot of the work is done in person. If you're an online guy then make your pics top tier. Be cool also means that you should never as the man have "deep chats" over text or get emotional. Leave that to the girl and if you want to have that conversation just invite her to your place.
This guide could be pages so I'll just write common situation texts and why they work:
Cold approach text
"Hi [name], was cool meeting your [personal fact you learnt about her] , how was [activity she was about to do]"
E.g. "Hi Alexa, cool meeting your non-boring accountant self, how's the rest of your night? - DWW"
So let's break this down. I'm being personal by using her name and mentioning something we spoke about. Then I'm giving her a bit of attention by asking how her night was. This tends to work because what girl doesn't like a bit of attention?
This is where I changed my method as I used to go straight into confirming the date but that had mixed results. Now I confirm the date in the 2nd text and my results went up. I'm essentially pinging to see her buying temperature before closing. Again read skill's guide for reference. You should already have seeded logistics as per my daygame guide here
I often write this as a voicenote as these type of messages can be long over text. If you prefer texting keep it to 1 maximum 2 sentences.
Making interesting conversation
*Opener to girl on Tinder*
"Hii [X], how did you find living in [German flag] vs [US Flag?]
*girl reply blah blah blah*
"Ahh you must now drink like a sailor [face palm] aha that's cool what do you get up to now in London?"
My investment is short but open so can easily form a big reply and give me many threads to go off. My response is also playful but not overly entertaining. Notice I also ask about what she gets up to because I'm funneling her into sharing her schedule / logistics even in the rapport building phase.
I don't do much of this but the principle here is to force a girl out of auto-pilot and yes or no answers. The way you do this is:
1. Push and pull
2. Open questions
3. The right amount of validation so she wants to respond to you
Won't see a girl in X weeks because of xyz
"Hi [x] cool meeting you, I'll catch you in a week or so, enjoy [xyz]
I think so many guys overthink this scenario. If a girl is into you she will have no problem waiting 1 week and she won't go off the radar.
E.g. "Hi Leanne, random but fun meeting you by the bus stop, see you in a week for drinks and enjoy camping!"
Why does this work? You add something fun and personable, you confirm the date in a casual way so she knows it's definitely happening (you should have already seeded it in) then you wrap it up with enjoy camping! Which is just a nice thing to do so most people will say thank you.
The best bit about this text is you test her level of investment in you dependent on the reply.
**Just remember to text her a few days before the date to re-confirm**
"Hi Leanne, hope camping isn't too stressful in the rain [laugh emoji], we still good for Friday?"
Again this works because it's fun, personable but straight to the point and clear. You're obviously confirming the date but adding a nice warm touch to it.
Girl asks you for social media or finds it weird that you don't text
"Hi [xyz] I'm not much of a texter, I prefer to just be present in person instead"
One of my personal favorites. I'm in my 20's and very much a ghost on social media. At this point 90% of the time it spikes girls interests in me because I appear more mysterious. The other 10% wouldn't be compatible with me anyway.
This is another thing that I think the community overthinks. If you've given a solid impression, are clearly cool and normal then you'll be fine.
