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I've been holding off on posting about this for as long as I could because I know what the knee jerk reaction of every at least slightly experienced person on here is going to be "DON'T even think about it - its worse than a waste of time"
but hold it:
- I am seeing other people
- I am not obsessing
- I am working on myself
- I just see this as just another girl to date - this one happens to be one that I have had a very long test drive with and so I know things could work - its in a way decreasing risk - I know what I'm getting.
I have learnt over the years that intuitions do sometimes get some things right and while in many cases its best to ignore them, in just as many others they are very important and can be disastrous if they are. So I have had a strong feeling that when me and my ex broke up it was not as final as either of us thought it was at the time. I think we broke up because of bad circumstances - if the circumstances are changed I think things could work very well again in time.
At least if I choose to take things into my own hands I think something could happen between us again. I am still seeing other girls - may even be starting one with another girl so this isn't some kind of obsession - its just a gentle looking at what can be done - I think she might even be in a relationship at the moment - I see this as super long game......
I would like to ask anyone on here about their experiences of getting back together with past long term gf's:
How did you get back in contact at first? - was it you or her that initiated? How long after the breakup was it? what do you think you did right/wrong?
How did you arrange your first meetup? - what kind of meetup? straight into normal dating or did you do something more friendly first eg. go for coffee during the day (I ask because my ex wanted to do this and I refused because I wanted to meet in the evening - just as I would have with any new girl - I never meet them during the day since it makes the sexual dynamic more difficult to create)
but hold it:
- I am seeing other people
- I am not obsessing
- I am working on myself
- I just see this as just another girl to date - this one happens to be one that I have had a very long test drive with and so I know things could work - its in a way decreasing risk - I know what I'm getting.
I have learnt over the years that intuitions do sometimes get some things right and while in many cases its best to ignore them, in just as many others they are very important and can be disastrous if they are. So I have had a strong feeling that when me and my ex broke up it was not as final as either of us thought it was at the time. I think we broke up because of bad circumstances - if the circumstances are changed I think things could work very well again in time.
At least if I choose to take things into my own hands I think something could happen between us again. I am still seeing other girls - may even be starting one with another girl so this isn't some kind of obsession - its just a gentle looking at what can be done - I think she might even be in a relationship at the moment - I see this as super long game......
I would like to ask anyone on here about their experiences of getting back together with past long term gf's:
How did you get back in contact at first? - was it you or her that initiated? How long after the breakup was it? what do you think you did right/wrong?
How did you arrange your first meetup? - what kind of meetup? straight into normal dating or did you do something more friendly first eg. go for coffee during the day (I ask because my ex wanted to do this and I refused because I wanted to meet in the evening - just as I would have with any new girl - I never meet them during the day since it makes the sexual dynamic more difficult to create)