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I wanted to share this with you guys as in the past few months, I have managed to sleep with over 6 different girls due to a combination of using the dating apps Tinder (1), Bumble (3), Hinge (1) and The League (1). While I lightly touched on how to do well with online dating on another thread of mines about Tinder and Bumble, the truth is that it is all in the profile itself.
What I call it is the Instagram Test.
Ever notice when you are on Instagram and some people just manage to have thousands of followers and get over thousands of likes on their pics despite not being celebrities?
I figured it out in the sense that hot girls speak a special language in online dating, it is a language portrayed through pictures which tell a story. The guys who figure out how to speak this language through their pictures are the guys who are matching with hot girls left to right on dating apps like Bumble. Look closely at the people you see getting thousands of followers on Instagram without having any celebrity status, notice how an overwhelming number of them are hot girls? Yet occasionally you see guys that fit the bill as well, they have pics of them doing awesome things but the way they portray that on Instagram is what makes hot girls curious.
Well it just happens that the guys who successfully do that on Instagram manage to kill it on dating apps, these are the guys with tons of matches who always have a date lined up.
Why am I calling it The Instagram Test?
Whenever you post a pic on a dating app, ask yourself, could I see this as a pic of me getting a 100 likes on Instagram or at least a pic that 20% of my followers will like? If the answer is no, it does not go on Bumble.
A lot of the girls you find trying to be popular on Instagram are on dating apps like Bumble, it is the same demographic, you have to get them and your message has to say that "I am in touch with your world, cool and you can bring me around to your friends no problem".
The guy who takes bathroom selfies? Can't pull that off.
The guy taking geeky selfies of him playing board games? Can't pull that off.
The guy low quality pics? Can't pull that off.
Part of it is actually looking the part.
You can't be some out of shape guy with a horrible lifestyle yet expect the filters on Instagram to save you, they won't. While you don't have to be Channing Tatum to have that success, you do have to max out your looks as much as possible by being in great shape and figuring out a style that works for you. If you are not at that point, either get to that point or just stick to other avenues.
Then it is portraying the part, which most guys have an issue with.
People say "good photos" matter for online dating and while that is true, there is often confusion there.
1. The worst mistake you can make on online dating is being boring.
The pic that looks good and professional on LinkedIn won't work for Bumble regardless of quality, maybe one pic at best but they don't want "corporate guy" on that app. Instead, look for pics that actually work well.
A. Travel pics are ideal but it has to come off as you having fun, you can't just post a non-smiling selfie in Europe and hope for matches.
B. Pics of you doing a cool hobby taken the right way matter a lot. If you enjoy fishing then a pic of you catching an amazing fish with your face clearly in the photo do wonders. You can also work in a pun on the bio there.
C. You HAVE to come off as a cool fun guy, no exceptions to this rule. Whatever you do, it must come off as cool and fun in the picture.
D. Nerdy hobbies are to be avoided. I hate to break it to you but that pic of you doing board games is not going to get you matches on Bumble, its tough but deal with it.
2. Now it is about the photo quality.
It has to be on point and I mean a well done photo.
Next time you see a hot girl on Bumble that would be your dream match, carefully examine that pic and I mean carefully. Outside of her face alone, look at how the pic is taken.
Look at pics of hot girls and traveler Instagram pages with thousands of followers, carefully observe the photo quality, that is what you want. You want all of your pics on dating apps that have that level of quality.
3. And the message these pics send across has to resonate with your target market.
Your target market on dating apps like Bumble are younger women, usually white and trying to have fun. You have to show yourself as having status in their world but it has to be done carefully.
On one hand you can absolutely fail by having geeky hobbies shown and low quality pics as well.
Then there is the other issue, coming off as a try-hard!
Too many guys will take pics of them wearing expensive watches and flashing, this is not the key.
If you carefully look at Bumble pics of guys who get lots of matches, you'll notice they are not sporting expensive clothes, rather they wear good enough clothes and have the high quality pic taken in the right environment and with the right amount of quality.
What does your target market desire most?
The truth is excitement, fun and a guy who "gets it", the guy who understands their language and can show that in his pics.
Your pics have to show that you "get it", that you are in the know...
They have to be high quality enough but can't come off as boring or try hard either.
They have to come off as the naturally you looking good.
Expensive watches and expensive suits don't do that.
Photos you would put on your business page do not do that.
High quality photos of you looking good doing your hobbies will!
What I call it is the Instagram Test.
Ever notice when you are on Instagram and some people just manage to have thousands of followers and get over thousands of likes on their pics despite not being celebrities?
I figured it out in the sense that hot girls speak a special language in online dating, it is a language portrayed through pictures which tell a story. The guys who figure out how to speak this language through their pictures are the guys who are matching with hot girls left to right on dating apps like Bumble. Look closely at the people you see getting thousands of followers on Instagram without having any celebrity status, notice how an overwhelming number of them are hot girls? Yet occasionally you see guys that fit the bill as well, they have pics of them doing awesome things but the way they portray that on Instagram is what makes hot girls curious.
Well it just happens that the guys who successfully do that on Instagram manage to kill it on dating apps, these are the guys with tons of matches who always have a date lined up.
Why am I calling it The Instagram Test?
Whenever you post a pic on a dating app, ask yourself, could I see this as a pic of me getting a 100 likes on Instagram or at least a pic that 20% of my followers will like? If the answer is no, it does not go on Bumble.
A lot of the girls you find trying to be popular on Instagram are on dating apps like Bumble, it is the same demographic, you have to get them and your message has to say that "I am in touch with your world, cool and you can bring me around to your friends no problem".
The guy who takes bathroom selfies? Can't pull that off.
The guy taking geeky selfies of him playing board games? Can't pull that off.
The guy low quality pics? Can't pull that off.
Part of it is actually looking the part.
You can't be some out of shape guy with a horrible lifestyle yet expect the filters on Instagram to save you, they won't. While you don't have to be Channing Tatum to have that success, you do have to max out your looks as much as possible by being in great shape and figuring out a style that works for you. If you are not at that point, either get to that point or just stick to other avenues.
Then it is portraying the part, which most guys have an issue with.
People say "good photos" matter for online dating and while that is true, there is often confusion there.
1. The worst mistake you can make on online dating is being boring.
The pic that looks good and professional on LinkedIn won't work for Bumble regardless of quality, maybe one pic at best but they don't want "corporate guy" on that app. Instead, look for pics that actually work well.
A. Travel pics are ideal but it has to come off as you having fun, you can't just post a non-smiling selfie in Europe and hope for matches.
B. Pics of you doing a cool hobby taken the right way matter a lot. If you enjoy fishing then a pic of you catching an amazing fish with your face clearly in the photo do wonders. You can also work in a pun on the bio there.
C. You HAVE to come off as a cool fun guy, no exceptions to this rule. Whatever you do, it must come off as cool and fun in the picture.
D. Nerdy hobbies are to be avoided. I hate to break it to you but that pic of you doing board games is not going to get you matches on Bumble, its tough but deal with it.
2. Now it is about the photo quality.
It has to be on point and I mean a well done photo.
Next time you see a hot girl on Bumble that would be your dream match, carefully examine that pic and I mean carefully. Outside of her face alone, look at how the pic is taken.
Look at pics of hot girls and traveler Instagram pages with thousands of followers, carefully observe the photo quality, that is what you want. You want all of your pics on dating apps that have that level of quality.
3. And the message these pics send across has to resonate with your target market.
Your target market on dating apps like Bumble are younger women, usually white and trying to have fun. You have to show yourself as having status in their world but it has to be done carefully.
On one hand you can absolutely fail by having geeky hobbies shown and low quality pics as well.
Then there is the other issue, coming off as a try-hard!
Too many guys will take pics of them wearing expensive watches and flashing, this is not the key.
If you carefully look at Bumble pics of guys who get lots of matches, you'll notice they are not sporting expensive clothes, rather they wear good enough clothes and have the high quality pic taken in the right environment and with the right amount of quality.
What does your target market desire most?
The truth is excitement, fun and a guy who "gets it", the guy who understands their language and can show that in his pics.
Your pics have to show that you "get it", that you are in the know...
They have to be high quality enough but can't come off as boring or try hard either.
They have to come off as the naturally you looking good.
Expensive watches and expensive suits don't do that.
Photos you would put on your business page do not do that.
High quality photos of you looking good doing your hobbies will!
