Was approaching a girl, a guy appeared and it killed the vibe. How to act?

[razir110]

Hi guys,

A quick one,

So today a saw this cute girl that was working in one of those shops that sell sweets and stuff in a mall. She was alone there, so I approached and started talking.

It was going ok, however suddenly, her colleague appeared at the counter, he was coming back from somewhere, and he jus carried this super negative vibe with him somehow. Man it just killed the thing with the girl, I said it was ncoe to meet her and bailed out.

How do you guys act when there is an interruption like this? Just totally ignore the guy and keep going? Like fuck him that he will be hearing all my flirt?
Because he would now be a t the counter all the time right next to her listening to all my conversation, so not very romantic nor intimate...

Best!

 

[Space]

I haven't found much actionable advice about situations when the girl is paid to be nice with you, aka. a hired gun, eg. being a shop assistant around Girls Chase. About more casual situations, when she is not paid to be nice with you (and as a side effect, not constantly being hit on by beta chodes), I've found some legitimately looking advice by 60 Years of Challenge. It goes something like this: let the other guy be the entertaining clown, while you keep deep eye contact with her. While the other guy connects her on the surface level, you connect her on a deeper level. Personally, I've also had issues pulling this off. Thinking back to one particular interaction, my problem was that I was still not sure if I truly liked that girl, or I was merely in practice mode.

 

[dcman]

Talk to the guy and remove him as an obstacle. Instead of focusing on the target work on the obstacle. Convey your personality to her by the way you interact with the guy. Let her see your confidence and other of you personality traits you have in the dealing of the guy. She herself would have been giving opportunities to get closer to you. This method has been successful in my experience when dealing obstacles in this manner.

 

[dcman]

Talk to the guy and remove him as an obstacle. Instead of focusing on the target work on the obstacle. Convey your personality to her by the way you interact with the guy. Let her see your confidence and other of you personality traits you have in the dealing of the guy. She herself would have been giving opportunities to get closer to you. This method has been successful in my experience when dealing with obstacles

 

[foggy]

Ignore the guy and keep talking to her.

You are right - random people listening in on your conversations is not very intimate. That's why, if suddenly, you have visitors, you should reduce the loudness of your voice [so its clear that its a conversation between you and her only]/start whispering in her ear. That is more intimate, and also creates a nice little vibe that you two are in this together.

I bet she was not pleased that her coworker ruined the vibe either. After you left, she probably gave him shit for fucking it all up!

You could have put up a barrier:

You know...this is a fun conversation and I wanna keep talking to you. It's just too bad your coworker is being weird and getting in the way.

This would have encouraged her to take the steps to deal with the situation herself. After all, she knows her coworker better than you do and it would be more acceptable for her to deal with him than it would be for you to deal with him.

This one time I was talking to a salesgirl. Things were going well with her. Then her coworker came and was being annoying around us. She told him to go away! I didn't have to use a barrier in this situation