Was it the right call?

[pks391]

Hey All, I just needed your viewpoint on this.
So I matched with this 19 year old chick a week ago. (I'm 26 y/o) and she hit it off instantly with me. She really wanted to take things forward (as a relationship sort of thing) and she even went so far as to say she would try to do whatever I wanted.

But as i conversed deeper with her I realized that she was still naive and inexperienced (she had a very disney-ish view of relationships) She was mostly like the type of girl who has had 1-2 partners max as Chase described in his article 'How many partners did she have?'

So I did something after that which I'm not entirely sure was the right call. I came clean on what I was on Tinder for (Casual Sex and Dating) and she was very happy that I was honest. I told her that I don't wanna end up hurting her over something like a one night stand or something selfish. She was okay with that and we stopped talking.

The thing is, did I make the right call? Or should I just have played along with the seduction and gotten the lay? I really really did not want to disappoint her later by telling her that I just wanted sex. Your viewpoints would be appreciated.

 

[trashKENNUT]

pks391,

The thing is, did I make the right call? Or should I just have played along with the seduction and gotten the lay? I really really did not want to disappoint her later by telling her that I just wanted sex. Your viewpoints would be appreciated.

Mix bag, really.

You can meet this girl thru extended social circle and realize she is full of shit. What i mean is she said one thing and do the other. But to be completely analytical, sometimes things happen where you hit it off but she wanted relationship. Then you went off. She could not find a boyfriend candidate. So she went a different direction, or she find a short term boyfriend, or someone took your route and lied to her (which is nothing personal).


That's life.
Zac

 

[pks391]

pks391,

The thing is, did I make the right call? Or should I just have played along with the seduction and gotten the lay? I really really did not want to disappoint her later by telling her that I just wanted sex. Your viewpoints would be appreciated.

Mix bag, really.

You can meet this girl thru extended social circle and realize she is full of shit. What i mean is she said one thing and do the other. But to be completely analytical, sometimes things happen where you hit it off but she wanted relationship. Then you went off. She could not find a boyfriend candidate. So she went a different direction, or she find a short term boyfriend, or someone took your route and lied to her (which is nothing personal).


That's life.
Zac

Hey Zac Long time no see,
No she was pretty clear as to what she wantes from the start but i did not want to lie to her and let her go. I was honest about my intentions from yhe statt since I found her to be a little young and inexperienced. My question was should I have just lied to her and slept with her and left or was it right for me to be honest with her and let her know the truth.

 

[trashKENNUT]

pks391,

My question was should I have just lied to her and slept with her and left or was it right for me to be honest with her and let her know the truth.

My answer was here. *points below*

Mix bag, really.

Zac

 

[lostnumber]

Its sort of a judgement call. Girls will often say things like that and THINK they mean them. A girl that inexperienced is unlikely to have any idea what she actually wants. If this girl is as inexperienced as you say, then you might find that once you gave her the lay of her life and started running the relationship the way you wanted to run it she was totally cool with it. Of course you undoubtedly are going to run into more resistance than you would with a sexually liberal

If she was bringing this up before your first meeting I personally think you did the right thing in passing. Its sort of like religious girls; this site tells me that religious girls can be seduced just like any other women, and I certainly trust Chase if he
says this is so. But I also know from experience that the amount of resistance is going to be astronomically higher, and a cynical atheist like me will have some fundamental incompatibilities with a religious girl that won't be fun or enjoyable.

There are plenty of fish in the sea. If you are a reasonably skilled fisherman it's worth screening your catch before you drag it all the way to shore

 

[pks391]

Its sort of a judgement call. Girls will often say things like that and THINK they mean them. A girl that inexperienced is unlikely to have any idea what she actually wants. If this girl is as inexperienced as you say, then you might find that once you gave her the lay of her life and started running the relationship the way you wanted to run it she was totally cool with it. Of course you undoubtedly are going to run into more resistance than you would with a sexually liberal

If she was bringing this up before your first meeting I personally think you did the right thing in passing. Its sort of like religious girls; this site tells me that religious girls can be seduced just like any other women, and I certainly trust Chase if he
says this is so. But I also know from experience that the amount of resistance is going to be astronomically higher, and a cynical atheist like me will have some fundamental incompatibilities with a religious girl that won't be fun or enjoyable.

There are plenty of fish in the sea. If you are a reasonably skilled fisherman it's worth screening your catch before you drag it all the way to shore

Hey Lostnumber,
My thoughts exactly bro, she even found my honesty refreshing and wished me good luck. I just did noy want to hurt her just to satisfy my selfish desires. Judging by what you said, I guess it was the right call.