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[ramshead]

So an old lover i had last year contacted me out of the blue through text on thursday afternoon. We had slowly stopped seing each other and then a whole 10 months with no texts or anything. We didnt fight or anything it just faded away. We texted briefly of what weve been upto, our jobs ect. When it felt it was ok to end the catching. I said we should meet up for some drinks. She said yes and we meet at this small bar so we can talk on friday night. We then went into my car to talk a little more. I held her hand to my car and escorted her in to my backseat. I was caresing her whole body as we were talking in my back seat. 10 minutes later i went for the kiss and she backed away in a playful way. So we continued talking. I just let her vent out she had family issues with her parents and problems at work. Another 20 minutes later i went for another kiss and she only let me kiss her for like 10 seconds and backed away. She was smiling but didnt want to kiss for some reason. We continued to talk as if nothing happend. She then said its time for her to leave. She parked next to me. I said cool. When we got out i walked her to her car and we both said it was fun catching up. She then said if i was free this saturday and i said i had plans. I then told her we can meet up at a brewery on sunday night if she was free. She said yes to sunday.

Im not sure how to handle sundays date. When we first meet 2 years ago and we had fucked on our first date. Know she seems interested again but pushing my advances away.

 

[foggy]

We had slowly stopped seing each other and then a whole 10 months with no texts or anything. We didnt fight or anything it just faded away.

So an old lover i had last year contacted me out of the blue through text on thursday afternoon.

I'm glad you let it fade away, instead of chasing her (which is something a lot of guys do). The fact that you let it fade away made her feel comfortable with reinitiating contact with you. Good job.

But, what were her motives behind contacting you? Did she just want to fuck? Maybe she just got out of a relationship and was looking for a rebound. Maybe she wants you as a boyfriend.

We then went into my car to talk a little more. I held her hand to my car and escorted her in to my backseat. I was caresing her whole body as we were talking in my back seat. 10 minutes later i went for the kiss and she backed away in a playful way. So we continued talking.

Continued talking about what? For how long? Your escalation seems to be okay, but if I were you I would have tried kissing her again a minute and a half later. You've isolated her, now is not the time to be building more rapport.

I just let her vent out she had family issues with her parents and problems at work.

This is not something you wanna be talking about when you're trying to seduce a chick. If she was in a horny state before, I can imagine this horniness turned into negative emotions. The fact that you let her continue talking about her issues worked against you. What you should have done was changed the subject back towards more productive topics i.e. we should head back to my place and chill for a bit

Another 20 minutes later i went for another kiss and she only let me kiss her for like 10 seconds and backed away. She was smiling but didnt want to kiss for some reason.

20 minutes too long! You shoulda been persisting.

When we first meet 2 years ago and we had fucked on our first date.

It is a guys job to persist and a girls job to resist. Perhaps she was testing you to see how bad you truly wanted it. What were the differences between this date and that date? How come your dick was inside of her then but not now? And how did you handle her emotions after fucking her the first time? Maybe she felt like a slut and did not want to give herself up so easily this time. Regardless, the fact you guys have sexual history means you should have moved waaaay quicker, and persisted more.

 

[ramshead]

Songbird fog,

Youre right, i never thought about the seduction part since we were already old lovers i must of treated her like it was a sure thing. I messed up and should have treated her like i didnt know her. I guess i let her vent out because it seemed thats what she wanted to see me for and then fuck.

Ill treat her like a new girl on our second date tonight. And go for the fuck since i failed on the first date. I have to change my mentality