What Are You Guys Doing For Dates?

[MuST0BtA1NSkR1Lla]

Hey, just trying to get myself realigned before the 2026 PUA scene goes into force.

I’m wondering when you guys are going out on Day 2’s what activates are you going too?

The restaurant I usually go to has a new waitress who’s noticed & mentioned that I’ve been bringing in different women. Which buzz killed my date. So I’m using that as an inspiration to try out some new things. Open to suggestions!

 

[OldGuy]

The new waitress sounds like she is interested since she is mentioned the others to your date.

 

[West_Indian_Archie]

Get that waitress fired! lol

I'm gonna assume you're meeting these chicks OFFLINE, not online.

Cause a random chick that you meet online, needs an entirely different framework.

My framework for chicks I met offline.

1) Just wanna Smash - drinks and back to the crib. Drinks plus anything experiential is ideal, but expensive relatively speaking. Darts, bowling, pool, etc.

If you can take a chick to an amusement park - that's basically ideal, even though it's punitively expensive relatively speaking.

2) Trying to Interrogate - dinner at someplace ethnic. Investigate and make note of her behavior

But what about

3) "Effort" dates? Creative dates, original dates? Cool dates?

Never with a random. They don't appreciate it, much less reciprocate.

Here's my absolute favorite of an awesome creative date backfiring.

It's from 7 years ago, but it still might just be rage bait.

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/bmsavs
There was a dude doing "Sip and Paint" with every chick - and he would get a polaroid with them together. Then females started to compare notes - and what was special became trash, and so was the guy.

4) Home dates

Playing with fire. It only takes the wrong broad to make your life hell.

5) Cheap dates

Coffee, walk around and talk, the park - outside of high school/college - it requires too much active game to keep the chick on tilt.

In my demographic of females - taking a chick to something that's "bare bones" is treated like an insult.

6) Low Pressure Hang Outs/less formal "dates"

The millennials came up with the real hack for the problems of dates imo.

No date, just a low pressure hang out, ideally with YOUR friends.

Drops the cost, decreases the pressure on you, increases it on her.

In essence, the millennial guy played the reverse Uno card.

Because it was very normal for a chick to invite you out on her outing, even though she barely knew you. The "network" date would often kill something before it happened, or when you had game hilariously backfired as you got numbers from her friends now that everyone's friends now. (The same thing could happen to you though!)

My take at least.

 

[Rancorous]

I like to take her out to a casual fine dining establishment.

Yiu don't have to dress up but the atmosphere is more higher end.

 

[MuST0BtA1NSkR1Lla]

There was a dude doing "Sip and Paint" with every chick - and he would get a polaroid with them together. Then females started to compare notes - and what was special became trash, and so was the guy.

You’d love my fridge hahahaha. I was doing the Polaroid thing last year or maybe two years ago. Might host a party upcoming, was at an art party a week or two ago and I enjoyed it. Did a collage.

Females comparing notes? What’s new? Who am I to hate though in all technicality we do the exact same thing here.

6) Low Pressure Hang Outs/less formal "dates"

The millennials came up with the real hack for the problems of dates imo.

No date, just a low pressure hang out, ideally with YOUR friends.

Drops the cost, decreases the pressure on you, increases it on her.

In essence, the millennial guy played the reverse Uno card.

Because it was very normal for a chick to invite you out on her outing, even though she barely knew you. The "network" date would often kill something before it happened, or when you had game hilariously backfired as you got numbers from her friends now that everyone's friends now. (The same thing could happen to you though!)

This is more the cause and not the symptom. A common problem I’ve ran into is that in modern dating it seems more of a “bidding” process for getting dates. I usually mention I double or triple book dates expecting somebody to bail out.

I sort of even got lucky tonight had both my dates bail, but the tickets I had gotten from a scalper were for a different day so ended up just being a wasted night. But still!

The new waitress sounds like she is interested since she is mentioned the others to your date.

She’s got nice tits but I super avoid women in their thirties. Plus this was my go to date restaurant so hitting on the staff there would do me worst not better.

Effort" dates? Creative dates, original dates? Cool dates?

Never with a random. They don't appreciate it, much less reciprocate.

Here's my absolute favorite of an awesome creative date backfiring.

Yeah I’ve had that happen but in a lesser way. Went out with a Korean chick ages ago and had driven in my old school T-Bird. She then was a prompt bitch and was asking why I didn’t drive a souped up Subaru?!? And then was fucking around with the power windows and wrecked the controls for em.

I feel for the guy with the arcade things but if my life can show anything he probably does better.

5) Cheap dates

Coffee, walk around and talk, the park - outside of high school/college - it requires too much active game to keep the chick on tilt.

In my demographic of females - taking a chick to something that's "bare bones" is treated like an insult.

Out of the options I’ve seen so far this is the one that I haven’t done in a long time. I have a quiet cute park near my house. *[Technically one of the famous things around here]

 

[Skills]

Get that waitress fired! lol

I'm gonna assume you're meeting these chicks OFFLINE, not online.

Cause a random chick that you meet online, needs an entirely different framework.

My framework for chicks I met offline.

1) Just wanna Smash - drinks and back to the crib. Drinks plus anything experiential is ideal, but expensive relatively speaking. Darts, bowling, pool, etc.

If you can take a chick to an amusement park - that's basically ideal, even though it's punitively expensive relatively speaking.

2) Trying to Interrogate - dinner at someplace ethnic. Investigate and make note of her behavior

But what about

3) "Effort" dates? Creative dates, original dates? Cool dates?

Never with a random. They don't appreciate it, much less reciprocate.

Here's my absolute favorite of an awesome creative date backfiring.

It's from 7 years ago, but it still might just be rage bait.

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/bmsavs
There was a dude doing "Sip and Paint" with every chick - and he would get a polaroid with them together. Then females started to compare notes - and what was special became trash, and so was the guy.

4) Home dates

Playing with fire. It only takes the wrong broad to make your life hell.

5) Cheap dates

Coffee, walk around and talk, the park - outside of high school/college - it requires too much active game to keep the chick on tilt.

In my demographic of females - taking a chick to something that's "bare bones" is treated like an insult.

6) Low Pressure Hang Outs/less formal "dates"

The millennials came up with the real hack for the problems of dates imo.

No date, just a low pressure hang out, ideally with YOUR friends.

Drops the cost, decreases the pressure on you, increases it on her.

In essence, the millennial guy played the reverse Uno card.

Because it was very normal for a chick to invite you out on her outing, even though she barely knew you. The "network" date would often kill something before it happened, or when you had game hilariously backfired as you got numbers from her friends now that everyone's friends now. (The same thing could happen to you though!)

My take at least.

I do number 5 and most girl will treat as an insult if is not frame correctly... Which is super easy to d, "just a quick meet and greet to see if the vibe s there, we bouncyto this amazing place after" it actually orks better than taking them to not insult places..

 

[OldGuy]

Talk to the waitress's manager. They will take steps to keep her from driving customers (you) away.

 

[West_Indian_Archie]

I do number 5 and most girl will treat as an insult if is not frame correctly... Which is super easy to d, "just a quick meet and greet to see if the vibe s there, we bouncyto this amazing place after" it actually orks better than taking them to not insult places..

I think a short in person meet is a good move with Tinder/Online dating type things.

 

[topcat]

i do a drink at a bar or coffee, it’s not that deep.

 

[MrVariety]

I like fitness dates.

Also here’s an idea. Scout some luxury hotels - usually they let you sit there and work in the lobby. Get to know the staff - and bring the date to have a something from their bar or cafe or whatever. Usually much more quiet and relaxing than a fucking packed Starbucks with babies screaming and loud annoying women laughing too loud.

MV

 

[MrVariety]

Pook had the best advice on this.

Take yourself regularly on dates. Whether it be coffee - dinner - doing cool stuff - whatever.

Then just take the girl along to the places you already like - where you know when it’s best to go - and the staff knows you and you’re the man.

MV

 

[Skills]

I think a short in person meet is a good move with Tinder/Online dating type things.

i do them with any time girls, makes no difference...... If you do "cheap" like i took a girl to a dollar movie (dollar movies is something gen x back in the day) then yes, i got push back for that... or "macdonalds" and the likes but you can have a so call "cheap" date that she does not have to see as "cheap' a good example tacos....

It is a lot of "causation correlation" in your number 5, most women wont:

- date a less than 6 feet guy
- date a guy that will not take her on proper date
-date a guy that won't make 6 figures
-date a guy that want to fuck in less than 3 dates

^ that is her problem and not my problem, they do all of the above by doing things properly even if "they won't do that" with a dude that is no me....

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[isildur1]

I like fitness dates.

Also here’s an idea. Scout some luxury hotels - usually they let you sit there and work in the lobby. Get to know the staff - and bring the date to have a something from their bar or cafe or whatever. Usually much more quiet and relaxing than a fucking packed Starbucks with babies screaming and loud annoying women laughing too loud.

MV

Agree with this

Here in London luxury hotels have the same price for coffee as regular high street coffee shops- so it looks like you’re planning something special but it actually costs the same as a Starbucks but they are much quieter and lower pressure environments good for escalation

For my date with my now girlfriend I did coffee first followed by mini golf followed by pokko

three different locations all fairly quiet and low key and low investment

but in most major cities I think high end hotels are best environment as they are quiet with less social pressure

When I started out I did joe and the juice a lot and in hindsight it was pretty stupid but my knowledge of varying dates seas not great

I tried one unique date at an arcade gaming with an Indonesian girl and that failed miserably - got the idea from Tom torero who suggested pool bar dates, personally not a fan of pubs as they are too loud

 

[isildur1]

Pook had the best advice on this.

Take yourself regularly on dates. Whether it be coffee - dinner - doing cool stuff - whatever.

Then just take the girl along to the places you already like - where you know when it’s best to go - and the staff knows you and you’re the man.

MV

I think it’s a good habit to try new places in every city you’re gaming in . It shouldn’t be too hard - follow local influencers , it’s not too hard to stand out as unique if you do a bit of research in the city you’re in

and I agree always try new things and take yourself on new locations often don’t get stale . When I started out I did the same location each time and girls could sense I was bored of the environment itself

 

[MrVariety]

I tried one unique date at an arcade gaming with an Indonesian girl and that failed miserably - got the idea from Tom torero who suggested pool bar dates, personally not a fan of pubs as they are too loud

Yeah arcade dates are the worst. Unless it's a genuinely amazing arcade and most are not. I feel it's a tii try-hard "let's have fun" vibe. And besides it's a bit cliche. Pool and minigolf - at least where I live - has had their juice squeezed out of culturally - it's just a cliche that guys will try to get physical with her ... when it isn't really natural.

I think there's some image in the collective psyche of the smooth guy who teaches the girl how to shoot the ball and he kinda sneaks up behind her and and it's all romantic and shit. Reality is that you're on the opposite side of the board a lot of the time and if you do try to sneak behind her while she's shooting you're getting a the cue in your stomach lol.

One exception is I found is shuffleboard. It just naturally gravitates toward physical escalation. I haven't done it a lot lately but whenever I did it I always ended up rubbing on the girl from behind - one girl said "omg I'm horny" another we were making out hardcode over the shuffleboard. So take every chance to play shuffleboard.

MV