What do you mean by setting the date when you meet her?

[razir110]

This is a quick question.

I get all about setting the date when you meet her. One detail though:

Do you SET it like "so how does your schedule look like? Saturday? Cool, how about 9pm them, after dinner? Nice, give me you nº....." So all set.

or:

"so how does your schedule look like? Saturday? Cool I'll text you then, give me your number plz" So you suggest it, ask for a day, but don't determine the exact details. Those will be set via text.

Which one is better?

Best!

 

[radeng]

Hey razir,

When I get a number I look her hard in the eyes, with a little more intensity then I have had the rest of the conversation, and say something along the lines of, “look I have to run but it was fun chatting, are you interested in continuing this over a drink sometime next week?” - I may mix up the wording of this significantly depending on the vibe of the interaction, but it’s always along those same lines. Intense look, are you interested in continuing drinks/coffee/food soon.

I don’t actually schedule it until a few days later. I shoot a text like: “still interested in that cocktail?” as part of my text system. This has been the most effective for me.

Radeng

 

[razir110]

Hey radeng,

Hum, so you actually make the moment when you are asking for the number more intense? Because my approach is to make it as normal and as naturally part of the conversation as possible. I don't want to give it a "special event" vibe.

 

[radeng]

Hey razir, yes I absolutely do. This is a screening mechanism. Not sure how far you are in your journey but at this point conversations and approaches almost always go extremely well for me. My vibe is very good so it’s a way for me to tell the girls who are interested from the girls who are not. Yes I’m a little more intense here because I found it makes the flake rate go way down. People naturally have a hard time lying to someone who’s looking them in the eyes and will be much more likely to follow up if they commit in that moment. That being said, I can’t guarantee the intensity there will be good for someone who doesn’t have great interactions most of the time. But the general wording and method should still be good for you. A lot of my sexuality is expressed through look and body language and less through words.

Radeng