Before you ready any further, this is kind of an advanced subject. You must first fix all your internal issues - anxiety, neediness, insecurity, etc...You can read about that here.
Cultivating your natural personality - viewtopic.php?f=3&t=10071
Anyways, we're going to focus on two parts. External (physical & behavior) and Internal (emotions and inner game)
This is a reflective post for myself to hammer down some points. This is reflection on 2 years of trying different styles of game, diffrent styles of dressing, being "aloof", being "direct, being "indirect", being a jerk, being an asshole, being too nice, being genuine, and getting feedback from girls after I fucked them or through what I hear from the friends of those I didn't.
Chase has already covered the subject of being sexy. It allows you an abundance of hotter girls, quicker escalations and threesomes, girls making you food, paying for your dinners, driving hours to see you, girls hooking you up with their friends....in short - your sex life becomes better than a pornstar's. As I write this, my dick is sore.
Anyways. The thing is...out of 3.6 BILLION women in this planet, at the very least 1 BILLION of 'em are hot. Out of 3.6 BILLION men, only a few hundred thousands are actually MEN. And what that entails.
A girl once said:
This whole post revolves around that statement. What being a "real" man means. Because that's what's sexy.
INTERNAL
Emotions - A real man is not devoid of emotions. Far from it. A REAL man is solid enough in his body that to get a reaction out of him is hard. That means, like Chase said, hampering down your reactions. When you start consciously tampering down your emotions and reactions, you'll begin to realize how much of a little bitch you feel like when you do show emotions. I used to get super excited, I used to show emotions, but then I realized...that was just to get a reaction out of people. And that need to get a reaction stemmed from me being needy. Needing social approval. One of the largest driving emotions in humans. This is why teenagers want cars, want to throw the best parties, want to do what's cool. Needy social approval. Get RID of it. When was the last time you saw a military man displaying high levels of emotion?
But what's really sexy...VULNERABILITY. One of the most pussy-wetting things for a girl is to see a STRONG, man...like a soldier...break down in tears when they see their family. That's REAL emotions. This doesn't mean you tell your girl the story about your dog when little and start tearing up. Watch the movie 'American Sniper' when Chris Kyle does show emotions, they're for very strong reasons. Reasons that would break another man.
REACTING to a girl's bitch fits is weak. Being easily shook is weak. You RESPOND - that is, she throws a bitch-fit, you let her cool down...don't even have to say a word. Let her start crying, hug her, done. Most guys freak out - OMG BABE ARE YOU ALRIGHT?? or..I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING!! Completely bitching out.
NO! Don't you fucking do it. Ask yourself - What would George Clooney do?
Inner Game - Ridding yourself of weakness. Neediness, anxiety, etc... Most of these problems are easy to solve. Face your fears. Approach girls when you're nervous as shit, speak in front of crowds when you're nervous as shit, do things that make you SCARED. It is when you go through these experiences that your subsconcious mind goes...dude, this isn't a big deal. You become courageous, life becomes easy. You become SOLID. You're not easily shook. I had an accident the other day. I was very loopy from not sleeping for 2 days. I made a wrong turn and instead of freaking out, I tried to get out of the situation, and maintained my focus on not making it nasty. I got out of it pretty easily for how disastrous it could've been. I got out of the vehicle, the guy was freaking out, he shoved me. I stood my ground, extended my hand, and calmed him down. Easy. A year ago I would've fought him out of insecurity.
You need to daily, consciously strive to seek out and challenge yourself. Courage is a muscle. Will is a muscle. Discipline is a muscle. These are all core aspects of masculinity. FIX THEM.
EXTERNAL
Physical (looks) As much as I love to dress up and look like I came out of GQ on a regular basis. I get just as much looks as I do wearing a simple tight white T, Slim fit jeans, loafers and even a baseball cap sometimes. Simplicity is key.
Strength train. Girls don't want ripped abs, and all this shit. They want a man who has muscle. I'm now deadlifting 350 (at 140), I used to deadlift 135...when I was a fucking virgin. I don't look like I work-out. But there's a certain ruggedness about my body that turns girls on. I don't look like a pussy. And that strength gives you an internal boost to face your fears as well. It all fucking works out. It elevates your testosterone. Sex becomes fun.
Sex - IMPORTANT. Girls don't want to made love to by fags. They want to get fucked into submission by a man. Strength allows you to man-handle her in the bedroom and girls will come sometimes 15 times in a night. I'll come about twice.
Be rugged. Again, 'American Sniper' is a perfect example. The guy can FUCKING lift. Be STRONG. Tell me the last time you saw some scrawny fuck pull a stunner unless he was some kind of celebrity or super rich.
Behavior - Calm. Presence. Look at the greatest athletes of all time. They're always so...calm. Again, you cannot be calm and present if your inner game is weak. When you're nervous, when you're anxious, when you're needy...you're very twitchy. The Alpha Male is always calm....slow.
Watch Drive by Ryan Gosling. He's so calm. So poised.
Be that
pce
Cultivating your natural personality - viewtopic.php?f=3&t=10071
Anyways, we're going to focus on two parts. External (physical & behavior) and Internal (emotions and inner game)
This is a reflective post for myself to hammer down some points. This is reflection on 2 years of trying different styles of game, diffrent styles of dressing, being "aloof", being "direct, being "indirect", being a jerk, being an asshole, being too nice, being genuine, and getting feedback from girls after I fucked them or through what I hear from the friends of those I didn't.
Chase has already covered the subject of being sexy. It allows you an abundance of hotter girls, quicker escalations and threesomes, girls making you food, paying for your dinners, driving hours to see you, girls hooking you up with their friends....in short - your sex life becomes better than a pornstar's. As I write this, my dick is sore.
Anyways. The thing is...out of 3.6 BILLION women in this planet, at the very least 1 BILLION of 'em are hot. Out of 3.6 BILLION men, only a few hundred thousands are actually MEN. And what that entails.
A girl once said:
This whole post revolves around that statement. What being a "real" man means. Because that's what's sexy.
INTERNAL
Emotions - A real man is not devoid of emotions. Far from it. A REAL man is solid enough in his body that to get a reaction out of him is hard. That means, like Chase said, hampering down your reactions. When you start consciously tampering down your emotions and reactions, you'll begin to realize how much of a little bitch you feel like when you do show emotions. I used to get super excited, I used to show emotions, but then I realized...that was just to get a reaction out of people. And that need to get a reaction stemmed from me being needy. Needing social approval. One of the largest driving emotions in humans. This is why teenagers want cars, want to throw the best parties, want to do what's cool. Needy social approval. Get RID of it. When was the last time you saw a military man displaying high levels of emotion?
But what's really sexy...VULNERABILITY. One of the most pussy-wetting things for a girl is to see a STRONG, man...like a soldier...break down in tears when they see their family. That's REAL emotions. This doesn't mean you tell your girl the story about your dog when little and start tearing up. Watch the movie 'American Sniper' when Chris Kyle does show emotions, they're for very strong reasons. Reasons that would break another man.
REACTING to a girl's bitch fits is weak. Being easily shook is weak. You RESPOND - that is, she throws a bitch-fit, you let her cool down...don't even have to say a word. Let her start crying, hug her, done. Most guys freak out - OMG BABE ARE YOU ALRIGHT?? or..I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING!! Completely bitching out.
NO! Don't you fucking do it. Ask yourself - What would George Clooney do?
Inner Game - Ridding yourself of weakness. Neediness, anxiety, etc... Most of these problems are easy to solve. Face your fears. Approach girls when you're nervous as shit, speak in front of crowds when you're nervous as shit, do things that make you SCARED. It is when you go through these experiences that your subsconcious mind goes...dude, this isn't a big deal. You become courageous, life becomes easy. You become SOLID. You're not easily shook. I had an accident the other day. I was very loopy from not sleeping for 2 days. I made a wrong turn and instead of freaking out, I tried to get out of the situation, and maintained my focus on not making it nasty. I got out of it pretty easily for how disastrous it could've been. I got out of the vehicle, the guy was freaking out, he shoved me. I stood my ground, extended my hand, and calmed him down. Easy. A year ago I would've fought him out of insecurity.
You need to daily, consciously strive to seek out and challenge yourself. Courage is a muscle. Will is a muscle. Discipline is a muscle. These are all core aspects of masculinity. FIX THEM.
EXTERNAL
Physical (looks) As much as I love to dress up and look like I came out of GQ on a regular basis. I get just as much looks as I do wearing a simple tight white T, Slim fit jeans, loafers and even a baseball cap sometimes. Simplicity is key.
Strength train. Girls don't want ripped abs, and all this shit. They want a man who has muscle. I'm now deadlifting 350 (at 140), I used to deadlift 135...when I was a fucking virgin. I don't look like I work-out. But there's a certain ruggedness about my body that turns girls on. I don't look like a pussy. And that strength gives you an internal boost to face your fears as well. It all fucking works out. It elevates your testosterone. Sex becomes fun.
Sex - IMPORTANT. Girls don't want to made love to by fags. They want to get fucked into submission by a man. Strength allows you to man-handle her in the bedroom and girls will come sometimes 15 times in a night. I'll come about twice.
Be rugged. Again, 'American Sniper' is a perfect example. The guy can FUCKING lift. Be STRONG. Tell me the last time you saw some scrawny fuck pull a stunner unless he was some kind of celebrity or super rich.
Behavior - Calm. Presence. Look at the greatest athletes of all time. They're always so...calm. Again, you cannot be calm and present if your inner game is weak. When you're nervous, when you're anxious, when you're needy...you're very twitchy. The Alpha Male is always calm....slow.
Watch Drive by Ryan Gosling. He's so calm. So poised.
Be that
pce
