This is just an observation I have, and it extends to other circumstances outside of Christmas parties.
When out with others, on the rare occasion you may get the question from people about what's in your glass, and you may notice that people will relax a bit once they think it's alcohol. And you yourself, may notice that the illusion of being a bit tipsy isn't too bad either! Let me explain why I think this can help.
Situation: Let's say in the run up to Xmas, that you've interacted with a few of the girls from work (or college, or whatever), and let's say you didn't so much flirt with them, but yet you've come across well. By Xmas you've known them for a few months, and you feel that you should have made a move on one of them by now. You're hoping that the fact you didn't merely gives the impression that you're not desperate (and that you've other options), as opposed to you having become friend zoned. Now, what I'm saying is that in such a situation, it's the Christmas party that may be the only thing to help you out. Because when you're slightly tipsy, you can act out of character, without looking like you're acting out of character!! Know what I mean? So I'm asking am I right about with such a remark?
My theory: You see, any one of those girls, will be so familiar with how your interactions have went before now, to the extent that it might seem unexpected if you asked her out in the work place. Giving that things have went on for so long, it would seem to her (at the moment you ask her), as if you'd have been hesitating for quite a bit. Not to mention, that if you'd have made your move at the work place, it'd probably have come in the form of asking her on a date... which'd kind of make a big deal out of things. The point I'm making is that making your move, while clearly sober at the Christmas party, would be no different to this. However, if you're a bit drunk, you can make you're move by giving the impression that you're only just realising your attraction for her (one of them) right now.
So what I'm asking is; is there any truth to my observation? Now of course one should have made their move earlier if they are attracted to such girls, and also, not every girl needs a reason (alcohol) to mis-behave. And bear in mind that it is Ireland that I'm from!
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More important rambling: To add to this, when working with women, I think there's the dilemma for guys, between two mentalities. When one is uncertain, he can simply adapt the mentality of "oh they're just girls, so I'll play it as if I've other options, & I'll only strike if a reasonably ideal situation allows for it". But there's also the "now's my only chance for another week, so I have to strike". The first mentality is easier and can work wonders, but can also be an excuse to be lazy. With the second option, it's often hard to tell the difference between a good fear, and a bad fear. I've been in situations in the past, where I've made a fool out of myself just so that I could go home feeling like I wasn't a coward!
When out with others, on the rare occasion you may get the question from people about what's in your glass, and you may notice that people will relax a bit once they think it's alcohol. And you yourself, may notice that the illusion of being a bit tipsy isn't too bad either! Let me explain why I think this can help.
Situation: Let's say in the run up to Xmas, that you've interacted with a few of the girls from work (or college, or whatever), and let's say you didn't so much flirt with them, but yet you've come across well. By Xmas you've known them for a few months, and you feel that you should have made a move on one of them by now. You're hoping that the fact you didn't merely gives the impression that you're not desperate (and that you've other options), as opposed to you having become friend zoned. Now, what I'm saying is that in such a situation, it's the Christmas party that may be the only thing to help you out. Because when you're slightly tipsy, you can act out of character, without looking like you're acting out of character!! Know what I mean? So I'm asking am I right about with such a remark?
My theory: You see, any one of those girls, will be so familiar with how your interactions have went before now, to the extent that it might seem unexpected if you asked her out in the work place. Giving that things have went on for so long, it would seem to her (at the moment you ask her), as if you'd have been hesitating for quite a bit. Not to mention, that if you'd have made your move at the work place, it'd probably have come in the form of asking her on a date... which'd kind of make a big deal out of things. The point I'm making is that making your move, while clearly sober at the Christmas party, would be no different to this. However, if you're a bit drunk, you can make you're move by giving the impression that you're only just realising your attraction for her (one of them) right now.
So what I'm asking is; is there any truth to my observation? Now of course one should have made their move earlier if they are attracted to such girls, and also, not every girl needs a reason (alcohol) to mis-behave. And bear in mind that it is Ireland that I'm from!
Thanks
More important rambling: To add to this, when working with women, I think there's the dilemma for guys, between two mentalities. When one is uncertain, he can simply adapt the mentality of "oh they're just girls, so I'll play it as if I've other options, & I'll only strike if a reasonably ideal situation allows for it". But there's also the "now's my only chance for another week, so I have to strike". The first mentality is easier and can work wonders, but can also be an excuse to be lazy. With the second option, it's often hard to tell the difference between a good fear, and a bad fear. I've been in situations in the past, where I've made a fool out of myself just so that I could go home feeling like I wasn't a coward!
