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I've met this girl on Facebook dating where I've been using a hybrid texting method with phrasing from Chase’s old post on how to get girls on plenty of fish. I came up with my own style to fit more naturally in the conversation in the last 3 weeks to get dates. I can get to the arrangements and even confirmation on the dates, but only 1/5 actually pan out, all the others flake then ghost. Gladly this one came up after a flake and when I say gladly I mean it. We will call her shorty since she's only 5"2 my ex was 5"11 and I'm 5"8 lol.
Another thing that is important to say. This is my first date since I was 16 with a girl that I liked in terms of looks and personality. Last person that I had that feeling with was my ex of 4 years. This is also the date that broke me free from my chains of heartbreak. After this journey I am going to tell you about how I ended up looking up from my bed cuddling with this girl staring at the same roof that I starred with my ex every time we made love for the 2 years we lived together in our 4 year relationship. Looking at the same roof without her next to me and with no drugs in my systems, no alcohol that I took to try to get over, just a pretty girl that tops my ex in looks and personality by a good 20 percent.
Conversation:
Me: You strike me as… a person who just is filled with a love for life. how's online dating treating you shorty?
Her: Hi it's okay at first but people stop talking to me after awhile.
Her: How is it treating you
Me: It's alright just started. You seem very joyfully tho like I stated. I got over my 4 year ex just recently I feel on that. So then what got you into singing?
^^ trying to build similarity and rapport this is stuff based of the info I got on her bio that she stated she's trying to get over her ex.
Her: I am a ball of sunshine lol and my grandpa and me and him would always sing together since I could remember.
Me: It always goes back to when we where kids haha. What's a ball of sunshine of sunshine like you doing today? Better not be staying inside with a beautiful day like this.
^^ Probably my 6th try on a instant date. It's risky but I went for it since my date flaked me the same morning and I was just frustrated and a little anxious for a date. First time it actually panned out here.
Her: I'm going to clean my room then go to uptown to mail my taxes and work on door dash for a bit
Her: What about you
Me: Clean my house and take my dog out and then I'm free all day it's my day off. I wanna grab that coffee with you if not today later this week.
^^ her bio stated let's grab coffee
Her:Yeah I can try to make some time today
Me: Oh OK. What time did you have in mind then?
^^ 2 things here. 1 I said "oh ok" to act nonchalant about her pushing for today even tho she said she was busy and said she would make time for me to not sound too eager even tho I was. 2 I said what time since she is occupied but is gonna make the time to see me and I don't wanna put a time out there instead just open my day and have her give me the time to increase the chances of confirming the date and lower chances of flaking since she recommended the time frame.
Her: 4 I can finish up by then
Me: Say then 4:30 we meet at the mall here next to the Barnes and nobles for coffee then.
Her: Okay
Me: Sounds like a plan text me so we have each other's numbers 555-555-5555
^^ always recommend to get off the dating app and into texting over the phone. I forget the particulars on why but I believe it's because from what I experience better communication and it puts you in a different box from guy in dating app to guy I gave my number to.
Phone text conversation;
Her: Hi it's Shorty
Me: Hi shorty, see you this afternoon
Her: See you later
Her: What is the name of the place we are meeting at??
Me: It's the Barnes and Nobles at *adress*
Her: Okay thank you I want to make sure I'm going the right place I always get lost
Me: No worries haha see you soon
Me: Just text me if you get lost on the way
Her: Okay I wil
Her: I'm at Barnes and Nobles
Me: I just got here too
Her: Awesome I'm looking at books
Me: meet me in the coffee area what are you wearing?
Her: Okay White jacket and black jeans
I was already in the store when she text me the last message. Couple seconds after I received it I saw this cute girl with a Pikachu mask walking towards the coffee shop with a phone in hand white jacket, black jeans. I told myself as she walked with those high boots this can't be my date. It made me realize why do I have to get dates online? Why can't I just man up and cold approach this would be the type of girl I would go after. I walked towards her and opened from the side behind her on her left.
Me: Shorty? lol
Hi she responded. I went for the one arm hug and she hugged me back. I am Latino so hugs for me are a good way to greet people especially if I can't kiss them on the cheek. Y'know covid and all.
So I brought up my curiosity and asked her why she needed to return her tax returns in person since everybody does them online. Small talked trying to build rapport asking about her singing with her grandpa all while I was shit nervous. I went back to module 1 on One Date and how body language is how we mostly communicate on how it has an effect on not only how a girl views or feels about you but also on how you feel about yourself. So I exposed my body arms out, hands out of pockets, pretending to have a hook in my chest to keep my back and speaking from my diaphragm all while taking deep breaths and talking in a neutral tone voice.
It worked. It calmed my nerves and helped me continue the conversation. Then came time to order our drinks. I remember reading the article on why you shouldn't pay for your date. In my culture it is super rude not to pay for your Date. Paying your Date is seen as a point of masculinity. It is the man thing to do to pay for your date. Yet I am a true believer in girlschase. It's what made me the man I am today far more than my cultural upbringing. So without hesitation I ordered my drink and when asked “is that all”? I responded with yes and walked to the side to wait for my order. As I saw her take out her dollar bills even though she had more than enough for her $4 coffee I felt like utter shit. This is something that still bothers me so I gotta shake this off.
She ordered her drink and walked towards me. We continued our conversation, got our drinks and I continued to lead us outside to sit next to each other. We were sitting next to the entrance at the mall near the bookstore where there were some side rock seats that would put us next to each with nothing in between us all while simatoustly letting us face each other. Couldn't ask for a better seat especially knowing the benefits in having no physical barrier and being so close to her.
I take off my mask and start to drink my tea. This is where she takes her mask off… Now at this point I kinda knew what she looked like but y'know how girls tend to manipulate photos online and put on filters so when I saw her in person there's nothing altering it besides her makeup. I looked at her, personal 7 out of 10 for me. Prettiest face on a girl I've ever been on a date with.
We continue to talk at which point I start asking for more compliance as we were building similarities between our broken past. (My family issues and the fact that she's adopted) surprisingly besides our hard upbringing which may be the reason why I'm attracted to more edgy broken girls in a way, we had a lot in common in terms of viewpoints of life and her opinions and ideas of death. I know, I know what heck are you talking about. Some deep stuff baby some deep stuff.
This is where things turn. My confidence is skyrocketing and her shyness and feminine energy starting to come out. She can't even keep straight eye contact with me in which she apologies for and states she has a hard time keeping eye contact. I grab her hand and tell her to tell me about the small tatoo she has on it. She explains the tattoo. I held her hand until she pulled it away.
We continue to talk some more. I tell her we should take a walk. She agrees. As we were walking down the sidewalk she's on the side closer to the road. This is a big nono for me in terms of personal beliefs and it also works with girlschase philosophy. I have no problem grabbing both of her shoulders and moving her to the inner side of the sidewalk so I'm the one closest to the road. As a man I believe you should protect your family and your lady. The side closer to the road is the more dangerous side so why keep her there.
She thanks me for moving her closer to the inner side of the sidewalk. I explained the reason for my actions even though I didn't need to. I felt incorrectly obligated out of nervousness to tell her. We walked to the shop that was my destination all along and I had her pick me out a bracelet. On which I played a game where I took two bracelets I was considering on buying then proceeded to put them behind my back and had her choose one hand. I bought the bracelet on the hand she chose and we continue to walk now inside the mall.
I call her nervousness out again. She tells me that she is not as nervous no more. Regardless I come up with the excuse "well if you are you can just squeeze my hand" i said. I grab her hand and we interlock fingers as we continue to walk.
Let me tell you how special this moment was for me. This is the same mall where I started day game. The same mall I knew the clerks because I asked for their numbers and they shut me down. The same mall I started my seduction journey at 16. It felt so good holding this cute girl's hand down the mall. It made me feel like a king. As we finish walking the mall and we end up near the bookstore I suggest the third location. The park near where I live. She agrees to go and we take my car and drive there.
We get to the park in which at this point I am cocky. I got out of the car, put my arm around her and got her close to me. We continue to walk the park and talk more and more. She started to talk less and less but replicated my physical affection. I know it's time to take her home. I invited her for a movie. Straight yes. We get in my car and head to my condo.
When we get to my place that has a carpet floor I take off my shoes. She sits on the couch and refuses a glass of water or any sort of fruit I had available to offer and even after I stated she should make herself comfortable she keeps her shoes on. I sit next to her and start searching for the good old horror movie you look for when you're wanting to get laid. At this point I see her boots on my recently carpet cleaned floor. I don't hesitate. “It's kinda rude to have your shoes on inside” I said. She responds ok and takes them off.
Sometimes I can be very direct. It's just who I am. If only I had the confidence to be so 100 percent around "girls'' then I would be fine. I was captain of the wrestling team senior year of highschool, I fight guys on a weekly basis in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu training, I am the leader of my group and an authority figure in the vast majority parts of my life. Including the role of dad and big brother I take in my family.
Now it's just us sitting on the couch staring at a pixel screen. I get to a side of the couch that sinks down with whomever is laying on it. I grab her and have her lay with me. Now where both laid down in the sinking couch almost cuddling. Here comes the most LMR I've ever experienced in my whole short seduction career. To be fair tho I've never had such a femineme, shy, submissive and pretty girl like her in my life before. She made me freaking lead the whole entire interaction. Like a man should.
I looked at her and asked if her lipstick had a taste to it. She stated no in which I said let me see. I kissed her and held it for 4 seconds. She kinda almost just pecked kiss me. Regardless it was a kiss under 10 minutes with her being over so intentions and interested where clear. I just had to keep pushing and boy oh boy did I push. She didn't let me kiss her again for a while but I knew she liked me a lot. So I did what any man would do. I teased her by running my hand down her legs, her stomach and slowly working toward the breast that took me 6 tries before she would even let my hand get close. I teased and I teased and I teased. Eventually she did kiss me again and I kissed her neck.
For the first time I actually finished the movie I had playing in the background while having a girl over lol. Then eventually after everything I had her bra upwards exposing her breast as I was cupping and playing around with them. This is where she still resist and I start to get more aggressive. I re-organize her so I could start to try keywords being "try" to make out with her because she was only allowing me to touch her breast and not kiss her that much. I felt like things were getting closer.
Eventually they did and the big secret came out. "I've never done things on the first date." she states. Then she stated she was on her period. This is where the disconnect happens. I get super turned on when girls are on their periods, it drives me nuts. To her she viewed it as disgusting and wrong all thanks to cultural conditioning and weak ex boyfriends repelled by the sight of blood. I mean honestly how can you call yourself a man if blood scares and prevents you from having sex with a beautiful woman? I could rant about this but I'll save that for another article.
After she stated those things I knew I was golden. I picked her up from the couch and brought her to my bed and continued to push by kissing her neck. She still kept saying how she was on her period and that it's gross and wrong. I looked into her eyes and told her "it makes the perfect lubrication". Eventually I won this little game and with an adorable sigh she said fine as she got up and headed towards the bathroom to what I only assume was to take out… yknow…
When she got back only wearing underwear I told myself I did it. I laid her down and kissed her lips. This time she brought back my faith in what I think a girl can do with small lips. We truly started making out and it was great. She was holding back making out with me until this point and I didn't realize that until now. I just thought she just didnt know how to kiss. Clothes get taken off and we have sex. It was missionary the whole time as I stared into her pretty face and she moaned in Korean. Again her face to me is a 7.
I wear her out and when she says she can't no more I make myself finish. When I do, I command her to look into my eyes as I finish inside her. I stayed in there for a good 2 minutes before getting out and cuddling with her. She tells me I'm the best she's ever had. Something I'm used to being told. It's not uncommon for me and even if they don't say anything I can still tell I'm the best they've ever had. I take pride in making love to women. I actually prioritize their pleasure over mine.
I ended up seeing her again 4 days later and she actually slept over. I'm only gonna see her after this every 8-10 days unless she really makes me fall for her. I like her alot but I can tell I can so 20-40 percent better if I do day game and keep pushing in the next 4-6 months. Regardless she's a really great girl that I wanna experiment with. She makes the cut for sure.
I wanna write more on this but this is my first LR and I don't wanna get carried away with all my philosophies, theories and feelings. All feedback is appreciated on how to write better LRs I wanna start writing FRs when I go out and day game so again anything and everything helps. Thank you for reading can't wait to hear from you guys!
Another thing that is important to say. This is my first date since I was 16 with a girl that I liked in terms of looks and personality. Last person that I had that feeling with was my ex of 4 years. This is also the date that broke me free from my chains of heartbreak. After this journey I am going to tell you about how I ended up looking up from my bed cuddling with this girl staring at the same roof that I starred with my ex every time we made love for the 2 years we lived together in our 4 year relationship. Looking at the same roof without her next to me and with no drugs in my systems, no alcohol that I took to try to get over, just a pretty girl that tops my ex in looks and personality by a good 20 percent.
Conversation:
Me: You strike me as… a person who just is filled with a love for life. how's online dating treating you shorty?
Her: Hi it's okay at first but people stop talking to me after awhile.
Her: How is it treating you
Me: It's alright just started. You seem very joyfully tho like I stated. I got over my 4 year ex just recently I feel on that. So then what got you into singing?
^^ trying to build similarity and rapport this is stuff based of the info I got on her bio that she stated she's trying to get over her ex.
Her: I am a ball of sunshine lol and my grandpa and me and him would always sing together since I could remember.
Me: It always goes back to when we where kids haha. What's a ball of sunshine of sunshine like you doing today? Better not be staying inside with a beautiful day like this.
^^ Probably my 6th try on a instant date. It's risky but I went for it since my date flaked me the same morning and I was just frustrated and a little anxious for a date. First time it actually panned out here.
Her: I'm going to clean my room then go to uptown to mail my taxes and work on door dash for a bit
Her: What about you
Me: Clean my house and take my dog out and then I'm free all day it's my day off. I wanna grab that coffee with you if not today later this week.
^^ her bio stated let's grab coffee
Her:Yeah I can try to make some time today
Me: Oh OK. What time did you have in mind then?
^^ 2 things here. 1 I said "oh ok" to act nonchalant about her pushing for today even tho she said she was busy and said she would make time for me to not sound too eager even tho I was. 2 I said what time since she is occupied but is gonna make the time to see me and I don't wanna put a time out there instead just open my day and have her give me the time to increase the chances of confirming the date and lower chances of flaking since she recommended the time frame.
Her: 4 I can finish up by then
Me: Say then 4:30 we meet at the mall here next to the Barnes and nobles for coffee then.
Her: Okay
Me: Sounds like a plan text me so we have each other's numbers 555-555-5555
^^ always recommend to get off the dating app and into texting over the phone. I forget the particulars on why but I believe it's because from what I experience better communication and it puts you in a different box from guy in dating app to guy I gave my number to.
Phone text conversation;
Her: Hi it's Shorty
Me: Hi shorty, see you this afternoon
Her: See you later
Her: What is the name of the place we are meeting at??
Me: It's the Barnes and Nobles at *adress*
Her: Okay thank you I want to make sure I'm going the right place I always get lost
Me: No worries haha see you soon
Me: Just text me if you get lost on the way
Her: Okay I wil
Her: I'm at Barnes and Nobles
Me: I just got here too
Her: Awesome I'm looking at books
Me: meet me in the coffee area what are you wearing?
Her: Okay White jacket and black jeans
I was already in the store when she text me the last message. Couple seconds after I received it I saw this cute girl with a Pikachu mask walking towards the coffee shop with a phone in hand white jacket, black jeans. I told myself as she walked with those high boots this can't be my date. It made me realize why do I have to get dates online? Why can't I just man up and cold approach this would be the type of girl I would go after. I walked towards her and opened from the side behind her on her left.
Me: Shorty? lol
Hi she responded. I went for the one arm hug and she hugged me back. I am Latino so hugs for me are a good way to greet people especially if I can't kiss them on the cheek. Y'know covid and all.
So I brought up my curiosity and asked her why she needed to return her tax returns in person since everybody does them online. Small talked trying to build rapport asking about her singing with her grandpa all while I was shit nervous. I went back to module 1 on One Date and how body language is how we mostly communicate on how it has an effect on not only how a girl views or feels about you but also on how you feel about yourself. So I exposed my body arms out, hands out of pockets, pretending to have a hook in my chest to keep my back and speaking from my diaphragm all while taking deep breaths and talking in a neutral tone voice.
It worked. It calmed my nerves and helped me continue the conversation. Then came time to order our drinks. I remember reading the article on why you shouldn't pay for your date. In my culture it is super rude not to pay for your Date. Paying your Date is seen as a point of masculinity. It is the man thing to do to pay for your date. Yet I am a true believer in girlschase. It's what made me the man I am today far more than my cultural upbringing. So without hesitation I ordered my drink and when asked “is that all”? I responded with yes and walked to the side to wait for my order. As I saw her take out her dollar bills even though she had more than enough for her $4 coffee I felt like utter shit. This is something that still bothers me so I gotta shake this off.
She ordered her drink and walked towards me. We continued our conversation, got our drinks and I continued to lead us outside to sit next to each other. We were sitting next to the entrance at the mall near the bookstore where there were some side rock seats that would put us next to each with nothing in between us all while simatoustly letting us face each other. Couldn't ask for a better seat especially knowing the benefits in having no physical barrier and being so close to her.
I take off my mask and start to drink my tea. This is where she takes her mask off… Now at this point I kinda knew what she looked like but y'know how girls tend to manipulate photos online and put on filters so when I saw her in person there's nothing altering it besides her makeup. I looked at her, personal 7 out of 10 for me. Prettiest face on a girl I've ever been on a date with.
We continue to talk at which point I start asking for more compliance as we were building similarities between our broken past. (My family issues and the fact that she's adopted) surprisingly besides our hard upbringing which may be the reason why I'm attracted to more edgy broken girls in a way, we had a lot in common in terms of viewpoints of life and her opinions and ideas of death. I know, I know what heck are you talking about. Some deep stuff baby some deep stuff.
This is where things turn. My confidence is skyrocketing and her shyness and feminine energy starting to come out. She can't even keep straight eye contact with me in which she apologies for and states she has a hard time keeping eye contact. I grab her hand and tell her to tell me about the small tatoo she has on it. She explains the tattoo. I held her hand until she pulled it away.
We continue to talk some more. I tell her we should take a walk. She agrees. As we were walking down the sidewalk she's on the side closer to the road. This is a big nono for me in terms of personal beliefs and it also works with girlschase philosophy. I have no problem grabbing both of her shoulders and moving her to the inner side of the sidewalk so I'm the one closest to the road. As a man I believe you should protect your family and your lady. The side closer to the road is the more dangerous side so why keep her there.
She thanks me for moving her closer to the inner side of the sidewalk. I explained the reason for my actions even though I didn't need to. I felt incorrectly obligated out of nervousness to tell her. We walked to the shop that was my destination all along and I had her pick me out a bracelet. On which I played a game where I took two bracelets I was considering on buying then proceeded to put them behind my back and had her choose one hand. I bought the bracelet on the hand she chose and we continue to walk now inside the mall.
I call her nervousness out again. She tells me that she is not as nervous no more. Regardless I come up with the excuse "well if you are you can just squeeze my hand" i said. I grab her hand and we interlock fingers as we continue to walk.
Let me tell you how special this moment was for me. This is the same mall where I started day game. The same mall I knew the clerks because I asked for their numbers and they shut me down. The same mall I started my seduction journey at 16. It felt so good holding this cute girl's hand down the mall. It made me feel like a king. As we finish walking the mall and we end up near the bookstore I suggest the third location. The park near where I live. She agrees to go and we take my car and drive there.
We get to the park in which at this point I am cocky. I got out of the car, put my arm around her and got her close to me. We continue to walk the park and talk more and more. She started to talk less and less but replicated my physical affection. I know it's time to take her home. I invited her for a movie. Straight yes. We get in my car and head to my condo.
When we get to my place that has a carpet floor I take off my shoes. She sits on the couch and refuses a glass of water or any sort of fruit I had available to offer and even after I stated she should make herself comfortable she keeps her shoes on. I sit next to her and start searching for the good old horror movie you look for when you're wanting to get laid. At this point I see her boots on my recently carpet cleaned floor. I don't hesitate. “It's kinda rude to have your shoes on inside” I said. She responds ok and takes them off.
Sometimes I can be very direct. It's just who I am. If only I had the confidence to be so 100 percent around "girls'' then I would be fine. I was captain of the wrestling team senior year of highschool, I fight guys on a weekly basis in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu training, I am the leader of my group and an authority figure in the vast majority parts of my life. Including the role of dad and big brother I take in my family.
Now it's just us sitting on the couch staring at a pixel screen. I get to a side of the couch that sinks down with whomever is laying on it. I grab her and have her lay with me. Now where both laid down in the sinking couch almost cuddling. Here comes the most LMR I've ever experienced in my whole short seduction career. To be fair tho I've never had such a femineme, shy, submissive and pretty girl like her in my life before. She made me freaking lead the whole entire interaction. Like a man should.
I looked at her and asked if her lipstick had a taste to it. She stated no in which I said let me see. I kissed her and held it for 4 seconds. She kinda almost just pecked kiss me. Regardless it was a kiss under 10 minutes with her being over so intentions and interested where clear. I just had to keep pushing and boy oh boy did I push. She didn't let me kiss her again for a while but I knew she liked me a lot. So I did what any man would do. I teased her by running my hand down her legs, her stomach and slowly working toward the breast that took me 6 tries before she would even let my hand get close. I teased and I teased and I teased. Eventually she did kiss me again and I kissed her neck.
For the first time I actually finished the movie I had playing in the background while having a girl over lol. Then eventually after everything I had her bra upwards exposing her breast as I was cupping and playing around with them. This is where she still resist and I start to get more aggressive. I re-organize her so I could start to try keywords being "try" to make out with her because she was only allowing me to touch her breast and not kiss her that much. I felt like things were getting closer.
Eventually they did and the big secret came out. "I've never done things on the first date." she states. Then she stated she was on her period. This is where the disconnect happens. I get super turned on when girls are on their periods, it drives me nuts. To her she viewed it as disgusting and wrong all thanks to cultural conditioning and weak ex boyfriends repelled by the sight of blood. I mean honestly how can you call yourself a man if blood scares and prevents you from having sex with a beautiful woman? I could rant about this but I'll save that for another article.
After she stated those things I knew I was golden. I picked her up from the couch and brought her to my bed and continued to push by kissing her neck. She still kept saying how she was on her period and that it's gross and wrong. I looked into her eyes and told her "it makes the perfect lubrication". Eventually I won this little game and with an adorable sigh she said fine as she got up and headed towards the bathroom to what I only assume was to take out… yknow…
When she got back only wearing underwear I told myself I did it. I laid her down and kissed her lips. This time she brought back my faith in what I think a girl can do with small lips. We truly started making out and it was great. She was holding back making out with me until this point and I didn't realize that until now. I just thought she just didnt know how to kiss. Clothes get taken off and we have sex. It was missionary the whole time as I stared into her pretty face and she moaned in Korean. Again her face to me is a 7.
I wear her out and when she says she can't no more I make myself finish. When I do, I command her to look into my eyes as I finish inside her. I stayed in there for a good 2 minutes before getting out and cuddling with her. She tells me I'm the best she's ever had. Something I'm used to being told. It's not uncommon for me and even if they don't say anything I can still tell I'm the best they've ever had. I take pride in making love to women. I actually prioritize their pleasure over mine.
I ended up seeing her again 4 days later and she actually slept over. I'm only gonna see her after this every 8-10 days unless she really makes me fall for her. I like her alot but I can tell I can so 20-40 percent better if I do day game and keep pushing in the next 4-6 months. Regardless she's a really great girl that I wanna experiment with. She makes the cut for sure.
I wanna write more on this but this is my first LR and I don't wanna get carried away with all my philosophies, theories and feelings. All feedback is appreciated on how to write better LRs I wanna start writing FRs when I go out and day game so again anything and everything helps. Thank you for reading can't wait to hear from you guys!
- Rico Leon