1.
What are you currently field testing?
In my current
SOTs, I discuss a lot of juicy stuff….one of the newer things I am discussing is non-chronological connections. This is the idea that connections or other feelings shared between you and the girl don’t always line up. Here’s a recent angle of it:
- She may be experiencing a certain type of connection towards you, while you are experiencing a different type of connection towards her. Or you have a balanced mix of different connections towards her, while she’s completely filled up on one specific type of connection
2. Why is this interesting?
- It shows deeper knowledge to girls of their feelings and problems with guys
- It broadens their perspective that people feel different ways, there is no one right type of connection, that you don’t need to be EXACTLY on the same wavelength all the time in order to have a satisfying time, especially if you frame it as good.
- It also helps me problem solve when there is a lack of calibration on my part, establishing harmony, showing an openness to working with her to make things better between us
3. What are your practical learnings so far if you should sum it quickly?
Me and a gal were really getting along. We had discussed non-chronological connection previously, and as I kept running the verbals, she turned into an extremely reactive sensual state and really started to open up towards me on a physical level, while I was still in an outwardly dominant state, normally associated with analysis, lack of feeling and empathy, and being in my head.
She got hungry as I changed her original state into a sensual state, so we went to a fast food place. Things had been picking up previously, but in the fast food place she got cold on me...starts ignoring me…doesn’t wanna be around me. I give her some space, and then re-approach her, but she gets extremely startled and cringes away from me. So I tell her ill be outside. Standing outside, I work to get into a more sensual state by grounding inward and being in the moment. When she comes out with her burger I let her know we have a non-chronological sensuality gap and that I went outside to fix my own sensuality so we could get on the same page about things. Once we have a chat about that and problem solve that, she is immediately touchy with me. And even more touchy than before. Like bumping into me constantly.
