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Beginner level question so putting it here. Have identified a sticking point that I need help getting over because it's preventing me from approaching with the necessary volume to see any success in nightgame.
Chase mentions that during daygame, it's good to mix up your times and places so that people don't start to recognize that you're out to pick up girls, and that this works because people are stuck in their routines, usually.
I don't see anywhere of how this applies to nightgame - especially since in nightgame you only have a certain window of time to really go there every week (around 9:30PM - 3:00AM) and, a limited number of venues which are large (multilevel) and have enough girls of your type (I can think of under 5). If you go in there on a Friday or Saturday, high energy, wearing your best jacket (which you wear all the time because of how much good feedback you've got from it) and you approach like a machine, even if it is to build up social proof so people know you, what happens when you start getting recognized. Won't people start recognizing you every week - including girls you've already approached? Since others generally stick to their routines and frequent the same places. So if things went badly one night, and you had bad energy, they remember you as that guy, reject you again and then now you're screwed? I have recognized the same girls at some venues now, it makes me want to fly under the radar but this doesn't work with getting the hottest girls...
I know it's an irrational belief since of course guys have success even living in small towns, but I still need help reconciling it in my mind and was wondering what others thoughts were...
Chase mentions that during daygame, it's good to mix up your times and places so that people don't start to recognize that you're out to pick up girls, and that this works because people are stuck in their routines, usually.
I don't see anywhere of how this applies to nightgame - especially since in nightgame you only have a certain window of time to really go there every week (around 9:30PM - 3:00AM) and, a limited number of venues which are large (multilevel) and have enough girls of your type (I can think of under 5). If you go in there on a Friday or Saturday, high energy, wearing your best jacket (which you wear all the time because of how much good feedback you've got from it) and you approach like a machine, even if it is to build up social proof so people know you, what happens when you start getting recognized. Won't people start recognizing you every week - including girls you've already approached? Since others generally stick to their routines and frequent the same places. So if things went badly one night, and you had bad energy, they remember you as that guy, reject you again and then now you're screwed? I have recognized the same girls at some venues now, it makes me want to fly under the radar but this doesn't work with getting the hottest girls...
I know it's an irrational belief since of course guys have success even living in small towns, but I still need help reconciling it in my mind and was wondering what others thoughts were...