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Pickup Guide I wrote for beginners

Rancorous

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Based?

I'm not saying take advantage of her, but she won't be as dismissive with you about the small things.
 
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It's a pretty good guide though. Quick, concise summary of many core concepts and techniques. Thanks for sharing doggo.
 
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@Rancorous thanks for the guide. what you said in this piece makes sense to me. i've been putting it off for a while, but i've made up my mind i'm gonna try day game. i've only approached a few women in my life but when i have it hasn't gone anywhere.

ALL the dates i've gotten were from dating apps like tinder/hinge. but these dates had too much of a platonic feel. you mentioned that one mistake a lot of guys make is that they don't sexually escalate and i'm guilty of that. me not making a move is probably the reason some of the women i've been out with lost interest.

the good news is i've managed to get several women to meet me in person. i just gotta get better at escalating/making a movie/pulling and stuff like that. and although dating apps have worked for me in the past, i don't do nearly as good nowadays as i use to--so i'm gonna have to learn how to meet women in person.

i'm gonna start with this girl at the gym i see all the time. i've been meaning to to talk to her. she even said hello to me one day.

so you've actually had women ask you advice on how to get laid? 😲
 
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Ragnar said:
@Rancorous thanks for the guide. what you said in this piece makes sense to me. i've been putting it off for a while, but i've made up my mind i'm gonna try day game. i've only approached a few women in my life but when i have it hasn't gone anywhere.

ALL the dates i've gotten were from dating apps like tinder/hinge. but these dates had too much of a platonic feel. you mentioned that one mistake a lot of guys make is that they don't sexually escalate and i'm guilty of that. me not making a move is probably the reason some of the women i've been out with lost interest.

the good news is i've managed to get several women to meet me in person. i just gotta get better at escalating/making a movie/pulling and stuff like that. and although dating apps have worked for me in the past, i don't do nearly as good nowadays as i use to--so i'm gonna have to learn how to meet women in person.

i'm gonna start with this girl at the gym i see all the time. i've been meaning to to talk to her. she even said hello to me one day.

so you've actually had women ask you advice on how to get laid? 😲
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Not in person but online yes.

I always ask them how they're dressed. How a woman dresses is an indicator as to what she's out for.

They say "oh a T-shirt and jeans." I say "you gotta dress sexy and provocative. You need to send the message that your out for sex and want to be approached and talked to."

That's why you see the ladies out in places like Manchester, Liverpool, London, Vegas, New York dressing in the super insanely short (too short) mini dress and heels with their butt and underwear showing. It's sending the message "hey I'm dressed up and want to be approached and am DTF."
 
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This is also why I really encourage and push guys to dress nicely. Women are more attracted to a guy that's dressed nicer. They look sharper and give off the vibes "hey I'm putting effort into looking nice for you ladies."

It's a mutual effort.

This is why you often see dress codes for nightclubs.

Even if there's no dress code required I still dress nice and there's ladies that still do too.
 
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^ that's interesting. i never would expect it to be difficult for women to get laid--that' shows what i know
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This is also why I really encourage and push guys to dress nicely. Women are more attracted to a guy that's dressed nicer. They look sharper and give off the vibes "hey I'm putting effort into looking nice for you ladies."

It's a mutual effort.

This is why you often see dress codes for nightclubs.

Even if there's no dress code required I still dress nice and there's ladies that still do too.
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i agree with you that dressing nicely helps. that's an area i've always slacked on. i'm not into fashion at all. and often times when i'm out i'm not dressed to impress. i'm usually wearing a t-shirt and shorts or something along those lines. i need to dress better if i'm gonna improve with the ladies.

so @Rancorous any tips/thoughts on what i should say to the girl at the gym? she comes in around the same time every day, so it won't be hard for me to talk to her. i'm hoping i can get her to agree to go bowling with me (if she's into that) and then eventually get her to accompany me to this movie i'm really looking forward to in December so I don't have to go alone.

also, i'm not putting all my eggs in one basket with this girl. i'm a part of a run club and I feel like I can ask out a girl at run club i'm just not sure how to go about doing it
 
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As usual per my guide comment about what she's doing and then introduce yourself. Make some small talk and then I'd ask "are you busy this weekend? If not I need a bowling partner." And hopefully she'd agree to be your partner. If she says "Oh sorry I have plans" or the classic and cliche "Oh I'm so sorry I have a boyfriend" ask "Are you in a serious committed relationship with him" and sometimes she'll say no.

If she does go bowling with you when you're getting close to the end of your game(s) drop the hint to go see that movie. Say "There's this movie I've been wanting to see, I'd love for you to come with and watch it with me."

The best you can do is ask and try to nudge/coerce her a bit.
 
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It's an okay guide but it's geared towards huge cities where you have a lot of volume.

There is too much info on getting the lay (a stage that is light years away for most beginners) and not enough advice on actual approaching, opening lines, when to approach, etc.

Read my recent field report if you want to see common problems for guys in the club

Plus you don't give advice on age gap approaching, since nightgame in most medium towns tends to be a younger crowd who would usually react negatively to an older creep.
 
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average_daygamer said:
It's an okay guide but it's geared towards huge cities where you have a lot of volume.

There is too much info on getting the lay (a stage that is light years away for most beginners) and not enough advice on actual approaching, opening lines, when to approach, etc.

Read my recent field report if you want to see common problems for guys in the club

Plus you don't give advice on age gap approaching, since nightgame in most medium towns tends to be a younger crowd who would usually react negatively to an older creep.
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Nightgame is essentially the same worldwide.

I don't recommend guys use "lines" as they're usually cheesy and don't work very well. Just comment about the place or something happening. This works much better I've found.

For the age there shouldn't be any problems or issues. Everyone in the venue is at least 21 or older(18 in other parts of the world). I've seen people with 20 or 25+ year age gap hookup with eachother.
 
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Also back when I was 21 I was taking home girls despite my terrible game.
I was taking them home because I was just there at the venue.

The old saying "80% of success is just showing up" is true.

I said find a woman sitting or standing alone and approach her. You'll get a better feel for who's approachable with your social intuition the more you go out.

A lot of it is just going out a lot and grinding your social skills.

Every woman and situation is different so that's why I say there's no universal lines. What one woman would find funny another might roll her eyes at you. You'll get a better feel for her aura and vibe the more you talk to her. And you'll know scary you can and can't say or get away with.
 
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